Originally Posted by mommyddeville
I really felt a sense of duty to be successful.
I, too, felt a sense of duty to be successful. I can definitely say that I breastfed because 1) my mom breastfed me and 2) made sure that I knew it! She told me many times with pride, "you were breastfed" and told me about the immune system benefits. Her own mother breastfed 5 of her 6 children (including my mom). She made it clear that the notion of "not being able to" is overstated and that it really wasn't that hard. In recent years, but before I had a child, I discovered that she nursed me for 14 months. Back then I thought that was a long time
. She also told me about LLL and that she had attended a few meetings way back when. For my baby shower, my mom gave me the Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (saying "this is pretty much the bible") and a little black nursing dress.
When my DS was gaining slowly in his first month, I was a little panicked. The ped had me coming in for weekly weigh-ins and I felt that I had to prove that DS could gain a bunch of weight in order to keep my right to breastfeed (or the ped would diagnose with failure to thrive). I was terrified that someone would "make" me give him formula. It would have completely gone against how I saw myself as a mother. In my mind, it would be failure, and failure was not an option. Luckily, I was completely determined. Despite the poor advice from the ped, I was persistent. They had me pumping and feeding the additional breastmilk; I used a spoon to do this instead of a bottle to avoid nipple preference problems. Finally I went to a LLL leader for help, nursed my DS pretty much constantly, increased my supply, and happily nursed him exclusively for six months and now at nearly 3 years old he is still nursing one time a day. He never had a drop of formula.
My point in telling that whole story is that if my mother hadn't endoctrinated me beforehand, I might have supplemented and ended up ff completely because I never would have increased my supply by doing that!
Off topic, but my mom also did the same for me about natural childbirth. She told me, proudly: how she had me without any drugs, with my dad as her coach, that the nurses told her she was tough as nails, and it was a wonderful experience. After that, my mom and dad taught natural childbirth classes together for a while when I was young. Isn't that sweet?