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Guess I am too intouch with my inner child because the word cute sits fine with me
Would you want to be considered cute because you were female?
Or because of how you spoke?
Or how you dressed?

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There's a fine line between celebrating diversity and mocking another's differences. Why was using broken english in her post necessary? I didn't see anything "cute" about it.

Oh, BTW, multi username much?
It helped me to "see" her story.

Who has multi usernames? Did I miss something? :

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Is babywearing always so political?

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Would you want to be considered cute because you were female?
Or because of how you spoke?
Or how you dressed?
Sure to all of the above.....


Though I would prefer hot, sexy, or knock out!

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Wow - I decided to take refuge on the Babywearing board for a whille in order to take a break from controversies and endless arguments...
I guess I'd better go check if there are new products in the market on the Diapering forum! :LOL
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Is babywearing always so political?
No......that's what shocked the hay out of me when I went back and read the thread.

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Oh, BTW, multi username much?

Maybe I misunderstand, but if this is a reference to me and Shanon, look harder. I'm on a laptop, in bed with DS who can't sleep without me these days. DH is in the living room with his supergeek-ready, do-anything desktop.

I would certainly think that our differents styles would attest to that alone, but ah, who am I to judge?

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It helped me to "see" her story.

Who has multi usernames? Did I miss something? :
'someone' is referring to the fact that Past and myself have the same IP. That is b/c we are in the same router in the same house, on 2 seperate computers.
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Wow - I decided to take refuge on the Babywearing board for a whille in order to take a break from controversies and endless arguments...
I guess I'd better go check if there are new products in the market on the Diapering forum! :LOL
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'someone' is referring to the fact that Past and myself have the same IP. That is b/c we are in the same router in the same house, on 2 seperate computers.
How do you even know someones IP? :

Why would on even care......

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Sure to all of the above.....


Though I would prefer hot, sexy, or knock out!
We must be coming after this from two completely different places then, because I would prefer intelligent or loving, and not because of my accent or clothes, but because of who I really am.

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Sure to all of the above.....


Though I would prefer hot, sexy, or knock out!
That would be sexist b/c it insinuates that you have are a specific gender. I won't even mention eye color or hair color. We might slip and insinuate race.
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It's entirely possible to relay a story like this without emphasizing the novelty of someone's racial differences, or casting the other person in a bit part as "cute ethnic character". I know because I saw it done on this very forum.

A woman told how she was shopping in Chinatown with her baby in a new mei tai. She entered a store tended by a man who spoke very little English, and a woman who translated for him. They were surprised to see her carrier and the conversation went like this:

Man: How much did you pay for that?
Mama: About $30.
Man: See? $30 for a lifetime of happiness.

It was a lovely story, it brought tears to my eyes, and it was told with zero little racially-stereotyping cues.
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as to my last post, I could have said, "we are on two separate computers" but the picture would not have been so clear.

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That would be sexist b/c it insinuates that you have are a specific gender. I won't even mention eye color or hair color.
Um, no, it would be sexist because it would be making value statements about her based on her clothing and how "sexy" it was.

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That would be sexist b/c it insinuates that you have are a specific gender. I won't even mention eye color or hair color.
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Gee, never mentioned names, but it seems the guilty parties are rarin' to go with excuses, I mean...explanations.

I still don't see how using broken english in writing had anything to do with the story. It was racist and something that reminds me of my racist father who used to speak in broken english to the waiters at the Mexican restaurant we frequented, OY VAY!
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We must be coming after this from two completely different places then, because I would prefer intelligent or loving, and not because of my accent or clothes, but because of who I really am.
Ok....the hot, sexy, knockout thing was a joke....

It doesn't offend me if someone were to say, "Your hair color is so cute!"
"Your eyes are really cute!" "Your accent is cute" (I live in MN ya know )

Is it more meaningful when someone comments about my character.....absolutely! But that does not make the other comments offensive......it just makes them less intimant.

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How do you even know someones IP? :

Why would on even care......

I have no idea (to both questions)
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It's entirely possible to relay a story like this without emphasizing the novelty of someone's racial differences, or casting the other person in a bit part as "cute ethnic character". I know because I saw it done on this very forum.

