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Old 10-21-2007, 03:17 PM
 
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Though I *personally* have not been hassled for breastfeeding, I was witness to my very discreet, modest friend being told at the pool (with bikini-clad teens everywhere!) that she needed to cover up if she was going to "do that."

I think most people are supportive of (or indifferent to) breastfeeding, but the ones who aren't? Wow, they can be snarky.

The trouble is, even for a mom totally comfortable with NIP, the automatic reaction when someone hassles her is to be embarrassed, shocked, mortified, upset, even when she *knows* she's in the right.

I'd like to think that if someone criticized me for NIP I'd have the presence of mind to stay cool and calm and not take it personally, but it's so easy to get flustered! I *hope* I'd say, "Hi, I'm Jen. I'm not trying to upset you, I'm just feeding my baby. Do you have children?" but I'd probably me more likely to leap to being upset myself.
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I've never had a bad NIP situation, though I've never been a bit NIP'er. I SAH and we don't really go out for long enough for him to need to nip.
But I have nursed him on planes and in airports, an in the occasional restaurant. Never got a reaction.

Oh wait! I did get a reaction once- I was nursing in the car in a parking lot, and there were some guys in a car across the way that seemed really interested in what I was doing. Kinda disturbing, but I sincerely doubt they had any anti-nip thoughts.
I think I still count as never having a bad NIP experience.

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Over 5 years of nursing (and still going!), and no negative NIP experiences so far.
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I never have!

I *almost* had a target person usher me into a dressing room but I explained to her that if I nursed my dd in there, my ds would escape and I wouldnt be able to catch him.

She shook her head.

Had she said anything else, my dh would have heard about it and sued.

I swear, he is just hoping someone will kick me out of someplace so he can sue them.

I think he's lawsuit happy. damn FL.
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Oh wait! I did get a reaction once- I was nursing in the car in a parking lot, and there were some guys in a car across the way that seemed really interested in what I was doing. Kinda disturbing, but I sincerely doubt they had any anti-nip thoughts.
I think I still count as never having a bad NIP experience.
They just wanted to see boob. :

Thats what I think most of the time-that people are just trying to see some nipple.
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I have never, ever had a negative experience while NIP. And I've done it pretty much everywhere.

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I didn't do it very often for personal reasons but whenever I have done it, I never got a bad reaction. I'm not sure anyone even knew I was NIP when I did do it.

The one single experience I can think of is when I was in court and dd was hungry. I went to try and nurse her but she was fighting it. (Nursing was not easy for us at that point). My ex gave me an incrdibly nasty look but didn't actually say anything. Not another person in the courtroom gave more than a cursery glance or made a comment. I don't count that as a negative NIPing experience because it seemed more personal and not about NIPing, necessarily.
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I scared one of dh's single friends once, but it wasn't negative. He was just very very freaked out that he had leaned in and rubbed the ds's head and was millimeters from my boob. He didn't look at me for weeks I must give off a serious "don't mess with me vibe" because I've nursed everywhere.
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I've been nursing for over 18 months now and have never had a problem. Lucky for the person who might think about causing a problem, I say. :
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never a word/problem here
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I nursed three children and never had a rude comment. My priest actually encouraged me to nurse in church rather than go into the hallway. The church ended up putting rocking chairs on the sides and in the rear of church for the comfort of families. Then, a group of grandmother-aged women made beautiful quilts to hang on them.
I nursed on airplanes, schools, my college campus, festivals...
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I scared one of dh's single friends once, but it wasn't negative. He was just very very freaked out that he had leaned in and rubbed the ds's head and was millimeters from my boob. He didn't look at me for weeks
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Nursing now for 22 months........ in 3 countries and 7 states - Not so much as a rude glance!!!!! Smiles are the most common reaction if any.

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Can't recall a bad experience.... and I nursed all over... east coast, west coast, bible belt, mountains, Canada, airplanes, shopping, walking, bars, in front on my kayaking students in a wetsuit, in warehouse parties, churches, cities, suburbs etc.

My favorite good experience was when I thanked my live in 20 something bachelor BIL for being so cool about the constant boob exposure, and he just looked and me and said "of course I'm OK with it. You're a mom."

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I never have. The cosmic universe knows not to mess with me!
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Nothing here, at least nothing that I've noticed. DD is only 17 months though.
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Nope. Only joyful experiences nursing, even as a toddler. Everywhere, airports, airplanes, restaurants, park, zoo, doctors offices, dentist office. Oh, except with my parents. They think nursing is for babies only.

