Ok, there is a difference here.
DO NOT wake a sleeping baby so your relatives can play/overstimulate him/her.
DO wake a sleeping baby to nurse! My daughter was 5 days old and because she was a premie (who has spent 4 days in NICU), the pediatrician freaked out when I told her that she slept for 6 hours! Her body temperature had dropped to like 94 (from the normal 99) and she was dehydrated.
Newborns need to be next to mom because they cannot yet regulate body temerature. That's why slings are ideal for them! You can have that precious little baby using his/her energy to make more neural connections and a bigger brain or you can have them spending it on temperature regulation.
Newborns are sometimes too weak to wake up from sleeping to eat! By putting your baby to breast, you are not even "bothering" him/her. They will usually nurse 1 side for 10 minutes and then fall back asleep. Of course this means they will nurse every 2 hours, not 4.
If you are lucky enough to get an alert, pert baby who nurses both sides, then you'll go 3 1/2 to 4 hours between feedings.
To get more sleep, try co-sleeping. It takes a bit of getting used to but know that it's normal in 80% of the world for the baby to sleep in the bed with the parents.
By co-sleeping, you just help baby latch on and you both drift off back to sleep together. My daughter slept for 6 to 8 hours at a time at 8 weeks using this co-sleeping method. Nobody ever woke up all the way and it helped a lot since I returned to work.
My bottle friends were amazed that she (we) slept through the night so soon!
If you are not comfortable with sleeping in the same bed (which I recomend having at least a Queen sized for - but King is ideal), you can get a "side car" like the "Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper" Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper Site
available at Babues R Us stores Mini Co-Sleeper
and through Amazon.com Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper at Babies R Us
. You can probably find a good used one for half that on eBay (search for co-sleeper, Arm Reach and Arms Reach). It turns into a play pen and changing table, but is MUCH sturdier than a Graco. This sucker is made out of heavy duty welded steel ubing and weighs
I encourage you to looking into co-sleeping arangement for your family. My husband now sewars by it ands thinks it cruel and mean for babies to be put out in the cold, by themselves "so the wolves can eat them".
If your mother is going to be judgemental, don't tell her. We had a nursery set up at our house with a crib and everything. It's where our daughter stayed for her daily naps. Your mother will come over and assume that's where the baby stays (especially if you don't have a bassinet in your bedroom).