A woman told how she was shopping in Chinatown with her baby in a new mei tai. She entered a store tended by a man who spoke very little English, and a woman who translated for him. They were surprised to see her carrier and the conversation went like this:

Man: How much did you pay for that?
Mama: About $30.
Man: See? $30 for a lifetime of happiness.

It was a lovely story, it brought tears to my eyes, and it was told with zero little racially-stereotyping cues.
I read this totally differently. The man was being portrayed as intelligent, kind and supportive. Who gives a rat's a$$ about the way she chose to portray the accent.

Also, how accurately was your conversation relayed? Was it more like:
Man: How much did you pay for that?
Mama: About $30.
Man: See? 30 dorrar for a rifetime of happayness.

Is that more accurate? Perhaps not. Either way, I am not going to be offended. The mans words were poignant and that is what was related and accepted (at least by me.)
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Ok....the hot, sexy, knockout thing was a joke....

It doesn't offend me if someone were to say, "Your hair color is so cute!"
"Your eyes are really cute!" "Your accent is cute" (I live in MN ya know )

Is it more meaningful when someone comments about my character.....absolutely! But that does not make the other comments offensive......it just makes them less intimant.
Glad to know it doesn't offend you. But people of Asian descent have shared that it the statements made here were offensive to them, and they would probably be the ones who would be in a good position to judge.

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Who gives a rat's a$$ about the way she chose to portray the accent.
Apparently some people do. Thus, the conflict. Or do their opinions not count?

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Potty Diva, now you're just rude. I have no reason to play inane login games with you guys. I have been here for quite a while, have RL friends from here who can attest to my and Shanon's legitimacy for anyone who might care, but, sheesh...you're out on a limb.

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Gee, never mentioned names, but it seems the guilty parties are rarin' to go with excuses, I mean...explanations.

I still don't see how using broken english in writing had anything to do with the story. It was racist and something that reminds me of my racist father who used to speak in broken english to the waiters at the Mexican restaurant we frequented, OY VAY!
Personal Baggage, now I see where you are coming from. You have successfully discredited yourself.
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Also, how accurately was your conversation relayed? Was it more like:
Man: How much did you pay for that?
Mama: About $30.
Man: See? 30 dorrar for a rifetime of happayness.
Tell me you did not just affect an Asian accent in some miguided attempt to be witty.

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I read this totally differently. The man was being portrayed as intelligent, kind and supportive. Who gives a rat's a$$ about the way she chose to portray the accent.

Also, how accurately was your conversation relayed? Was it more like:
Man: How much did you pay for that?
Mama: About $30.
Man: See? 30 dorrar for a rifetime of happayness.

Is that more accurate? Perhaps not. Either way, I am not going to be offended. The mans words were poignant and that is what was related and accepted (at least by me.)

Unbelievable! Now I can see that this is really going no where. We are dealing with people who see nothing wrong in making fun of, belittling, or steotyping others who are not like them. I'm reporting this to CM. This is just to much.
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OKay, a person of Asian descent was offended. If I accidentally offended someone, I would want to dialogue about it, not brush it off with an Oh but I didn't mean anything.

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as a bystander I have a question...would quotation marks have helped with the comfort level of the story? I mean, if someone says, "Gee whiz I wulda luved a big ol piece a meat for suppa" that is what that person said as verifiable by quotes. Does that make a difference to those of you who are taking offense at the broken english portrayed?

OR is the whole controversy that she enjoyed his accent?

I'm not trying to start trouble just trying to understand. In the same light, those who are offended if someone enjoys your differences be it hair color, piercings, singing, writing does that offend you? That is not asked in a snarky way--if the problem is identifying his difference and enjoying that via this story then I am trying to figure out if it is all enjoyment of differnce or identifying that is frowned upon.

Also, if it is not okay for her to post that he was asian and reference his accent what type of writing makes detailing okay? If you are a published author? Newpaper? Magazine? Blogger?

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Personal Baggage, now I see where you are coming from. You have successfully discredited yourself.
Because I can clearly see racism? Yeah, nice try.
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Glad to know it doesn't offend you. But people of Asian descent have shared that it the statements made here were offensive to them, and they would probably be the ones who would be in a good position to judge.
Again, you love to generalize! Go ahead and ask your 'people of Asian descent'...all 2.6 billion of them. You are placing YOUR opinion on a HUGE group. Generalization? I think so.
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