so happy that my story made you laugh! it made me laugh too, which in turn made things more painful, but it was really quite ridiculous and too hard not to laugh. i think it probably was some sort of muscle cramp.
futuremama, the donut comment cracked me up. i will *always* think of that now when i see a krispy kreme glazed!
gottaknit, i also love the fruits and veggies of summer. we go to the farmers market on weekends and our garden is also starting to provide. i definitely feel better with all the produce and i bet our babies do too.
anyway, i'm sorry to lucysmama and mirthfulmom and all those dealing with pushy overbearing mothers of their own. normally i have a great relationship with my mom - we're very close. however, i've begun to have some problems with how critical she can be of certain things or people. we just spent the week together on a trip (i was attending a big convention for work and she came and saw the exhibits and stuff) which was mostly wonderful.
however, when we got home two nights before she was heading back to her house (about a 2 hour plane flight away), she made a few comments that really crossed a line with me. this is becoming more frequent as on her last visit (in february) she also said something wildly inappropriate. i don't ever yell but i was clearly angered and this time she really thought i was going to kick her out of our house (not the case). she knew i was angry (but that really isn't an accurate description of how i felt, i still can't put a finger on it) and after the incident i basically let it go and was nice as usual for the duration of her visit, although i suspect she knew i was still feeling very cool towards her.
i'm really not sure how this will play out... if a boyfriend had said something like that i would dump him on the spot, but i absolutely will not dump my mom. either she'll stop making comments that are truly wrong (both incorrect and inappropriate) or she's going to put a real dent in our friendship. i love her completely, but this certainly makes being around her much less pleasant.
do your mom's still call you baby names like "little one" or "tootsie" or anything? it doesn't bother me, but i think it is a reflection of how she fails to fully appreciate that i really am a very competent adult.
ah well, i do love her very much. it's just hard to be around her sometimes and it doesn't have to be like that, she just makes it that way.
thanks for letting me vent too. i feel almost silly complaining, my relationship with my mother is really wonderful and i'm very thankful for it.
gottaknit: great points about being PG in summer. I know I'm glad that I can cover up the post-partum weight in winter, and should be good by spring if I follow the same course as before. I was packing up some of my pre-pregnancy clothes the other day and longing to be that small again, lol.
QOTW: I like the movements that make my belly wriggle like a bowl of jello. or that make one side poke straight up. I don't have any feet in my ribs, but there are some limbs/knees right above my belly button that feel strange. He also seems to spend some time transverse, and I often get a foot poking me in my side...like really far to my side. And then I believe he has some hands or something down by my cervix. As someone else said, it's not in the center, it's off to the side, but very low down, by the hip joint. There isn't much room to move there, and so that sort of poking is uncomfortable. (great question, btw!)
Speaking of sex drives. Mine isn't all that fun anymore. With all the swelling, discomfort, and general "schmutzy-ness" down there, I'm too self-concious to engage in any "fun". I'm also tired all the time, and stiff and sore. Probably if we started anything I'd end up all seized up like flitters! Poor DH, I think it's a safe bet that he ain't getting much before baby comes, and we KNOW he ain't getting any afterwards, lol.
Futuremama: I think Rocket is kinda cool! I have to admit, I do like the name Henry, too. It sounds good with Miles.
MamaEmerald: glad to see you jumping into the conversation. hope your cold goes away! I've been having some post-nasal drip at night - something must be pollenating out there...it's not fun! I've been snoring so bad that DH has been sleeping on the couch (which is actually okay by me b/c he snores bad and my insomnia doesn't deal with that very well!).
Katie: glad you stood up to your mom. the last thing you need to deal with right now is a toddler whose nap cycle is thrown out of whack! I think it's so funny that you are seeing the same counsellor that me and DH saw. She was a bit odd, but she did help us get off to a really good start, so I hope she gets in sync with you two.
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
Therapy is ROUGH, man! Today was really difficult and uncomfortable. We're doing a lot of work about our childhoods, and I had a very rough one, so it is very hard for me to discuss. We did this exercise where I talked to dh as if he was my mother, and "confronted her" about her abusive ways. (The idea is that dh and I are repeating patterns from our childhoods with each other, so we are trying to work thru childhood trauma and issues first.) Yikes!!! Very hard for me. But I'm glad we are doing it. It's really hard being pregnant and so emotional, though. I cry at the drop of a hat - I'm not usually like this, it's just hormones. Our therapist must think I'm a real basket case!
