I noticed this post on my way to my DDC and had to answer.
Yeah, I know what you mean. During my last pg my mom wouldn't stop with that either. Of course when she arrived 4 days after ds was born I was really sick and "that was why".,. because I had pushed myself too hard during my pg. This time around I am really reconsidering telling them that I'm even pregnant until I'm ready. Just don't want to go through 7 months of negativity. And the thing is and I am sure you'll relate is that they don't see it as nagativity.
: (I misspelled that accidentally but it's kind of funny!)
Anyway, as for the cloth, we were also told that it would be too much work. My dh and I are both in graduate school and had a year and almost a half of our clinical internships left when ds was born and my mom said that it was just going to be too much for us. But honestly, just like anything else, once you get into a routine with the washing and drying and stuff, it's no biggy. So DO WHAT YOU WANT. and if they fuss at you just remind them that it's your baby and your decision.
I can't stand the mushy feeling of a wet disposable diaper. And they smell way nastier than any cloth I have had to change.
So anyway, hope this encourages you