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#31 of 36 Old 11-21-2006, 06:48 PM
 
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Wow, so many of you have had positive comments!! I've tried saying many of the things you have all pointed out. But somehow they always come back with something negative. Like when I say "It makes her happier" they say shes manipulating me. If I say "It makes me happier too" they then say I'm obsessed with her - I mean I can't win!! I think the next elderly person who says the line "You're making a rod for your own back" I think I may actually explode. A lot of the time I don't even put buby in a sling - She reall doesn't seem to like it But every now and then I try, but most of the time I just carry her round. Slightly inconvenient but still makes her happier, and in turn makes me happier. And with co-sleeping. That makes us both a lot happier!
These are strangers, right? Then might I suggest "Do I know you? No? Then mind your own business, you know nothing about babywearing and it's clear that you're too *UA violation* to learn."
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The funniest one, though, when my nephew was 1 month, my SIL's grandmother told her that he wasnt getting enough exercise because she wore him in a Hotslings all the time.
I hear quite often that babies need to cry to clear their lungs out, that it's how they get exercise." In the US a baby's crying is measured in hours. The LLL book I read a while back, OTOH, says that in some babywearing /
breastfeeding cultures the infants cry an average of 30 seconds at a time.

Maybe she's not spending enough time crying that she's not "getting her exercise" ?

When your infant grows up unable to speak above a whisper or woefully underdeveloped due to his/her not having the opportunity to go into total meltdown, let me know. Until then, I think I'll just keep doing what my instincts tell me to do.
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When your infant grows up unable to speak above a whisper or woefully underdeveloped due to his/her not having the opportunity to go into total meltdown, let me know. Until then, I think I'll just keep doing what my instincts tell me to do.
So true. And in all honesty I'd rather have a quiet "whispering" happy child, than a loud unhappy one, KWIM?

Some of these people are strangers, some are friends - Or family of close friends. I think I'll stick with sapphire_chans suggestion: "Do I know you? No? Then mind your own business, you know nothing about babywearing and it's clear that you're too *UA violation* to learn."
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First of all don't ever feel like you should have to make excuses for doing what is best for your baby I am constantly finding myself defending my choice to wear and co-sleep.

My mother is always telling me that I spoil my DS, and I need to put him down or he will never learn to crawl! lol She also reminds me that she would never have let any of us sleep in her bed b/c of what it would have done to her sex life?? No imagination, or spontaneity I guess
The funny thing is that in the same breath she comments on what a good calm, quiet baby he is. Go figure.

My feeling is this. I don't think God (or whatever your belief is) gave us little ones to carry and keep safe and warm in our wombs for nine months- to later throw them in a crib that resembles a cage with no body warmth or heart beat, and push them around in a cold stroller as if they were a germ on parade. There is a reason why our babies love to be close and warm-b/c it is the way God & nature intended it

Here is a link to some great babywearing articles written by a doctors. They go over some great points and scientific advantages. Maybe it will help you give them something to think about.

http://www.didymos.de/english/index_e.htm
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I think it's kind of funny, I hear all of these stories about woman who get all these rude comments, people that stop them on the street, etc to tell them wacky things about wearing a sling. I've never had this happen . I mean, sure, the random person here and there asking where I got it or something....maybe I just don't notice or people don't want to talk to me I've only had little comments on a nice note
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Babies don't last long. Soon enough I'll be chasing her.

Holding your baby instills a strong sense of trust in you and the world at large.

They fuss less if held more.

No, they aren't that heavy.

Spoil a baby? Only milk spoils.

Is this true! I was just looking at my 2 boys and thinking how big they are!
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