Wow. This party's getting big! Now I feel bad that there are so many uncomfortable mamas out there!
Lucysmama and mirthfulmom, I am with you on the insomnia. It is SO unjust! I am now waking every morning at 4 and am just awake and in pain. Last night I actually had to ice my back while I lay there (I apparently have tendonitis in my glutes -- FUN!). I just tell myself to rest and try not to worry. And sure enough, around 7 am I'm ready to sleep some more. Thank god I have the best dh in the world and he's letting me sleep till 8:30 each day and then going into work late. Tonight when I'm lying there awake, I'll be thinking of you guys!
ameliabedelia, I agree that the weight is harder to accept this time. Last pg I didn't care at all -- in fact, used it as an excuse to really overeat -- but this time I am barely eating more than when I'm not pg and I seem to be gaining the same amount of weight. What's that about? And I have this INSANE idea that as soon as the baby is born I'll start working it off, but if anything, it'll be WAY harder than last time to carve out exercise time for myself. Thank heavens for breastfeeding!
truebluexf, that sucks! I'm so sorry about the restrictions. Even as crappy as I feel, the no sex part would probably set me right over the edge . . . that increased libido seems to be the only thing going for me right now! Hang in there!
Soogie, I'm struggling with the same worries, only about adding a second. I literally have to force them from my mind, I would spiral downward into the baby blues before the baby even gets here! But I know myself and I know what's going to be hard for me (last time I was worried about my marriage and I was right -- we took a big hit) and this time I fear I am going to be pushed off the deep end with trying to meet everyone's needs, incl my own. There's no way around it but through it, right, so I'm just trying to surrender and KNOW that I'll get my butt KICKED, but I'll recover. You will too!
bluehalo, I also cannot believe how squished we are with still so much time to go! (Apparently no one else can either -- if one more person says, "Are you SURE you aren't having TWINS?!?!" Argh!!) I find myself really annoyed by all the wiggling and pushing and poking and proddin in there. And then I feel terribly guilty and make a conscious effort to say a little prayer of gratitude that my baby is *alive*. I say to myself, "It's a GOOD thing the baby is moving. It's a GOOD thing!"
and wannabmommie, it was nothing personal that I never joined the Oct thread. . . I just don't come to MDC that often anymore, and there are SO many Oct mamas, I couldn't keep up with the chats! (BTW, are you gonna change your username when you ARE Mommy?!?!)
Not to turn this into a lovefest, but I just want to acknowledge what a special place this is, that we all can come here and be honest and unload and not only does no one try to offer unsolicited advice, but everyone here understands the contradictions of motherhood -- that you can be blissfully happy and grateful AND annoyed and stressed at the same time. I don't take that lightly, bc it seems IRL that is SO hard to come by. People either think you're happy as a mother or you're not, and EVERYONE, EVERYONE, EVERYONE is so damn full of suggestions! I love it that total strangers can come to this virtual forum and offer empathetic listening with no judgement. Thanks to all of you for that!
And everyone rest well . . . may your night be full of sleep, absent of reflux, and may your bladder be calm! Hugs all around!!!