There's a good thread going on now about this:
There's a poem on there that brought tears to my eyes!
(((hugs))) to you!
My boss' brother and SIL - despite both being medical professionals - went straight to formula from day one with their twins. Awful. I think there are a lot of other moms of multiples out there who just think it's too difficult, and never try.
Anyway, I wanted to give you a big . Hope you can find some words of wisdom from moms who have actually been there.
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For me breastfeeding was such a special time, such an achievement, such a focus in my life, such hard work, that when it ended I was grieving too. It left a void.
Your grief, in my opinion, tells me you are a special, wonderful tender-hearted mom if nursing meant so much to you.
Maybe that old La Leche League advice about nursing babies will apply to your OWN feelings too: the advice to watch the baby, not the clock or the calendar. In other words let your feelings play out, not by the calendar, but by being what they are.
Having weaned one child quickly and early, and the other child weaned themselves very gradually over a long time.....for me the sudden weaning was much more painful. But even the gradual weaning was bittersweet. A one year old is so young, its natural to feel a loss.
I feel for you. I run a bfing group for MOMs and I know how hard and different it is to nurse, and AP 2 than just a singleton. You only have the twins, but MOMs with another child or two find it so different.
Just wondered how and why they weaned at 17 mos? were they self soothers? Adopting a blanket, a paci, a thumb? Too busy playing to sit down and nurse? Or, OTOH, was nursing a 3 ring circus, with them tumbling all over each other in fits of jealousy, so not the relaxing break it might more likely be with a single?
Do you have Mothering Multiples by Karen Gromada? I believe she addresses the fact that twins may wean earlier than singles for the above reasons.
Also, it is interesting that they both weaned at 17 mos. Sometimes, one twin will wean earlier than the other. Are they ID?
Don't mean to pry with these q's. Just in case you want to share, to help with acceptance.
Leslie in MD