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Old 09-19-2007, 04:32 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi moms,

I am really struggling to wear my baby while doing household chores and other tasks. I was inspired to buy two different carriers with the hopes of being able to wear my baby and improve my efficiency, based on the success stories I'd heard of moms doing dishes, etc while wearing the baby.

I find bending, lifting, concentrating, etc is challenging when my baby is attached. I love wearing my babe other times, like for walks, etc, but not for household chores.

My baby doesn't enjoy it either and wants to get down, squiggles, cries, etc. Any tips? Have you been able to wear your baby and get things done?

Maybe my baby just prefers less close contact???

Edited to add: I wanted to add that I am wearing the carriers correctly and they are adjusted properly. I went to a professional to get fitted and I've also attended a few classes.
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I am slightly having the same problem... I've heard back wearing is better but I'm afraid to try it with my 4 month old.
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When my baby was smaller, she prefered to be worn. It was heaven when I could finally put her on my back. It really is easier to get things done when they are on your back and it is more comfortable for longer periods. Now that she can crawl, she really prefers to be on the floor "practicing". So I try to do my chores then. I do still wear her for shopping and walks etc. Sorry not too much help, but maybe it is the carrier that you chose. Maybe you need something else, like a wrap instead of a mei tai or a ring sling instead of a pouch.
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My son is 4mo and I wear him on my back in the Ergo carrier. He LOVES to be back there while I do chores. He is a big 4mo but has great neck muscles so I felt comfortable putting him there. It is really difficult to do chores with him on the front, its like still being pregnant.

I love my pouch sling but can't do chores with ds in there. I feel like I have more movement with the more structured ergo and having on my back lets me get more things done.
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DS doesn't like anything he can't be upright in, and he doesn't like when I lean over when he is on my front...check out my thread on how to use a wrap for back carries...I was given some awesome advice and I think this will help a lot! Also-- wraps are not expensive - I have baught 5 yards of material, put rubber bands on the ends and it has worked fine! There is usually fabric on sale for like $2/yd!!!!!!!
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Ha! I was coming here to post the same question. My 4 mo DD wants to be held all the time pretty much, which I don't mind, but it's not much good for getting stuff done around the house. It's really hard to cook, too. I end up waiting until DH is home and can hold her. I have a Mei Tai and RS, both of I use lots when we go shopping/walking, etc. And a Snugli (too may clips argh!). But unless she's moving or close to falling asleep, it's just work to try wearing her. *sigh*

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how old is the baby
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back carries are definitely easier - especially for things like laundry, dishes, cooking.

i always found it was important to walk around a little first before standing still for any length of time, so they'd get comfy in there and settled in. if i just tried to toss them on my back and start cooking, it often back-fired. i have also perfected a gentle sway while cooking and washing dishes so that there is *some* movement even if i'm doing something that requires basically standing still. that definitely helps too.
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I cannot wear my baby to do many chores either as it hurts my back to bend over and such with her on me. Might be better on my back but at 14 weeks she is too small for that. Mine loves to wiggle on the floor so I can put her down and get some chores done. She will also sit in her bouncy if it is right in front of me while I am vacuuming or unloading dishwasher. I wear her for many naps (like now) so I cannot use nap time to do much but return phone calls and do bookkeeping.
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I was having the same problem. I just decided to put off cleaning untill ds is old enough to play on the floor and crawl around. Then I will also be forced to clean up all the junk on the floor thats coming up in the next few weeks or days, ah.

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OMgoodness, RileysmamaNM! That's pretty much what I've been doing for the last 4 mos! I did have our Bible study group over so I forced myself to clean the living room and get the table cleared and hopefully prevent it being a catchall. I've just been pleased that I've had the clothes clean regularly. I looove my new washer! And that we don't eat a lot of premade, boxed food. As for the rest, sigh, someday. . .

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I just started to put my 5 month old on my back. She fusses when she first gets in there because it's different, but after a few minutes she is (most of the time) sacked out! This is definitely the way to go to get some work done around the house. I just wish I felt more comfortable putting her on my back myself. I have a BH, is it more supportive or easier with a wrap?! And sometimes my BH pinches some sort of nerve in my left arm and it starts to fall asleep!
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I thought I'd link this in case any of you subbed, I did, and happened to find this, the links for showing how to get in a back carry are twoard the end, but bolded.
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=784676

How are chores and BWing going for you all?

