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What is the most popular comment you receive from strangers when you babywear?

The ones I get seem to be along the lines of:
  • "I wish I had someone who could carry me like that." (This one is my favorite, btw.)
  • "Best seat in the house."
  • "What a way to travel!"
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Oddly, I hear a lot of "your hands are full!!!" comments while babywearing.

Um, no...hands NOT being full is one nice benefit of babywearing. Duh.

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The ones I get seem to be along the lines of:
  • "I wish I had someone who could carry me like that." (This one is my favorite, btw.)
  • "Best seat in the house."
  • "What a way to travel!"
Those for me, too. The number one response I get is "oh, they didn't have 'those' when my kids were little." It's kind of the BW equivilant of "we had to *walk* to school, in the snow, uphill both ways" kind of thing It's funny to me because babywearing is so ancient, literally prehistoric from what I can research...I haven't found a good reply yet.
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Those for me, too. The number one response I get is "oh, they didn't have 'those' when my kids were little."
I get that a lot too, also:

"I'll bet he likes that, being close to mom all the time" Like it's news hehe, good to know they're realizing it though! And that strollers and bucket seats aren't the only options.
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First I get the:

That is sooo cute, doesn't it hurt though (DS is 22 lbs)

Then comes the:

I wish they made those when I was little.

And then the:

I had one myself BUT MY DS/DD DIDN'T LIKE IT....(I still don't believe it, since every baby in my playgroup just LOOOVES the Slings, MT, MW etc)

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I had a woman chase me down in Whole Foods today to ask me about my Mei Tai--she was already a babywearer, though, so it was more about technique and equipment, KWIM? But I get so many positive responses from people. Especially when Lu is zonked out on my back while I get to grocery shop in peace! "She looks so happy" or "She looks so comfortable" are the ones I get the most. (That, and compliments on the pretty floral pattern of my MT!)

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I got, "Oh, you have a baby in there! I thought it was a purse!" (Pouch type carrier)

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I got, "Oh, you have a baby in there! I thought it was a purse!" (Pouch type carrier)
One elderly woman chased me and my friend down one day and asked me "Does he (DS) actually have feet???" and she went to pull one side of the pouch to see if there are feet on him but DS had slobbered all over it so she didn't want to touch and just looked in my friend's pouch if her baby girl had feet...

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DD is only 3 weeks old so i haven't been out with her much (didn't wear DD1..) but was grocery shopping and a little girl around 3 who was with her mama pointed out my tattoos to her mama and mama then pointed out the wrap to the little girl (she also had a girl around 6 and one around 2 with her) "yeah she has tattoos.. and look she has a baby in that sling too." followed by, directed at me "i wasn't able to wear any of them, these two didn't like it and this one was just too big." she was sweet tho.
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DD is only 3 weeks old so i haven't been out with her much (didn't wear DD1..) but was grocery shopping and a little girl around 3 who was with her mama pointed out my tattoos to her mama and mama then pointed out the wrap to the little girl (she also had a girl around 6 and one around 2 with her) "yeah she has tattoos.. and look she has a baby in that sling too." followed by, directed at me "i wasn't able to wear any of them, these two didn't like it and this one was just too big." she was sweet tho.

Hear that all the time. Or sometimes I get a real cute "Mommyyyyy look at the baby...that girl is carrying the baby....mooooommmyyyy loooooook"

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I haven't been BWing for long, but the two occasions where I've worn DS in public, I've been accosted by rude people:

(1) Wearing him in my MT with the shoulder straps tied around his bottom, legs out the bottom, the bagger at the grocery store started freaking out, yanking on the straps and telling me "they're too tight, you're cutting off his circulation" (well duh, when you yank on one side, it tightens the other side and cuts off the circulation. ). His feet were warm, movable, pink, and he was zonked in the carrier. Go figure...

(2) Wearing him in the MT facing out (supporting his head) in Target when he was 6 weeks old, a lady starts shrieking at me in the checkout that he was too young to be carried that way and I was going to break his neck.

