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Old 05-15-2012, 10:20 AM
 
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I work with a number of young women, many of whom have young children or are currently pregnant. It amazes me how many don't even consider breastfeeding or tried it for 2-3 days and decided it was too hard. All of them say they didn't have enough milk. When I try and offer suggestions or help, then I am being pushy. I worked full time and breastfed three children. It can be done, but sadly most don't want to do it. They think bottlefeeding is easier. I have to bite my tounge when they complain about the cost of formula.

 

Covers like this one only reinforce their beliefs that it's not for them- because they can't see themselves BFing a toddler.

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This cover DOES cause mommy wars! I read this article at my mother-in-laws house yesterday (on mother's day) and people there were calling it "Disgusting" (1 man and 1 woman)....  which sort of set me off. All the feelings started coming to the surface. (I breastfeed my son at their houses, but I stay in a corner of the room not drawing attention or showing skin) So not only did my sister in law say it was disgusting but she says that women who breastfeed should go in the bathroom to do it. I asked her "would YOU eat in a bathroom?" (no answer) I said "I am not sitting in a bathroom to feed my child. How sad is it that we have so sexualized our breasts that the thought of a child sucking on it is now "disgusting" ?" That is what breasts are for! The irony here is that this same woman who called this "disgusting" was fine with having her newborn infant son strapped down and having a piece of his penis cut off.....  now that is "Disgusting" to me. (I should have said that to her) Mommy wars? Youbetcha, but I will defend nature with everything I've got as long as someone condemns me for doing it.

I agree that infant circumcision is disgusting.

I breastfed my kids till two and some ... only to come to MDC and be trashed by other moms saying "no babies wean that early on their own". "You must have forced them to self wean." Uh, no. In both cases we had a couple of really frantic busy summer days, my toddlers forgot to ask and I forgot to offer. Other than a tad of engorgement... we did not suffer at all.

I grew up in the south. Young, black moms do not consider breastfeeding as an option. I remember watching the hurricane Katrina coverage and a young black mom had just had a baby in the crisis and didn't have milk for the baby. She meant formula. Too bad someone didn't have the wherewithal to help her nurse. I'm sure at two days postpartum she could have had milk. I lost sleep thinking of that poor baby.
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It's AP bashing under the disguise of being AP interesting. If they'd wanted to highlight why women choose to EBF or why they choose to parent in  an AP style, they probably would have gone with a picture where mom & son are looking at each other, instead the boy looks "caught" and the mom looks like she's challenging the world. Not real pleased with all the negativity built into it. The only good news is that it's likely to make readers realize just how many moms out there ARE breastfeeding toddlers and older children. Just don't like the way it puts moms on two different sides of the fence. 


i absolutely agree. i HATE this picture because it's so far off representing what it was like to bf my 3-4 year old. i mean, really. how often do we breastfeed our children standing around and looking like that? the whole thing about attachment parenting is ATTACHMENT. not standing on chairs doing something weird. extended bfing, as a species, is totally normal for humans. the picture is not normal. if you want to talk about extended bfing, have a realistic photo. if you want to talk about attachment parenting, depict a parent/child couple who look like they're attached.


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I nursed all my children for 2 to 2 1/2 years, and I nursed them in public.

 

And I STILL think the Time magazine cover is both disgusting and disturbing.


I didn't have my little ones stand on a chair to nurse.  Weaning them was very easy and natural, because most of what they were getting by the age of 2 was cuddling--I didn't wean them from the cuddling.

 

Whoever dressed and posed that little boy to look like a macho little man and STOOD HIM ON A STOOL to stick a boob in his mouth is just sick, in my opinion. Nursing is a wondeful and beautfiul thing when done naturally.  That posed picture was not natural. Even the child looks uncomfortable.  How is the memory of that inappropriate picture going to affect him when he hits puberty?

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i absolutely agree. i HATE this picture because it's so far off representing what it was like to bf my 3-4 year old. i mean, really. how often do we breastfeed our children standing around and looking like that? the whole thing about attachment parenting is ATTACHMENT. not standing on chairs doing something weird. extended bfing, as a species, is totally normal for humans. the picture is not normal. if you want to talk about extended bfing, have a realistic photo. if you want to talk about attachment parenting, depict a parent/child couple who look like they're attached.


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  I have briefly looked around online to see what people are saying about this, and it is mostly negative. Some have actually compared it to "porn" and saying that parents like this need to be investigated because "they are nursing for their own pleasure". One lady says that attachment parenting is a "cult". (I would provide a link but that only leads to more sad debates and wasted hours) I wonder what TIME intended by this cover & article because it has not made attachment parenting more appealing, and if anything, may scare new parents away from it just by the negative abuse they see this mother receiving. 


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i absolutely agree. i HATE this picture because it's so far off representing what it was like to bf my 3-4 year old. i mean, really. how often do we breastfeed our children standing around and looking like that? the whole thing about attachment parenting is ATTACHMENT. not standing on chairs doing something weird. extended bfing, as a species, is totally normal for humans. the picture is not normal. if you want to talk about extended bfing, have a realistic photo. if you want to talk about attachment parenting, depict a parent/child couple who look like they're attached.

Yes!

And my understanding of attachment parenting is that BOTH parents are attached to the child, not just the one who lactates.
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Yes yes yes to everything about how provoking and inflammatory the picture and headline are. For mothers day this year, I'm not reading anything. I'm taking a big old break from everyone who wants to tell me how to be a mom and how not to and all the Internet pundits and media shock-jocks and I"m spending the day with my gorgeous daughter and son. I almost feel better already....

Great point!

 

I wouldn't touch this magazine issue with a ten foot pole.  It just seems so irritating.  Why can't journalism be informative? Ugh.


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I think the cover is great. I nursed 5 year old and 2 year old sons at the same time. My oldest weaned on his 6th birthday. The woman on the cover was breastfed until she was 6. Despite 56 years of La Leche League and public health messages people still don't know that babies breastfeed and that they breastfeed until they are 2, 3 or even 6 and it is good for them, their mothers, families, communities, the United States, the environment, and the world.


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I teach high school health and I projected that picture up on the big screen in my classroom. We had a tremendous discussion about extended breast feeding. Other than a couple of kids with younger siblings that were breast fed, most of the kids were horrified by the picture. However, by the end, I believe I was able to help some of them see extended breast feeding in a more positive light. Or at least, I was able to help them see that it is truly none of their business how long a mother chooses to breast feed, and that the picture on the cover of Time was just a shameless, provocative ploy to get more people to buy their magazine. Truly, most moms are cuddling the baby (or toddler) when they are nursing and it's done in a private way, if not a private setting. The mom that whips out her boob without any attempt to be discrete is really not the norm. I nursed my youngest son until he was almost three, but few people actually know that. I didn't announce it; why is it anyone's business but my own? 

 

Anyway, I think the picture stimulated a good discussion and maybe, just maybe, some kids got their minds opened a little to the benefits of breast feeding.

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I have actually heard quite a lot of support over the issue. I haven't read it myself, and didn't like the cover, but since I still nurse my 4 year old I decided to take a gander at the pics I saw online. I did see some typical ignorant reactions to extended breastfeeding, but honestly I was stunned to see anthropologists to mainstream MDs say extended nursing is natural. Made me happy!

 

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Something I felt we could all use after the TIME magazine event - a song I wrote for those moms who, like me, breastfed, and let their child or children decide when to wean (or tried to do those things, or are trying now). It's my offering of gratitude, acknowledgment, encouragement, and support.  Hope you enjoy.  ♥ to (((hugs))) to us all.

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