Letia- How's the birthing plan going? Still unsure about what to do? Follow your heart, and don't do anything that will make you uncomfortable - it could have a huge impact on your labor and birth. How does your dh feel, is he still very nervous about hb? If YOU want to have a hb, I have heard that interviewing midwives can do wonders for getting reluctant DHs on board. He can ask a lot of questions, relay any fears, and see that the midwife is (usually) a very intelligent and competant care provider.
Hello, ladies. Well, you all have me chuckling this afternoon; between visuals of bobbing and doughnuts I think this has to be one of the funniest reading sessions I've had!
QOTW: Similar to many of you - I hate the rib thing. Luckily, it doesn't happen all that often. Little Bean seems to move around quite a bit and I really enjoy the more gentle rolls and thumps.
Anemia: Me too - I was primarily vegetarian prior to this birth and about a month ago I started really craving hamburgers. My test came back anemic so I've started listening to my cravings (sticking to organic, hormone free beef, of course). I've also occasionally added Ferrous Sulfate to my vitamin regimen per Dr. advice (but I think I read you can't take it with Calcium since they nullify one another).
So we've had a huge family in town for a week now and they all leave on Saturday. While it will be sad to see them go, it will be great to get the house back and start really preparing for the baby.
OK - anyone else having anxiety dreams? Last night was the worst... Summary: I dreamt that I had a c-section done to me w/o me knowing; w/o permission and no one else was around. I guess I am so freaked out over having to have a c-section that I'm feeling very unempowered. Hopefully this will change when I put together a birth plan - anyone have any good templates?
Have a wonderful week, everyone!
Had my u/s today to confirm what we already know happens in 90 someodd % of cases, my placenta is completely out of the way. I am glad to have that peace of mind though. Oakley is estimated to weight 4lbs 11oz!! Of course I know that is a major guestimate and could be off by a lb. But it is cool because I have been telling my family that I am sure he must be 4lbs already judging by how much of a growth spurt it felt like he had. And just to be sure, we double checked...he's still a he!
My family is already out the door so I gotta run, I will have to try to get on again later to finish what I had already said.
I am so excited. DH got a job AND we found an super nice apartment yesterday. It is the area which we REALLY wanted to live in and the job was the one that he liked the best (of all the interviews he has been on). It is also the job with the best prospects for permancy and stability, so we hopefully won't be moving around any more. We will be living only 2 1/2 hours away from my family, which will be great compared to the 18-20 hours away we have lived for the past 4 years. Our apartment is really nice, we will be living in a small New England town, the town walking/bike path goes right through the complex, there are like 3 playgrounds super close by and the complex also has an indoor heated pool, and outdoor pool and an outdoor kiddie pool we can use. DD will LOVE it, it will be so nice to be able to just take her swimming and to the playground really easily. She loves that stuff. Oh, and we were able to get a unit with a washer and dryer right in the unit. That was the most important thing to me. I will probably have 2 kids in diapers since dd still shows no inclination to potty train and will all this moving and stuff, we haven't done much with it. I am NOT going back to sposies, nor will I do laundry with a co-op machine in the basement. The only problem is DH starts on the 25th of Aug, and we won't be able to move in until Sept 5th, so he will have to stay in one of those extended stay hotels up there for 1 1/2 weeks, and then the weekend we are supposed to move in, we are also supposed to attend a wedding 400 miles away. So, that will be hectic, I don't know how that will work.
QOTW: I love all baby movements. I really have no clue where they are. I tend to feel lots of movement off to the side when I lie down on my left side. I like baby is transverse or maybe breech. I feel most movements down low or very far off to the side. I think she flips around a lot. I never really have any painful movements, I am just so thankful to feel all of them.
Flitters, I had to giggle at your story too, although it probably wasn't fun for you, sounds painful.
OakEmber, I am glad everything is ok with the plancenta, that is great.
Homeschooling mom to 4
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Amelia -- I bet your baby is head down...I feel most movements at belly button or lower, since the legs kind of curl around in the fetal position...so knees and feet are low, as are the hands down by the face. Is this what you feel?
My tooth is much better. I didn't need the antibiotics afterall. The echinacea kicked in and cleared the infection. My dentist wants to try to wait (unless I'm in a lot of pain of course) until after the baby is born to work on the tooth since we are getting so close now.
Most of the baby movements are fun, but occasionally those rib kicks and pokes under the belly button get a little ouchie. I'm like BeansMomma and have that short torso thing. The poor baby must be so squished!
Well, we're off to go camping. Talk to you next week!
Amelia Super Congrats! Your new home sounds just awesome and congrats on yoru DH's job too! It sounds like you guys will really be happy there and it's nice that you are close(r) to your family!
