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Our huge, famous local children's museum - a definite tourist attraction for our city - just invested millions, re-vamping its 5-and-under wing.  I visited it for the first time yesterday, with my 5-year-old.  Overall, it was a marvelous renovation, with a significant emphasis on nature:  the decorations, playthings and even sound-effects are all nature-based, as are the two new walls of windows letting in natural light.  

 

In my mind, one thing that would be natural and obvious to that setting would be some comfortable rockers for nursing mothers, especially in the large, gated area designed for infants and toddlers.  Instead, there are 3 windowless doors in the corner of the exhibit with large, colorful signs:  "Family Restroom", "Family Restroom" and "Mothers' Room".  I know from the members' newsletter that it's a "comfortable and private" breastfeeding room.  Seriously?  Not only do they expect a mom to make her other little ones stop playing so they can all go somewhere to hide, while she nurses one of them; but the door can't even have the word "breast-" on it?  Sheesh.


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I'd LOVE to see comfy chairs to nurse in in the main play area but the room is also useful. My oldest went through a wicked distractable phase and would not nurse when other kids or exciting things were nearby. I'm not a shy breast feeding mom at all but there were a few weeks where I simply couldn't NIP the way I usually do. I'm the sort to just plop down wherever but would love the comfy chair option
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Can you make a suggestion that they add some chairs to the area as well?  I"m sure even non-breastfeeding moms would appreciate a nice place to sit.

 

I do think that most women do prefer a private space to nurse, but it would be nice to at least have the option to sit wherever you want, without being forced to hide.

 

I've been kicking myself for not going to my church's planning meetings for the new building.  I originally wanted to go to make sure they had a proper breastfeeding space, but I assumed that it would have been properly handled.  I literally gasped with shock when I entered the new bathrooms to see a little room for breastfeeding....inside the women's bathroom.  I almost left the church over that, but decided that it was partially my fault, because I never spoke my mind when opinions were sought.  

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I'm down for a nurse-in! Sometimes I appreciate a get away spot for nursing. I really resent being pushed away to nurse. I love nursing in public with #2. I like how my 6 year old is so cool with it. I can look at folks and think "see this is how big of a deal it is. Let him be your example." When nursing my first it was so hard to stay comfortable when someone else was uncomfortable.
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I'm down for a nurse-in! Sometimes I appreciate a get away spot for nursing. I really resent being pushed away to nurse. I love nursing in public with #2. I like how my 6 year old is so cool with it. I can look at folks and think "see this is how big of a deal it is. Let him be your example." When nursing my first it was so hard to stay comfortable when someone else was uncomfortable.

I, too, appreciated having someone around to set a good example for others.  

 

The Christmas that my youngest was 10 mos. old, my entire (big) family was at my house in the evening, gathered in the living room after dinner.  An old high school friend who now lives out in LA stopped by.  Just as he sat down, the baby wanted to nurse.  My mother was beside herself, insisting I go hide in the bedroom.  (OMG!  An old friend... who's seen me in a bikini... might see part of my breast while I was nursing - IN FRONT OF MY HUSBAND!  She didn't actually say that, but we all knew that's what she was thinking.)  My favorite part of Christmas is that sitting around talking, in front of the fire, after dinner.  The baby wanted to go to sleep, which might take a long time (with or without people around...all he cared about was my breasts).  I didn't want my friend to be gone, by the time I came out of the bedroom.  Nor did I want everyone uncomfortable, because my mother wouldn't calm down.

 

He said very firmly, "It doesn't make me uncomfortable at all, for you to feed your child."  Which - amazingly - was simple enough to shut down my mother.  Had he gone further and said, "I think it's beautiful" or something, that probably would have made her worse!  Although later, he sent me a video a friend of his had made, with beautiful clips of mothers nursing young children in a wide range of ages.  The soundtrack was something ironically negative - a song about devil women? evil women?  The clear message was how ridiculous it is, for people to take something that natural and obviously central to bonding between mothers and children, and turn it into an issue of immorality or embarrassment.


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http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KiS8q_fifa0

Just had to share. It was posted on another thread but it hits home for this discussion. It's called Embarrassed
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I love that video. I have shared this with many IRL friends.
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Why is this wrong? Is someone wants to privately nurse they should not be accommodated because you think it's wrong? Put in a request for chairs in the toddler room. Why do we need to jump to conclusions about the establishment! I think it is rather nice they even thought of something like that

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