Sorry this will be really short for now. Can you go above the manager? It sounds like you tried with him and now need to go up the ladder. I'm not sure any more time spent talking to the manager will help.
I'm angry that this happened to you, and proud that you didn't back down.
Good luck, stay strong and please keep us informed!
Also, there is a national body that follows incidents like this - they may be interested in hearing from you. Sorry I don't know the name but someone here will.
This is the law in CO, as far as I can tell ... "A mother may breast-feed in any place she has a right to be."
What I need to know is:
Can a business legally insist that a bf mom move to another room? It is discrimination to say a bf mom has to use the bathroom, but a bottle feeding mom can do so openly, right?
Seems to me that under CO law, no, they cannot insist you move (but not because it is discrimination, just simply because you have the right to be there and bf).
Can they ask a mom to cover? Which is ridiculous to expect for soooo many reasons I'm sure you all can come up with on your own . . .
Can't see how they have that right.
Is it harassment for the manager to confront me as he did? Or is it just rude? Does he have the right to approach me like that? Or is what he did illegal?
I think it would have been illegal if he had actually made you leave. But he should not have done what he did.
Who runs the pool? (City? County?) I might suggest going to the supervisor for that entire department (so parks and rec?), and then also checking out the city/county government to see if they have a health policy point person who would have breastfeeding under her purview. I would write a letter cc'ing both of those people. A 19 year old pool manager probably doesn't have much power to set training policy, so I would target the people who DO have that power. They may also be sympathetic to your position--sometimes it takes a call/letter from a member of the public to give a bfing advocate in a govt position some impetus to push her goals (because her supervisors can see their is a real need for it).
And I think this is the organization that PatioGardener was referring to: http://www.firstright.org/
This is the unfortunate thing about laws with no enforcement clause. It's against the law for them to make you go somewhere else, so you were within your rights to refuse to go, but there is no penalty in the law for him trying to get you to leave. You might still be able to have recourse as a civil matter (i.e., by suing him), but you'd have to talk to a lawyer.
I am meeting with the City Parks and Rec supervisor tomorrow @ 11:30; I have no intention of talking to the pool manager about this issue any further--that's up to his superiors at this point. I want to prepare for our meeting tomorrow with the intention of amending the Parks and Rec employee training policies in a way that will appropriately handle this.
As far as county health person . . . that's a good idea. I actually work in breastfeeding for the county health department (through WIC). AS far as I know, in my county, there is not another person who is in charge of county health concerning breastfeeding besides WIC? I will ask my WIC co-workders, though. I am not in management (just in peer counseling), so I'm not sure what the county's protocol is for who to talk to about setting city/county/state policies. I am meeting with my supervisor for something else on Thursday and wanted to talk to her about this anyways, but I don't think I will be able to get much of her time today in refernece to this situation--It will be me and my doula/activist friend (who addressed the manager at the pool) tomorrow.
Thank you for your responses.
How did it go?
Congratulations! I didn't have time to read all the links yet, but the ones I did were nicely reported and you came across as calm and rational. Just the kind of PR breastfeeding Mamas need! A great educational opportunity for the community! Thanks for doing this.
And, OT but I just have to add, your baby is gorgeous!
So sorry not got time to look at any links, but I just wanted to say a big WELL DONE! for standing your ground and taking this further. It can't have been a pleasant experience for you, and it's just brilliant that you are pushing for education and for the rights of nursing mums and babes (which you shouldn't have to do, because they are already encoded in law, but sadly the situation is what it is) - and doing it so rationally.
Hi just read all the stuff on your friend's blog and have posted it on my facebook!! Love that picture of you both - too cute the two of you!!