I forgot to mention in my post...Oakley is definately transverse and now that I know where he is I am sure that he has been in this position for awhile. His head is on my left and the bum on the right with his feet hanging down at my cervix (time to start telling him to move I guess :LOL). So it's actually his arms that I feel the most movement from then.
BeansMomma-anxiety dreams are the worst aren't they?! It must be more of a first time mom thing as I haven't had any this time. Don't worry, once I had a dream that I couldn't BF and in the dream I was totally indifferent to it, I was like Oh, well I tried at least, no big deal...well in reality I extended BF so my dream really had no bearing on how I felt about BF IRL.
About the summer pregnancy...just one more thing to add...since summer is the time of year that seems to fly by the quickest it is especially nice to watch your third trimester fly by with it. Where I live esp. the winter drags on so I am glad that during that season I will be all cozy inside snuggling with my babies.
Court...I like the name change, much easier! Thanks for the feedback earlier re: Dh declining the job. Last night he told me of the dreams that he had had over the few days, both about being physically harmed (and he doesn't ever have dreams like that, or really believe in the power of dreams really, so it surprised me).
Oh and Flitters, you should be awarded wife of the year for even going there in this condition! :LOL
Guinessinu- Sorry to hear that you've been put on bedrest! Hoping that your little boys stay put for another 5 or 6 weeks! Good to hear from you again!
MomtoL&A- that's great that you were still able to do your contract...that must have been quite a site :LOL Hope that you enjoy your camping trip!
Katie: oh yes, those parts of the session were hard. but you know, it so helped to see each other as vulnerable and hurting inside..it's hard to be mean and defensive in that case! I cried in a couple of our sessions and I wasn't pregnant, so I'm sure she is used to seeing that!
Amelia, I am SOOOO excited for you!! Geez, are we living parallel lives right now or WHAT? Your new place sounds fabulous. I *so* know what you mean about wanting to just settle down and be permanent. I am so craving that. DH still doesn't have a job, and until then I'm not going to feel "permanent". Congratulations on getting it all worked out!!
Not much to report today. Hope everybody is doing well!
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
|Amelia -- I bet your baby is head down...I feel most movements at belly button or lower, since the legs kind of curl around in the fetal position...so knees and feet are low, as are the hands down by the face. Is this what you feel?|
Thanks Pig and OakEmber. Piglet, I am sure your dh will get a job soon. My dh is a teacher so her HAD to get a job around now, school starts really soon! The schools are all in a crunch to hire their teachers now.
I hope all you camping mamas had/have fun. Camping sound so ambitious now, I don't know how you handle it.
Homeschooling mom to 4
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
I've missed you all soooooooo much! What a hectic time! We got back from a wild wedding week in NY, and are nicely settled in the new house Looking forward to hopping in the jacuzzi after tucking little Miles in. He was the ring bearer in the wedding, and today he started gymnastics, where I sit on the side lines. He's like a little man! So bitter sweet to see them grow up!
QOTW: I DO NOT like the rolling around. He's been head down for a couple weeks (i can feel his head) I'm also not too crazy about the pushing on my pelvic floor, I feel like he's going to fall out!
Has anyone ordered their birth kits yet? or gotten their pools? I'm feeling like I need to get on the ball. I unpacked all the newborn clothes and dipes today!
Anyone reading any preg. books? my nose is in imaculate deception 2. Just finished up spiritual midwifery. Met a mom yesterday who used my CPM, but couldn't do a hb. Pre-eclampsia set in at 34 wks. Yikes, makes me feel like a jerk for every moaning about feeling sluggish.
Lucysmama: I have noticed myself feeling a litte anemic. I invest in lean roast beef from the deli, and grab a slice when I need a pick me up or snack.
Flitters you go! I'm still sex free from the 1st tri!
Well,hopefully I'll be up and running on the web from home next time I post! Broadcasting live from the library now. Just not the same!
Much love mama's!!!! :group hug
I just don't seem to be able to find the time/energy to read and post much lately. But I am still loving checking in with you all at least once a day to see how everyone's doing, even if I'm not as chatty as usual.
As for the positives of summer pregnancy... well I am glad that some of you have managed to find your silver lining. I am so hot and uncomfortable, not to mention crabby, that it's been getting hard for me to keep a positive attitude. By mid-afternoon I am so done with the heat and summer that I don't care if I never see another juicy plum or sweet nectarine again. I just want summer to be over! Is it horribly obvious that I am super hormonal ?
