another mom moves up...we are getting so close!! Imagine, 2 months from now we will probably start reading our real birthstories! Crazy!!
I am glad you asked this QOTW, Piglet (thanks Mirthfulmum) because twice now you have mentioned your fear of labour and I have meant to say something...not that I really know what to say, just wanted to acknowledge that you said it
. Your "dream" story is really nice, I wish you could have it...but I do know that you are at peace with the birth you will have.
My dream birth is actually from a video I watched on Russian Waterbirths, I don't know what it's called maybe someone else does (Katie I think you mentioned it once). It was a midwife having her own, I think they showed both her 3 and 4th children being born actually (if I remember correctly) and she was so peaceful and serene giving birth in water. There were also cool shots of people giving birth in the sea, then having the babies swim...it was cool. So, my realistic dream birth would be in my home, using a birthing tub...non interventive, I don't mind other people being around so that wouldn't change (I'd still have Dh, midwife, my mom and sister, and Ember but being in our home she could be free to do what she wanted), and just a harmonious flow to my labour...with only a few pushes (like my sister who pushed 3 TIMES, not for 4 hrs like me!!) before Oakley glides easily into the water. But since I am probably having a hospital birth, my dream is just for the things I want post birth to happen the way I want them, I am really not worried about the labour itself... I am confident that I will be in control of what happens and am not worried about interventions (with Ember I was in a hospital too but with a regular Dr. and I didn't get an IV or anything so with my midwife I know I will be able to move freely around the room and use different positions, shower and birthing ball like last time)...but it is really important to me that the cord is not cut right away, and that there is no Vit. K injection and of course I get to hold Oakley and BF and that he is not taken from the room. Issues that I are less pressing but still need to be discussed are oxitocin injection for me (I don't think it is necessary but don't so much care if I get it if there seems to be a reason, I just don't want them to routinely jab it in my leg without my knowledge or consent like last time), the antibiotic eye ointment for Oakley (again, don't think it is necessary in our case but will discuss it before hand with midwife), and whether or not we will use oral Vit. K or forgo it. Luckily I don't have to worry about them vaccinating at birth here, it's not done as of yet. The last thing about my abtainalbe dream birth that I hope for is to be dismissed from the hospital after 4 hrs and have all my family together in one bed the first night, not me and Oakley in the hospital by ourselves.
Ok so it felt like I had written a novel but now that I've read it, it's not so bad so I will add a bit about our weekend :LOL Ember has joined the advancing swimmers club started by Emily and Lucy
....yesterday completely of her own doing she actually put her face in the water...I'd say went under but it was just to about her eyes, MAJOR milestone for the girl who has never even gotten used to lying back in the tub and getting her hair washed
I think she might even begin to learn to swim this summer, she is just getting braver and braver! We will be camping at the most perfect swimming lake for a week starting next Sat, so I am sure that there will be much progress while we are there. Speaking of which, this will be the first time that we are the adults camping for that many days (Sat-Thurs), though I have camped that long many times it was always with my parents and though Dh and I have camped many times it has still been with my parents and usually for only a couple nights...feels like a big milestone for us