I always thought I would have my sons circ'd. Just seemed like the thing to do (didn't everyone do it??
), never really researched it before. Then I met and married DH.
Never came up with the first pregnancy because we found out that DD was a girl pretty early.
I think it was about a month before DS was born, another board I was on had about 17 out of 70 of us all pregnant within about 6 weeks of each other.
There was a lot of baby dust on that board. :LOL The discussion about circ'ing came up. That started a discussion between DH and I (you know how it is
) He was against (he's intact) and said it was a pointless procedure that no longer had a "purpose". We talked about it and I kind of deterred to him (not that I *really* was pro-circ anyways) because he was a little more "knowledgable" about the actual mechanics since he has one and I don't.
Honestly, it really was a mutual decision to not. Radish won't be either. I think if I sent the video link (which I didn't click on, I don't need any nightmares
) to DH he'd stop talking to me.
He says I always send this horrible and depressing stuff to him.
He agreed that the argument about "matching" is a crock and not a valid reason at all.
We were never pressured by anyone about it and no one in the family commented one way or another.
I can't remember if it was my OB or the hospital asked if we were circ'ing (only to find out if the procedure was needed) and we said no. Never another comment made. And when we went to our Pedi, he asked if we planned and we said no. He was like that's fine, it isn't a medically necessary procedure and explained "proper" cleaning care which of course was mainly LEAVE IT ALONE.
I rememeber a couple months later a friend asked my advice about not circ'ing (first boy after 3 girls) and she was getting a lot of pressure from family members (not her DH) about it. I was just supportive for her and was able to help her not second guess or worry about their decision not to circ.
Why do family members feel it is their right to force their parenting (and any other) views on others??