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Old 10-12-2013, 10:55 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Paranoid FTM question here...

How do you know baby is OK when carrying her on your back? I just tried a mei tai back carry two days in a row and I just have zero confidence with it.

Day one, I was alone and gave up quickly when I heard her fussing.

Day two, I used my husband's eyes to check on her every 5 mins, but still felt awkward, like I'd forgotten how to stand!

I am not planning on getting any more carrier types ( have boba wrap, boba 3G, mei tai and ring sling ) but I'd love some tips on how to boost confidence with back carries!

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I never did the back carry until after six months because of this reason. How old is your little one?

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She's 2.5 mo but has very good head control, so I thought Id give it a whirl.

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She's 2.5 mo but has very good head control, so I thought Id give it a whirl.

I know there are lots of ladies who are awesome at the back carry at that age, but I was always nervous just like you. If you really want to do it, you could get a little compact mirror so you could check on her, but if it were me I would just keep her in front for peace of mind. <3

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Little babies on the back should be carried high enough that they can lay their heads on the back of your neck. That means you should be able to feel her breath on your neck, too, which would help you be sure she was ok.

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A mei tai can be a good carrier that early, but the only back carry I will do with a tiny baby is with a woven wrap.  You got some great advice from @michelleepotter though about keeping baby high enough to feel her breath if you do decide it works for you.  

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I'm working on the same but only comfortable trying with a woven wrap and using carries with multiple passes over baby. My rationale is that if three passes are over baby then I'm highly unlikely to mess all three up and she should still be reasonably secure. I like mei tais but we're sticking with front carries with that for now.
Don't want to thread jack but any thoughts on today's attempt at a bwcc?


ETA: if you're on Facebook, the ladies on Babywearing 102 and Babywearing Love & Support are fantastic and give great tips.
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OMG Serafina. So friggin' cute!!!!!!

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Very cute!  It is hard to see leg position well with a small baby, but it looks like you have knees above bum with nicely spread passes.  I would work on getting the fabric above the knee if you can (so hard with a tiny baby) and trying to tighten the top rails to pull baby in a little closer if you want.  BWCC isn't one of my favorites, so the fact that you have it with a small baby amazes me.  I generally go for a reinforced ruck or a double hammock with a small baby- for some reason they feel more comfortable for me. I always envy people who can BWCC in comfort. :)

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I've done a back carry with a MT for pretty much all of DD3's life.  The only issue I have is putting her on.  An older baby is easier to position IMO because they're used to laying still - DD is still too small/wriggly to get on right.  Heck, she's 9 months old now and I still need help putting her on most of the time.  With DD2 I was much more comfortable with it - by about 6 months she would be easy to put on alone.  Anyway... once she's ON (like she is right now, actually!) I don't have an issue.  First - I only wear her with a thin shirt.  A sweatshirt is asking for trouble IMO - she could smush her face in it.  A thin shirt, and I can easily feel her breathing.  Not her breath - her tummy going in and out.  I adjust her with a little hop and re-tie if she starts slouching too much, but otherwise I can tell easily if she's on right - you tie it tight enough that they can't wriggle too much, and if she falls asleep and slouches down, or otherwise feels off balance, I tighten it up again.  Actually, if she's not balanced, I just take her down and re-tie completely instead of trying to adjust her already on.

 

Re: getting her up there - at this young age I only do it if I have a spotter, or if I'm home alone I'll kind of do a weird maneuver over the bed... not sure I'd recommend it though.  I tried to put her on my back in public a few times and not only did we epic fail, but we had concerned passerby come over to see if they could help.  Ha.  My other DD I was totally comfortable putting her on in public, I don't know what the difference is with this one.  She's more squirmy I think.

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I heard you can put them on your front hold the top straps in one hand and hip scoot them onto your back. Tie it higher for younger babies like right under your boobs may need to move them onto your back lower and scooch them up http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3BGgLVIVOIM
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Good tips on being able to feel her breathing. I don't know how to get it so her head is behind my neck though. She may not be tall enough yet, because I did tie it under my boobs.

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I will check out that video when I get on my laptop

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With a really tiny baby, you may even need to tie above your breasts if you have a fairly long torso.  I am short, so I can generally get away with under the breasts, but I have tried over as well and it did give me a couple extra inches of height. 

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I do not understand why anyone fusses with carrying the baby up high when on your back.  Look at native pictures of women carrying their young babies.  None of them have the baby breathing on your neck.   It makes the center of gravity so high up on your skeleton, it not ideal positioning at all.  If you are concerned about baby's head when he sleeps, they still rest their head forward on your upper back.  Even with my spine, which has little thorasic curve, babies heads would still fall asleep there.  We intellectualize carrying our young in slings when it is really very simple.

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What is the easiest carrier back carrying a toddler? My baby just turned 1, and I front carry him everyday in the Ergo. I sometimes do the back carry, but am thinking of getting a new carrier anyway, so would love suggestions. I plan to be pregnant hopefully in 2014, and hope to still be able to carry him through them at.
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I would suggest a woven wrap if you are comfortable with the learning curve.  The multitude of carries will allow you to tie over your stomach if you do become pregnant.  Otherwise a Kinderpack toddler or a wrap conversion might be a good idea.  

 

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I do not understand why anyone fusses with carrying the baby up high when on your back.  Look at native pictures of women carrying their young babies.  None of them have the baby breathing on your neck.   It makes the center of gravity so high up on your skeleton, it not ideal positioning at all.  If you are concerned about baby's head when he sleeps, they still rest their head forward on your upper back.  Even with my spine, which has little thorasic curve, babies heads would still fall asleep there.  We intellectualize carrying our young in slings when it is really very simple.



I think so much of this has to come down to individual preference.  A low back carry is very uncomfortable for me.  A high back carry is much more stable, and I can interact with baby better as well. 

 

And, it may well be quite simple, but there are still best practices because done incorrectly, babies have died being worn.  I guess most of us simply want to err on the side of caution and prevent any tragedies we can. Even very recently Infantino was selling a sling carrier that had a significant risk of positional asphyxia- and they knew there were problems. 

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I didn't do back carries until kiddo was over 6 months.  Then the length of babe was such that front carry wasn't very compact for certain household activities, so it felt more 'out of the way' to do a high back carry and let him look over my shoulder and watch what I was doing.  (Usually food prep/cooking)


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