I just don't think we'd use either one all that often, especially early on. But if we might need it later, I do want to register for it. I'd rather get things we need then things we don't.
I just hate those big bulky strollers- the kind that the infant seats fit into first and then later you put the child directly into. It just seems impossible to navigate anywhere, and I always wonder why you would put such a teany child into such a huge contraption. But, later on, I could see using an umbrella stroller or something like that.
Any feedback or thoughts?
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As far as the stroller goes, we've used it once in 8 weeks. It's even a nice compact one that her carseat fits into, but it's just too easy to throw her in the sling and go. I got a Premaxx that holds my wallet and cell phone, diaper, burp cloth, and baby...what more do you need?
I think we'll use a stroller a little more as she gets a bit older and we can get one of those umbrella types that's way more compact than the "system" we have...
Babywearing has literally saved my ds1's health (he was in respiratory distress in the emergency room and slinging him lowered his skyrocketing heartrate, lowered his bloodpressure, raised his pulse ox and kept him out of ICU). Rather than swing your baby in a mechanical swing, why not wear your baby? The movement of your body will soothe, the sound of your heart reassure... Rather than put my baby down, I usually switch to a different position (on the back to cook, for instance). A good carrier in a proper position will allow you to wear your child all day without pain.
My swing is a life saver for my back. My ds will only take a nap in his swing or in the sling if i'm not napping with him. He is such a motion baby.
We liked our swing for the reasons everyone said--even the most devoted AP mama has to pee or shower sometime. It was good for a couple of months but he's over it now and won't stay in it very long--if we had it to do again I'd get a used one to save $$. Everyone said we *had* to have a bouncy seat and someone gave us one but ds has never liked it. On the other hand, he LOVES the Jumparoo--but you won't be able to use that for 4-5 months. We went to BRU and tried them all and picked the one he seemed most excited about.
ETA: We no longer have the swing. It was left behind when we moved.
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So, the swing- you may or may not need- depends on the baby.
The stroller you probably won't need until later.
The sling- I'd find one you like and use it from day 1.
My ds liked everything for a while.... vibrating seat, swing, and now at 12 months likes his stroller on nice days to take walks to the park.
Above all else his still loves his sling and nurse nurse!
Swing - don't own one - they're nice but not necessary, IMO. Reese does like the one at the gym daycare and takes a nap in it every time he goes there. LOL
Bouncy seat - DH and I feel like this is the very best baby "thing" we have
Stroller - nearly never use it with Reese, occasionally used it with Griff. Usually it was used as a cart for packages at the mall, not to hold a kid. Ours is a "travel system" type. I have never had a need for an umbrella stroller bc the stroller is more of a cart than a kid carrier for us.
Doorway bouncer - we very rarely use it. It was a gift, and seeing how little it has been used, I wouldn't buy one myself.
Gymini - great toy, love it, we add our own toys to it all the time
Bumbo - nifty for floor-level play with your baby so you can face them while they sit up and you play with them.
Exersaucer - don't own one, Griff never played with one anywhere, but Reese likes the one at the gym daycare.
High chair - we got it when Griff was 7 mos old and used it until he was about 2. With Reese we started using it earlier, around 4 mos, so that he could sit in it and play while we ate breakfast or dinner. Lovely for freeing up a parent's hands to eat their own food, LOL. I also sometimes put Reese in it and wheel him around the kitchen while I clean or cook.
Baby carrier of some sort (sling, mei tai, wrap, etc)...MUST HAVE!!!!
Used the sling all the time. It was the place ds#2 slept the best as a newborn.
Never really used a bouncy seat. Actually, I never used anything that you can just put your baby in and leave them there. I personally didn't want to have something like that around and start to rely on it too much, leaving my babes in a some contraption when they should be in my arms. Maybe I wouldn't have done that anyway (the babes probably wouldn't have let me!) but I didn't want the temptation! Just me.
I would definitely register for the stroller. It's a lifesaver when you go for walks or into stores once that baby gets too heavy to carry comfortably. I didn't use the stroller much for the first few months . . . although I did use it more with ds#2. I'd often sling ds#2 and stroll ds#1 to keep everyone accounted for and happy. Once baby gets bigger, s/he may like being in the stroller rather than sling (mine did/do).