I've got to get our apartment cleaned up. My in-laws are landing in a few hours. Then we are off to my Dh's cousin's wedding on Friday. The wedding's in Washington state, a place called Mazama, it's in the mountains. I've never heard of it but the pictures I've seen are beautiful! I am so looking forward to getting out of the city and having break.
Last night dh and I went out with some friends for dinner and a movie. Their dr. and his wife came along and they were so cool. The dr.s' wife uses cloth diapers and wants to get togethr sometime to talk about our stashes. I was so impressed. They were so cool and down to earth.
This weekend we are heading to Milwaukee for Irish Fest. I can hardly wait to hear some good Irish music. A friend of ours is doing a show with her daughter. She is a folk musician and her daughter does Irish dancing. Should be a good time.
I had my dr. appt today and baby is doing well. I am getting more sore though in my pelvic area and vagina, which dr. says is because I am carrying this one low. I asked him then does that mean he will just slip right out. He laughed and said, possibly. My appts. are now moved to two weeks apart. Its getting close mamas!!!
I LOVE Washington! The weather is great, the farmer's markets are plentiful and the beaches are so fun and close by. I just love seeing the mountains and ocean each day!
I found my midwife-the orginal one I wanted Cascade Midwifery and Birth Center and I'm so pleased. She's great and has a student that is nice too. Love the rooms with the giant tubs!!
Will catch up more later!
Can't remember last thing I said...called a hb mw she was nice....she suggested I call a CPM who acutally lives in my county. A girl I know was looking into a hosp wb and I want to know her findings too.....
I may call the CPM to check her availability.
dh actually knows the dh who was one of her clients--his coworker.
he even talked to a dh who's dw was delivered by a mw. he was gonna follow up and see where they took place.
meeting with a doula Sunday. She's in training and needs to attend births and she attended the birth of my fitness instructor and she was pleased. Which btw, is a tip a girl from LLL gave me--contact DONA and there are doulas who need to attend births for experience and they don't charge!
She seems nice....
ugh! its so late! I need to got to bed! I get to sleep in until 8 at least since bodyflex (strength training) is at 9! Tomorrow ends my workout week. I'm only doing 2 cycle classses, skipped kickbox and doing this bodyflex this week. I think it would be prudent after the two day bedrest deal.
Got a ped tomorrow! She was booked last weekend and this but had availability tomorrow afternoon! I've *so* over my birthday ped!
I'm kinda up! Saw the *cutest hat!
I've checked the tp and the diapering board and ebay can wait til tomorrow I guess I better get off the baby high and go to bed....guess I'll dream about that hat...I've been dreaming about dipes and strollers on Saturday night when we were looking Saturday pm.
K, I need to get up in the am...Nite!
Let's see...so much is going on with everyone!! Congrats on moves, new jobs, great places to live....I am so glad I am not dealing with such major transition right now, we could not do it. I'm trying to lay low to keep baby IN for 7 more weeks. But I'm not good at sitting around doing nothing right now!!!! I taught myself to knit this weekend (did I mention that yet? I don't remember) and made DS a hat. Now I'm working on a newborn soaker, it's so fun!!! And, it will save me tons of money if I can make lots of homemade wool!! Granted, I have covers galore for a newborn leftover from DS, but no wool. I'll have to post it when I finish.
There are no positives to a summer in pregnancy in Florida. Period.
I'm not really reading any baby books at the moment, just keep flipping through Ina May's book and Birthing from Within again. I need to practice some of the techniques in there though. I ordered Hypnobabies the other day though so that should be here soon. I'm kinda excited about that one!
Oh and I thought of another movement I don't like. Do you ever feel like the baby is scraping its finger nails across your uterus? I know that's not what's happening but it's the best way to describe it.....
Amy- I know it's crazy, if I am right with my prediction there are only 7 weeks left! Makes me feel like I have nothing done! Time to start washing clothes and diapers soon I guess! That's awesome that you taught yourself to knit! And I agree with the scraping across the uterus feeling, ouch!
Letia- sounds like you are making lots of progress, I am glad the midwife was nice. Keep us posted!
Ann- Yeah! I am glad that you are enjoying your new home in Washington! Sounds like you have found a great place to give birth too!
Stanleyma- have a great weekend, the festival sounds like lots of fun.
Momadance- glad that you are settling in nicely too, funny to see two of our moms checking in from a library (my RLF just wouldn't understand the need to do that, hehe). I am so jealous that you have a jacuzzi to jump into! I have been reading some pregnancy books throughout, the latest being Birth Without Violence but I am not currently reading any. I enjoyed Ina May's Guide the most and started Spiritual Midwifery but had to return it to the library before I had time to finish it.
