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#1 of 28 Old 05-11-2007, 10:48 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Yes, someone actually said that to me yesterday when I was carrying my 17lb, 10 month old in a Moby. A man walked past us, rolled his eyes and said, "you need to buy a stroller, that's ridiculous carrying her around in that thing, she's too big".........I said nothing and walked past wishing I had been carrying my 4 year old instead!!!


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He was jealous. I still carry my 25 lb 11 month old in my carrier. I want a wrap, but I dont know how to use it, and I am afraid that I will drop him out of one after I have wrapped it wrong.

Again, the guy was jealous. I hope that you continue to proudly and fearlessly carry your babe in your moby wrap. HAPPY MOTHER's DAY.

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PS: You must be doing something awesome if its getting that much attention. I bet that that guy's legs hurt and he wanted to get in the wrap... and all that he could do was insult you, because of his envy

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To rude people who make stupid comments.

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When is carrying a 10 month old ridiculous? Sheeesh. I carry my 30 lb toddler everywhere. EVERYWHERE. And I don't even have an actual carrier, he's just resting on my big fat 7 month pregnant tummy. Double dog dare someone to tell me that's ridiculous!
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"It's a lot easier to wear her than lug around the huge, heavy, bulky, awkward car seat bucket."

or the all-encompassing and hard to argue with:

"This works for us" or "She loves it! And so do I! Hands free!"
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A man walked past us, rolled his eyes and said, "you need to buy a stroller, that's ridiculous carrying her around in that thing, she's too big
A stranger? I think "Did I ask you?" : would just fall out of my mouth!

How strange that he would comment at all.
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Maybe you should have said "you're not walking so well yourself, you ought to get a wheelchair"

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Those are the moments where I break out the "hmmm, that's funny, I don't remember asking for your opinion." I've had to use that on 2 people, and it absolutely stops them in their tracks.
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yeah, I was dumbfounded and really couldn't think of anything to say. I've never had anyone make anything but good comments about any of my carriers (I'm a bit of a carrier freak, and I have tons)!!

I still carry my almost 4 year old in both my sling and my Moby....I wonder what he would have had to say about that???!!!
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What's ridiculous is a complete stranger making such a stupid comment! :
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I agree with pp's. It would have just slipped out~ "Did I ask for your opinion? Wow, mind your own business!" What a jerk.
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What's ridiculous is a complete stranger making such a stupid comment! :
My thoughts exactly! Some people have no class.

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I'm sorry you were the victim of drive-by parenting! Ppphtthththt on him. He's probably just jealous because he never got held as baby.

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EXACTLY! I like pp's response-- My response would be "Don't take out your aggressions for your mom on me!" I've used that when people rudely comment when we're NIP. Or even something like, "Your poor kids!"
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how 'bout " if i want bad parenting advice , i'll ask your mother" , ooohhh rude people tick me off!
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Maybe you should have said "you're not walking so well yourself, you ought to get a wheelchair"
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depending on my mood, i may have kicked him in the shins...i HATE when people look at me funny for babywearing! i have had old ladies shake their heads when i am putting ds in a hotsling, and other people look at me crazy like: where is your stroller? andi live in a super crunchy area, so i can imagine what its like in other places. i went to target a few weeks ago and i was THE ONLY MOMMY WEARING HER BABY. and there were about a million mommies there, with brand new newborns strapped to the cart in their carseats. i saw a man in the waiting room at my doctor whose newborn was crying so hard, and he just kept rocking the carseat and trying to stick a pacifier in her mouth. THAT IS RIDICULOUS! i just wanted to run over and pick her up and cuddle her, because i bet that is all she wanted. people are weird. but i don't say anything to them for what they are doing! why do people think that they can just say things like that....okay, rant over!
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Maybe you should have said "you're not walking so well yourself, you ought to get a wheelchair"
Sorry to be off-topic, but this just sort of struck me as the sort of offhand comment about wheelchairs that kind of constitutes casual, normalized disablism. I know you didn't mean it that way, and I'm not even so sure why it bothers me so much, but it's sort of the fact that the snappy comeback/insult in the statement lies in implying that the man should be in a wheelchair, which sort of makes a wheelchair=insult connection.

There are wheelchair-using mamas on MDC... I'm not trying to be oversensitive, but I do think disablism passes much more easily on this forum than, for instance, racism or sexism, and it is a pretty prevalent societal problem.

That said, that guy needs to shut his mouth! That comment of his really steamed me : .
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what a dork (is that alright to say?)...

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I always give "the look" and say

"Do I know you?" while looking repulsed and dismissive.....

it's an art
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I was at a big, noisy, overcrowded graduation party last night with my boys. My toddler would run off and play for a bit, then come back to me and "up up up Mummy UP ME", and I'd hoist him up, hold him until he was happy again, and off he'd go. I got a LOT of looks, and a few people said "wow he's heavy, you should just put him down". He's my BABY. And he didn't know anybody but me and a few other random people. :

You'd love to hear twhat I said when they all asked "is your next baby a boy too, or did you get lucky and have a girl this time?" Grrrrrr.
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Uh, so rude and ignorant. My mom always tells me that my carriers are ridiculous and embarrassing

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I heard all kinds of fun comments from a teen mother who had her child in one of those carseats that is a stroller too. I love the look of shock when they see the little feet sticking out and realize that "there's a baby in there!?"
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I wonder... how do they think people got their pre-walkers around before they invented buggies?! Prams were a Victorian invention.

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how 'bout " if i want bad parenting advice , i'll ask your mother" , ooohhh rude people tick me off!

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Put on a big smile and say, "Thank you sooo much for the advice! I don't know how I've managed all this time without it!"
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how 'bout " if i want bad parenting advice , i'll ask your mother" , ooohhh rude people tick me off!
Wow, this totally cracked me up.

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hate when rude people decide to open their mouths and try to pass off their advice, (which, not to be too kind, but I have found most often they are of the decidedly NON-babywearing generation - that said - it doesn't make it okay, but I understand where it comes from).
When anyone says anything to me I do one of two things, depending on my mood. If it's said in a sincere, I'm-trying-to be-helpful way, I smile, and say "Thanks for the advice, but as you can see, we're both happy with our way.", or I look them up and down, and say "Oh really? What are these new-fangled "strollers" you speak of? I've never heard of them.", and then I walk off.

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That would be a time to break out the "We don't *do*....." as in:

Why don't you just pump so you can give her a bottle while you're out?
No way - we don't *do* bottles.

Why don't you use a stroller?
We don't *do* strollers - highly inconvenient things!

You use cloth diapers? Isn't that a lot of work?
We don't *do* disposables - why would I when my washing machine works?

That's not to say that I stick to my statements 100%.....because I *do* occasionally use an umbrella stroller or a 'sposie dipe. But strangers don't need to know that, especially when making uninvited comments!
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