mama to my boy (9/06) and my girl (3/09) and surprise due in May!
I've always known that breast if best, and that it has powerful benefits for the child. However, when I decided to pursue adoption as my first choice route to parenting that BF might not be a good choice for us.
While I was still in the homestudy phase I started researching adoptive BF. Even at that point I knew there were aspects to my situation that would make adoptive BF more complicated.
1) I was doing a domestic infant adoption, and was not looking for a situation where I'd be matched before birth for a variety of reasons. This meant that I would most likely have very short notice and would not be able to take medications and herbs, pump, and prepare in other ways for months in advance the way many potential adoptive moms do.
2) I was a single mom which meant that I needed to return to work full time while my child was still a young baby. At that time I wasn't able to find anyone who had manage to pump for an adoptive baby. I have since found such people but they used a protocal that required advance notice, and wasn't available at the time when I adopted 8 years ago.
3) I had never lactated.
Despite this I decided that I would try to induce lactation, although I knew that my child would most likely receive formula through a SNS as their primary source of nutrition.
My referral came very fast, and there were a couple of "complicating" that led me to not even try to induce lactation.
1) DS was exposed to several contagious illnesses in utero, ones that can be passed through nursing. My pediatrician and adoption agency told me that they didn't feel comfortable with the chance that he could pass these conditions on to me. Since my adoption agency had legal custody of him at that point I didn't feel that I could go against his wishes. I also didn't feel as a single parent I could jeopardize my health in that way.
2) I thought I might try and induce lactation later after the issue above had been somewhat addressed. However, by that point DS had been diagnosed with a structural abnormality in his upper airway that required him to have only "thickened" liquids to protect him from aspiration pneumonia. There is really no way to "thicken" liquids given through a SNS and at that point there was no protocal for inducing lactation that didn't involve having the child use one.
So we FF. It makes me sad that I wasn't able to give him Breastmilk, but realistically I think that I made the best choice for him.
Wow that was long -- anyone still reading?
I always "knew" I would breastfeed someday...
But it wasn't until our 3rd and 4th adoptive placements that I found out about adoptive breastfeeding...and being that all my children were in fostercare for their first year or more with me, I never entered the touchy uncharted world of foster breastfeeding. So I formula fed.
Now, crazy or not, I've ordered my first breastpump and hopefully my 13 mo DD will still know how to latch (we tried one month ago with the SNS and she latched on for nearly a minute!). She has multiple food allergies and I'd like to give her something better than all her substitute food! So hopefully I don't get too discouraged before this even starts!:
Both my husband and I were formula fed from day one. I was plagued with ear infections, colds, all kinds of minor health problems as a child. He has asthma and lots of other health problems. Are these things completely the fault of formula? Probably not - but why not try to give our child extra protection from these problems.
Breastfeeding is the healthiest, most natural choice. I can't imagine feeding my wee little man something as unnatural and unhealthy as formula. I think I'd feel like I'd might as well just give him a Big Mac every day.
Aside from the obvious health reasons for breastfeeding, I'm cheap AND lazy! Nothing to buy, no bottle washing!
I remember being 22, a new grad nurse, and having long discussions in the middle of the night (night shift) about how I would definitely get an epidural, but I would also definitely breastfeed a year. (And I was right! LOL)
Oh the joys of giving your baby the best, and it's free without the hassle of something to boil, mix and reheat...
my mom died when I was 16. I knew she had breastfed me for some months. I think that I felt it would be a connection to her if I did the same. Little did she know that I'd end up nursing for years and not mere months!
...I think about how that beautiful young woman and her babe never even knew how they affected me...!:
She was and is very crunchy. She bf her first for 2.5 years, despite my father making horrible horrible comments to her. She even threw a bottle of EBM at his head from across the room one night. Too bad he ducked.
Seeing her bf her girls and knowing about LLL as a kid made a huge impact on me. It was just the way it was done-as she never used formula. I didn't have younger siblings and my mum had breast cancer, so that was the only experience I had with bf'ing.
When I had my DD, there was just never a question. I endured 3.5 months of horrendous pain, but never gave up b/c there was (to me) NO other way to feed her. FF was just not an option for me.
I'm so thankful for my sister!
Me. With 1 spouse, 4 kids, 16 chickens, 74 matchbox cars, 968,562+ legos, a dishwasher waiting to be emptied, a washing machine waiting to be filled and a lost cup of tea in the house.
I got a lot of weird "you don't have to nurse" "support" when I was pregnant. People would start conversations just out of the blue and tell me how hard it was to BF and how you have to eat really healthily all the time - what a dreadful idea - and that THEY certainly didn't nurse. Isn't that strange?
Wife to Eddie. Mommy to Jamie (4), Allie (2) & Luke (born 11-14-11)
I read "So That's What They're For" when I was pg with #1 and it was a good thing since my milk didn't come in for 4 days after my c-section. I knew enough not to let them give him a bottle or pacifier and he was getting colostrum in the meantime.
mama to two boys 13 & 11...and due end of October 2015.
It didn't really occur to me not to. I didn't expect to breastfeed as long as I did, but it didn't make sense to me to buy something that my body made for free.