It started out that I wanted to make sure my milk supply was good. Then I had no troubles BFing, but I was also never away from DD, so I had no need for bottles. The longer she went without one, the more proud I felt about the fact that she'd never had one. I have nothing but respect and admiration for moms who pump at work to give their babies the very best, but for some reason I have always felt this to be a "badge of honour" for me.
I bought DD a sippy cup recently but she just doesn't "get" it. Dh said why don't we use the bottle that came with your pump (bought an Isis to relieve engorgement on road trips and provide an "emergency" milk stash)...but I just have this really stubborn thing that I've gone this long w/out DD having a bottle, I don't want to start now. I wouldn't mind if DH or my mum could feed her once in a while if need be, but not enough to break my "never had a bottle" record.
Am I being silly? Is this really anything to be "proud" of, lol? I figure she's old enough to use a sippy cup (I got an Avent magic cup) but she's just not having any of it and I refuse to push the issue since I"m still ambivalent about it.
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
It *feels* like a silly prideful thing (at least for myself) to not want to use bottles ever if I don't have to. but I do still feel strongly about it. Ok, ok, its also a great excuse to not have people baby sit my baby before I'm ready if he/she won't take a bottle! "Sorry, I have to be with the baby to fed him/her"...
So I'm thinking its totally normal If you don't really have any real reasons to get her to take a bottle, well they why make yourself uncomfortable by doing it?
The only time my dd has had a bottle is when she has taken one from someone else : . She's 2.5 yo. She went straight from breast to cup.
With ds#2, my dh would give him a bottle of breastmilk once a week when I went to yoga. Around 8 months he lost interest. At a around 11 months he started taking breastmilk in a sippy cup without a valve.
Neither of my boys had any solids until around the year mark. I would just nurse them from both breasts and leave for no more than two hours at a time.
Some babes are very particular about breastmilk temp, so that could always be a factor too.
imo, if mommy is always wclose enough the the baby to make bottles unnecessary, why bother.
my sisters & i never took any milk from bottles either!
I feel the same way you do about "the badge of honor". It is a personal victiory for me to have exclusively breastfed my twin babies. I was told over and over "you must give them a bottle". Why Why Why? No one had an answer it just was..........Here we are 16 months later and not a bottle to be found. My older child also never used a bottle.
I understand the need for bottles for other people but my choice has been "not for me". I am very proud of my accomplishmnet. I hope you are of your personal victory and accomplish your goal of no bottles.
Your child will use a cup when ready, never fear. They won't go off to college not knowing how to drink from a cup.
thank you, all of you, for your replies. it's nice to know I'm "normal", at least by MDC standards!!!
i'm also going to try a straw. but i won't push the issue with her at all; it's not that important and she will figure it out eventually. in the meantime, i just love nursing so much i don't mind. dh has been patient this long, he can wait a bit longer, lol.
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
"Have faith in yourself and in the direction you have chosen." Ralph Marston
She also won't drink from a sippy cup, but I am not pushing the issue either. I know she will in her own time.
I also KNOW that when I die and go to heaven I will be rewarded with the nursing "badge of honor"
Sometimes I do wish that I could leave her with dh for longer than 1 1/2 hours, but then I realize, well it really isn't too hard for me to take her with me, and I would just miss and worry about her if she wasn't with me. So, no bottles for her!
Homeschooling mom to 4
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Stubborn? What's wrong with being stubborn? It kept you nursing this long when you could have offered a substitute!
No you are NOT silly. Yes you have every right to be proud.
It is years since mine was a baby and I still feel proud.
Be patient with the cup, and you will probably have a child who can use a cup before you know it. It takes time like any skill (like learning how to nurse!) And you can try other kinds of cups. I offered the cup with a little water and no pushing, no fanfare. She got the hang of it after a while.
You are not silly, you are justifiably proud and your stubborness has served your child well. Good for you!
just another HABIT to break.
gosh, between potty training, and everything else, WHO NEEDS MORE? :-)
i didn't nurse at all, only bottles.
but, i see no reason you would need a "bottle".
just nurse and use sippy cups.
they will eventually learn to love sippy cups.
my son HATED sippy cups at first, after a month or so he loved them.
I totally understand and I don't think you are being silly.
And she would not take a sippy cup. No plastic in her mouth if she could help it. She drinks from an open cup only. It's no problem except that I handle the cup most of the time because she still does not understand gravity's effects on an upside down cup.
As for your question about your attitude, I had hoped that Dd wouldn't get a bottle and I feel a touch of envy of those who have been able to go along without one ever. It upset me every time I gave Dd a bottle but that's because it was a reminder of my problems. But that's about me, not about Dd's well being. You are entiltled to your little satisfactions, it sounds like you have good perspective about it and can laugh at yourself.
I am also proud that dd never had a bottle, but I feel a little silly myself being proud - it's just a device to deliver a liquid, after all, and it's really no different than a cup...and the fact that it mimics the human nipple is actually a compliment to us BF moms, isn't it?
My dh never fed my dd either, but honestly, there are a lot more ways to bond with a baby. He used to sleep with her snuggled on top of his chest - I think that's way nicer than giving a bottle, don't you?
The Avent cups are pretty hard for ones who haven't taken a bottle. My dd just gummed hers.
You could just give her a little open cup to play with or there are cups you can buy for really cheap at the grocery store that are regular cups with snap-on lids with mouth pieces. They don't have a mechanism inside that prevents spills, so she may make a small mess, but it'd be easier to deal with than an open cup.
And I hate cleaning anything up, so we waited until I wanted to give dd extra water--around 9 mo--to try a cup at all. I figured she could get her milk from me.
I guess with all 3 kids, by the time they could sit up in a high chair, one activity they would love during mealtime would be to have a sip cup (back then there were no fancy mechanism cups, just had the Tupperware cup with a simple lid) and a plastic bowl, and the joy was in pouring the water from one container to the other, and onto the tray, and down the front , and onto the floor.
I never minded the "mess," as it was only water, it kept them entertained, so i could eat. then the water on the floor would be wiped up, and I would have a clean spot!
Cup play was also popular in the tub. I tried not to stress out too much if some bathwater was drunk.
He's really interested in cups though. He grabs for my cup when I'm drinking near him, so I have started giving him a sippy cup with water in it. He doesn't get much out of it, but he loves to play with it. One think that made it a bit easier for him was taking out the valve that made them no spill (the avent ones) so that liquid would come out either way. I think it helped him figure it all out.
If he weren't taking one, I wouldn't be sweating it, though. I am with him all the time, so I see no reason for him to "need" to have a cup at all. He just likes it.