On the other hand, some kids have a really strong need to suck all the time. Most can be satisfied at the breast if mom is willing, but some mothers find limited use of a pacifier helps a lot. Some babies freak out in the car when you CAN'T be nearby. You'll know it if you get one of these babies, and then you can go from there. ;-)
As for whether breast- or bottle-fed kids are more likely to accept a pacifier, I don't know the answer. Both my kids were exclusively breastfed and the first rejected a pacifier and I never offered one to the second.
Around 5 weeks he was having those super fussy evenings ( but not colic) and didn't want to nurse and didnt want my finger so I gave him a pacifier. I used it only when nothing else helped and he gave it up entirely by 3 1/2 months when he finally got that darn thumb in his mouth ( he'd been trying forever to get it in...we have the cutest picture of him with his thumb in his mouth, using his other hand to hold his hand and he is asleep...very cute!). Then he stopped sucking his thumb on his own at 9 months old. I have tried during times of frustration to give him a pacifier but he will either chew on it, or throw it!!!
I think, that you should try to avoid pacifiers in the beginning to avoid nipple confusion/preference, but if your babe seems to have a higher need to suck, then you might need one. You won't know until your babe gets here really. Good luck!
Heather , momma to ' Parker- 10, Carlee- 7 and our baby Genevieve Faith - 8-27-10
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AND... we used one.
Don't jump all over me yet! Let me at least give my reason!
I had a big problem with oversupply. My baby was crying all the time, I nursed on demand, and I could not figure out what was wrong. Now, we did have about three billion other problems (and half of those breastfeeding) going on, so the stress certainly didn't help.
I was seeing a lactation consultant, a breastfeeding-friendly nurse/birth assistant was coming to my house daily, and my midwife was my 24-hour helpline. Eventually it was determined that part of the problem was my baby was suckling constantly, and I do mean constantly and I was having letdowns several times a minute. She would gag, choke, and get upset because she wanted to comfort suck, but kept getting milk. My milk kept letting down and letting down, and she'd eventually eat so much she'd get sick and throw up everywhere. Then she'd be upset, try to comfort suck, get more letdowns, more spraying milk, throw up, get upset... repeat repeat repeat all day long, all night long. My LC told me that this particular type of nursing problem was the only kind she ever reccomended careful pacifier use with.
So, we got one. After she was done eating and that cycle started, I would slip the soother over my nipple so she could suckle it as though it was my breast, and her cheek was still resting against me. As my milk supply evened out over a course of months, the pacifier use dwindled to less and less, and eventually weaned off it completely by 5-6 months old. This became a lot easier after I had surgery on my right breast and the milk ducts were severed and supply dropped to zip. That breast became the "comfort breast" - although more than 75% of the time she refused to nurse on that side.
And I STILL hate them. With a passion. With my next baby, I don't even want one in my house. (I didn't have one in my house this time, either. My mother ran out and got one for me after the LC gave me that advice). We were very fortunate that it didn't effect my daughter's latch (we introduced at around 3 weeks old). And I will never say that I "Needed it" because I don't know for sure what would have happened if I'd ignored the LC and just not used it.
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Originally Posted by littleteapot
Pacifiers in general are bad news. I'm very anti-pacifier and it makes me sad to see babies (especially new ones) with giant plastic gaudy things covering half their faces. need.
AND... we used one.
And I STILL hate them. With a passion. With my next baby, I don't even want one in my house. (I didn't have one in my house this time, either. .
This is me!!!! I wasn't going to give Dylan one EVER, and if anyone tried I was going to shove it down their throat! I did wait till the breastfeeding relationship was well established, though. When she was 3 months we drove through the mountains, and I gave it to her so her ears wouldn't pop. Well, she was hooked.
The next one will not get one, I have already told dh we will not even have one in the house!
My mother says breastfed babier want a paci more, but she is no expert (although, she does think she is )
Evergreen- Loving my girls Dylan age8, Ava age 4 and baby Georgia (6/3/11).
The LC told me to stop using it but it turned out that he was a high suck needs baby and the paci really helped him to relax so he could nurse. There were so many times I would try and nurse him (even after his tongue had been clipped) but he would pop off and cry. Finaly I would give him the paci and he would such for about 5 min then he would nurse.
Now at almost 8 months he uses it when he is tired but doesn't want to eat. If he is tired and hungry, he will nurse to sleep then once he is asleep he usually rolls over and is fine. Some times I have to give him the paci or breast to get him to stay asleep.
My advice is to wait at least a week or two, but it seems 1 month is reccomended, till you two get the hang of it. That way you aren't stressed wondering if something is wrong or if it is nipple confusing.