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On strollers, I think if you like to exercise outdoors, a jogger or other high-quality stroller is good to have. Even the best carrier or sling is not designed for jogging or power walks, KWIM? I also had one of the universal seatless strollers that the baby seat clicks onto, which was great because it folds completely flat and takes up very little space in the car. I did not like to move my kids when they were asleep because they were all three terrible sleepers, so if they were asleep I would keep them in the seat and use the little stroller thingy if we were out, and put them in the sling when they woke up.
My daughhter had other ideas, she never cared for the seat until she was a few months older and could really play with the toys on the toy bar. She loved motion and I carried her alot but there were times I couldn't carry her ( cooking, washing dishes, eating hot food) when I needed to put her down. She loved the swing but not all babies do. You may want to wait and see whether your baby is a swing baby or not
As for the stroller, I bought a universal car seat carrier which the other mamas have mentioned. Used it the same way, kept it in the car for when my daughter fell asleep in her car seat and we didn't want to move her. Other than that I use my baby carriers. My husband and I find it easier to carry our daughter. I did buy another stroller since my daughter is about to go into a convertible car seat ( after much prodding from my mother) I bought it in August and it is still sitting in my dining room unassembled. A total waste of money for me. just my 2 cents
But the swing my youngest and oldest LOVED. The middle one hated the swing. And the bouncy seat all three loved. I would definitely add those to my list.
I had a bouncy seat - but I also had a high needs baby so that collected dust! But they are good to have and Imight get one for #2 depending on his/her personality and my dh's travel schedule. Can't have him hold the baby while I shower/cook if he's not here LOL!
Anyway - I got a great, small stroller - I have this aversion to car seats that come out of the car (baby buckets) - so I went with a Graco Citilite stroller - and for the first 18 months of ds's life DH used it (he's not into babywearing) when he had to take DS somewhere and I'd use it when I had too much to carry or was having a touched out day. Once you babywear - you'll come to dislike strolling - it's just so much less fun! But not having one is limiting if you want to try on clothes and you need a place to put the lil one, or a place for bags when you have too much to carry - and as babies get bigger they get heavy, and with teeth and long nights, sometimes you're just too tired to sling on a long walk.
I found all those things -bouncy, swing, exersaucer etc last for such a short amount of time but if people are going to buy them for you anyway - then keep the receipts and wait and see.
As for the stroller...DH asked me when DD was about 8 weeks old why we never brought "that expensive stroller" that our friends got for us. I was a nanny before we had kids, and when I discovered the sling w/DD, I realized how cumbersome the stroller really is. I told him this, but he insisted we bring the stroller on the next shopping trip to the mall. I said fine, but he pushed. DD hated it and ended up in the sling anyway, and DH ended up getting stuck behind the "slow walkers" in the mall. Never insisted on it again! That said, there are times when a more substantial stroller is really useful. Trips to the zoo when DC is bigger...airports...CHRISTMAS SHOPPING! Small, but bigger than umbrella, strollers are good for the basket in the bottom or even the seat. They are good for long trips when mommy can't carry everything, something's gotta give, and it isn't gonna be baby! The big honkers are useless, but the ones big enough for the infant car seat CAN be useful. Especially when you have two, and the toddler is too big for the sling (and you already have an infant slung anyway) and too small to walk far. Now you have "stuff" for TWO dc and the storage in the stroller is all of a sudden useful. Sooo...if you think you'll get everything, I'd register for both of them. If not, I'd skip the highchair for now and register for the stroller and swing. Highchairs can be gotten later. You could theoretically use the swing and stroller (christmas shopping...) right away. Good luck in your choices!
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I'd say that's the max we use the swing. Many days it doesn't get used at all.
My babies LOVED the swing for the first few months. I didn't buy either, and both are hand-me-downs from hand-me-downs. The bouncy seat annoyed my ds1. He wanted to be held or in the swing, or playing on the floor until he was cruising at 5 months. Then he wanted no part of the swing or bouncy seat... I expect that ds2 will follow right in ds1's footsteps with this, too.
The stroller... We got one because of dh's bad back, and knowing that when I give out from time to time, he won't be able to take him. But at this early age, dh still carries him instead. I'd get the ones that are a step up from an umbrella if I could go back and change things. I doubt we'll really use the stroller until he's old enough to support his own back, and quite a bit heavier, too.
I second the idea to keep receipts, check out what your baby likes and dislikes, if people do get you these things.
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