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I have a 7 weeks old and was wearing him on my back with a wrap from week 2. The trick is to get them up there when the baby is sleeping...they fuss less then. Just today I put him on my back with a mei tai, I think it's even more comfortable than doing it with a wrap. I saw that one of the mei tai's has a feature that allows you to narrow the bottom so newborns can hang their legs out (which I think makes the back-carry safe for this age). I just tied a string around mine to make it narrower, good enough for the short run.

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I have a 7 weeks old and was wearing him on my back with a wrap from week 2. The trick is to get them up there when the baby is sleeping...they fuss less then. Just today I put him on my back with a mei tai, I think it's even more comfortable than doing it with a wrap. I saw that one of the mei tai's has a feature that allows you to narrow the bottom so newborns can hang their legs out (which I think makes the back-carry safe for this age). I just tied a string around mine to make it narrower, good enough for the short run.
Excellent! Good for you for testing different carriers and commiting to babywear your newborn! Good luck!

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Well, there is no reason why you shouldnt wear a baby on your back even at 1 month!

Quirky started at 2 weeks, I started at 3 weeks...I personally woudlnt even bother attempting any household anything w/ a child on my front. Back carries esp for housework is much more "natural" and makes more sense. you rarely see African mamas who r drawing water or working in a field do a front carry...now do you?

2 shouldered carriers w/ a young babe are def easier for housecleaning when you have to bend down alot.
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Well, there is no reason why you shouldnt wear a baby on your back even at 1 month!
Up to what ages did you still carry? Very curious...

I've seen a few mothers carry their four year olds (back carry, with a well positioned carrier).

That is impressive.
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My almost 2 yo is the size of a 3. Kid you not he looks like a preschooler. But I carry him all the time, in a RS on the hip (and sometimes front), in a pouch, in a Beco, in a Mei Tai (my most recent love, yeah, I'm going backwards).

I'm wondering why so many ppl are "bending over?" You should be squatting to reach a lower drawer or something. It's a killer workout for your quads. But babies seem to like that stimulation.

Spring Flower,
what type of carrier are you using?
And how old is the baby? Maybe the baby is getting curious about what you're doing?
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My babies both loved being worn, but when they wanted interaction, they were not happy being worn. There is no easy answer to getting your chores done with a baby or child present LOL! I found bwing during chores to be most helpful when my babies were napping, but needed mama's constant presence there to stay asleep. That's when they would go on my back to sleep, and I would get chores done.

If your baby is at the age where they want your attention more than just your presence, I would recommend really getting involved with them for the time being. My kids would get their fill in usually less than an hour, and then be happy to take a nap or chill time in the wrap. Sometimes chill time involved putting on some music and dancing and singing a bit with the wrapped babe while I did chores, in order to keep us both happy. It's helped in that both kids now have an understanding of how a family works, that sometimes we'll take time to play together, but then the time will come to stop and do chores. I'm not saying there aren't occasional tantrums when the playtime stops, but dh and I think it's important for the kids to learn this give-and-take...
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heehee..just chiming in as one who back carried from 1 week. If it wasn't for back carries I would get nothing done with 13week dd....(nak)
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I wore DD in the front or on the hip and just got by as best I could until recently. It's not always easy, but at least it's POSSIBLE, KWIM? And some things just had to wait until daddy had her, or if she'd nap on the floor, or sit in the high chair and play, etc.

With a baby, baby comes first, chores can wait.

I tried and tried and tried to get her on my back with a wrap but in vain. I think there's a physiological obstacle with the shape of my back and the length of my arms that just makes it impossible compared to most mums!! And yes, I read tons of advice (participated in several threads at TBW), watched tons of videos, tried different wraps, different carries, etc. Just NO DICE.

A couple weeks ago I decided I HAD to get her on my back and invested in a MT. Hallelujah! I can do the laundry! I can cook!

I still prefer the pouch for out and about, but the MT is perfect for at home on my back.

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