Hopefully it will get better...
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I usually get,

" Oh my goodness how neat, what a good idea that is"
" Awww, that's cute"

Thankfully I've never had anything but positive comments.
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I bw ds #1 until he was 3 and almost 40lbs. I bw ds#2 now and feel almost naked when I'm not wearing him while outside of the house.

I get a lot of questions about whichever sling or carrier I am using, I think hotslings should let me work for a commission!
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I bw ds #1 until he was 3 and almost 40lbs. I bw ds#2 now and feel almost naked when I'm not wearing him while outside of the house.

I get a lot of questions about whichever sling or carrier I am using, I think hotslings should let me work for a commission!
LOL. DH had surgery a couple of weeks ago and I was at the hospital with a very happy DS all day. I had three people write down www.hotslings.com and at least five more asking me where you can get that "THING".

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"Where did you buy that?"

"Wow, your hands are full!" (could be related to having 5 boys in tow....)

From the same person, different times... "Isn't he too big to be carried like that?" and "Doesn't that hurt your back?"... I always want to say, "Well, it's lots easier than with only one arm... duh"

My favorite.... "Awww... he's so cute in there!" :
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I get all of those and then some:

1. He must be outgrowing that thing soon. MMM No it can hold about 35lbs and so can I.

2. You must have to go to school to learn that... mmm no it's called mothering.

3. Don't you love those new fangled baby holders. Yes, I love them, bu they are 1,000's of years old we were modernized in the US to try them.

4. My friend from Peru cannot understand why slings and wraps are so trendy. She said they are so everyday there why do people make a big deal and charge a fortune for them?

5.Are you sure he's comfortable in that??

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¨That is so cool¨

¨Wow...I need one of those, where did you get that¨

¨How does she stay in there...is she strapped in?¨

¨Will you put that poor child in her stroller? We do not live in rural Africa...are you going to start carrying your groceries on your head next? People are staring at you. ¨ (that would be my mother)
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¨Will you put that poor child in her stroller? We do not live in rural Africa...are you going to start carrying your groceries on your head next? People are staring at you. ¨ (that would be my mother)
Ah, yes...the assumption that our children would be happier sitting in a stroller, unable to see mom and unable to block over stimulation would be soooo much better than being held close to mama's body.

My MIL has a similar opinion, although she was so not an AP mom so she has an opinion about EVERYTHING I do with my kids! She's coming around a little since we're on baby #2. I think she has figured out that I do things my way regardless of approval by family and she see's ds #1 who has turned out to be such a sweet boy I was obviously doing something right!
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I use to get the "how cute", "where did you get that", "he looks so comfortable/happy". Now that he is over 3 years and almost 40 lbs. all I get is "that must hurt/be really uncomfortable". *sigh*
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Ah, yes...the assumption that our children would be happier sitting in a stroller, unable to see mom and unable to block over stimulation would be soooo much better than being held close to mama's body.

My MIL has a similar opinion, although she was so not an AP mom so she has an opinion about EVERYTHING I do with my kids! She's coming around a little since we're on baby #2. I think she has figured out that I do things my way regardless of approval by family and she see's ds #1 who has turned out to be such a sweet boy I was obviously doing something right!
I guess because in her pouch she is so snug against me, but she seems so happy. Whenever she is in there she is all smiles and loves interacting with people on ¨my level¨ In the stroller all she does is try to stand up and turn around. The only time itś really useful right now to me is when we are out for a long period of time and she is extremely tired and sleeps in it. And honestly I cant remember when that was. She also falls asleep when shes being worn.

It´s funny because any negative comments I´ve gotten (rare) have been by people that tell my we are more ¨advanced¨ and don´t need something so ¨old timey¨ like a sling. We don´t live in one of those poor countries where women have to use them (rolling eyes)

And any postive comments are people that are like ¨wow...where did you get that?¨ Like they are this new trendy thing.
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i had one guy say to me at the library 'hey...did you know you have a baby on your back!'

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