I loved when ds at age 4 would ask to nurse when stressed during my mom's visit. At the dinner table no less.


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Old 11-08-2007, 02:23 PM
 
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nope. I was concerned about needing to nurse the twins in my son's first grade class room. I think it was fine. No one said anything and the kids didn't notice. One boy with a new baby commented that two babies must be hard work and what if they want to eat at the same time. I just replied that it all works out and smiled at his mom.

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I've only nursed one baby but NIP'ed a lot. Never a bad experience.... but my mom had some issues once. She's normally very cool but we were at a very busy location sitting right in the midst of everything. I covered to latch and then put the blanket down. My mom was sitting next to me and looking right over my shoulder...she could see a lot of the action and she was like 'do you think you should cover up?'.... I told her "stop looking!!"....we were laughing.
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Old 11-08-2007, 02:59 PM
 
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No, I've never had a negative experience, either. I suppose I have had a few instances where I could sense that people nearby were a bit tense or embarrassed by it, but no one has ever done or said anything--not even a dirty look.
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Old 11-08-2007, 03:41 PM
 
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I didn't have a single negative experience until the one at the Y. It was part of the reason I was so shocked they would comment so negatively.
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Old 11-08-2007, 04:26 PM
 
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I never have had a problem either. I nursed my first for 3 years and my little one just turned one. They have probably nursed in every imaginable venue too!

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My DD is almost 20 months, and I've NIP in tons of places, and I've never had a problem. In the past month, I nursed her on several airplanes, at Disneyworld (on a few rides and throughout the park), at the zoo, and at Target.

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I have never had a bad experience & I have nursed all over the place. The only time I feel a little inhibited NIP is with people I know You know, whipping the boob out while having a conversation w/ my FIL, etc.
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I don't believe I've truely had a negative experience.....except for my mom freaking out because the nursing mother's room was too far for me to go at church a few times but that's just : more than really negative.

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Old 11-10-2007, 01:17 AM
 
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I've never had anything even close to negative. I've nurse everywhere I've been for the past 15 months - all over NYC, several planes and airports, passport office, many places in Ireland, in the school where I work. I've gotten free cups of tea and cookies at a resturant in Ireland - here noone has ever given me a second look.
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Old 11-10-2007, 01:08 PM
 
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I've only had one issue, it was when DD was about 3 months. An older gentleman refused to even talk to me, lol, instead talking to my sil. He asked if she was my friend and she said, "yes, she's my sil, why?". He replied "you know they have a special room for that". I was sitting right next to her and I said, "you know, I don't have to use it, right? And you know I can hear you, right?". He walked away mumbling.

That said, I've NIP so many places! DD and I travel a lot to see my family in CA, she's been on tons of airplane trips, a cruise, she's just a little world traveler. Anyways, airplanes have all been great, even the last two when she's been over one. People around are usually very nice. If you want a seat empty on SW, the trick is to nurse your child as soon as you get on, you'll be avoided like the plague. LOL, I don't mind the extra room. I had no problems on Carnival Cruise Lines, or in any of the places we visited (Costa Maya, Cozumel and Grand Cayman).

I've nursed many places and most people never even bat an eye. I keep waiting for someone now, since DD is 15 months, but so far, so good.
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not one negative experience here! and I was expecting them, too!
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I'm in Canada, and I know it's different here. Not everyone approves, but it's far less 'taboo' than it is in the US. Here, we have nursing rooms (that are separate from bathrooms); and they're for mom's who'd prefer the privacy (frankly, the hustle and bustle of the mall is not where I'd prefer to nurse, I prefer the quiet time, so I appreciate these rooms). However, I'm not going to let my baby starve because I'm not near a nursing room. But I'm discreet about it (just like everyone else). I've never had anyone say anything (I'd probably give them the finger ) but people do stare sometimes. But it's not a disapproving stare, it's just a staring problem kind of stare. Sometimes older men will ogle -- which grosses me out anyways, but also, WTH...eww! This is NOT "hot"! KWIM?

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Old 11-18-2007, 03:26 AM
 
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I have never had a bad experience either...I even NIP at the Republican booth at our local county fair this summer! Not a word or odd look!! I live in a very rural area of Indiana.
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