Amy - You just scared me to death with that "we could be seeing babies in 3 weeks" business! It's too soon!! Does anyone else occilate between "I am so ready to be done being pregnant" and "Oh my God I'm running out of time and still have so much to do!"?
Letia - I can't believe how much you work out! I must be the laziest pregnant woman out there. I used to bike commute 12 miles every day, but as soon as I outgrew my bike shorts (first trimester!) that was it. I get out of breath just trying to buckle my sandals now. :LOL
We met our new nameless midwife and her apprentice last night. They are so nice! DH and I are both excited about the switch. This is a much better fit. Now I just have to let her know we've decided and then fire the old midwife. Eek. I hate doing stuff like this! Send me strength! I'll probably end up apologizing up and down like I always do...
Have a good day everyone!
Speaking of exercise, is anyone actually "working out" besides Letia??? I just can't do it. When I even walk a lot, I get a lot of very uncomfortable BHs contractions. When I do ANYTHING strenuous, I get them. I'm not too worried, but it is very uncomfortable to take walks while contracting so often. I have to take breaks from packing boxes because even that is making me contract...all the squatting, bending over, etc. Is this normal, do you think?
amelia: your post got me thinking, I feel almost all the movements around my belly button, and I too was surprised when the doc took my fundal measurement and the tape measure was way up high! So I guess he must be head-down now, too. I still feel things on my extreme sides though - maybe he's stretching!
momadance: glad the wedding went well, envying your jacuzzi right now!!!! that must feel so good for all those stiff, sore ligaments, etc.
stanleymama: I've been so sore in my crotch, too...it feels all swollen, and I'm sure it's b/c I'm carrying low. i don't recall feeling this way with DD until the very end.
Ann: it makes me so happy hearing about WA...in less than a week, I'll be in Vancouver, enjoying the same mountains and ocean views!
gottaknit: i'm so happy you hit it off with the nameless midwife! And I can totally relate to your fear of "firing" the other one. I'm liable to apologize, too. Or worse, be tempted to just lie 'yeah, we're moving to alaska tomorrow" and then hope I don't run into her at the local coop, LOL.
Okay, so my little bit of happy news: DD has slept through the night twice in a row. She HAS been waking/stirring at night, but has gone right back to sleep. AND....this is the second morning in a row that we haven't nursed before she gets up. Distracting her has worked so well, and today she didn't even ask!!. I feel kind of bad being happy that she's weaning so well but...man my breasts just hurt SO much, and the nursing aversion thing I have heard about seems to have shown up...it makes my skin crawl when she nurses, I can't explain it any other way. I'm sure she won't be fully weaned before Sasha arrives, or if she does, she may start up again when she sees him getting it all...but for now, the less the better!!
Hope everybody is doing well, and hanging in there. I can't believe we'll soon be seeing birth announcements!!!!
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
So, for the qotw, I like ALL and ANY movement this baby makes, even the ones that jab my ribs, take my breath away, give me stabbing pains in my vagina, and make my bladder want to release on impact! Babe is back to it's active self....and mommy is much happier!
Piglet...swelling is exactly what I feel, so I bet you are carrying lowas well. Sometimes its not so bad, but then I have days where I feel like I need to sit down or this baby will just come right out.
I just got done putting away the baby's clothes---ooohhh I can hardly wait. I too jump back and forth between "i can't wait for this to be over, and ahh I am running out of time." Putting the clothes away makes me feel like I am getting something done. I am going to get all my diapers together next and get those organised around Sammy's dipes. I am really getting ready for my baby. I can hardly wait to get to hold and nurse this little one. I nursing!
Anyways, we head out tomorrow so i will chat with you all again on Monday. Hope you all have a great weekend!
Ann- I was just thinking about you and wondering how you were settling in. I'm so glad things are going well and you like Washington. I felt the same way about Oregon when we moved here.
I was pretty surprised to when I saw that Letia's still working out so much. I'll pay homage to you as well! I'm lucky if I take 1 walk a week. I always feel better after I walk though, I really need to do it more often.
Congrats on Emily doing a little weaning Piglet! Logan has cut out morning nursings too, and I'm also wondering how he'll react to the baby nursing. I wonder if he'll shun me completely or want to start nursing a lot more. I really would like it if he weaned completely. This is bad, but I'm kinda worried about certain family members who'll be visiting who don't know that he still nurses some. What if he asks in front of them cause he sees the baby latched on? I know they would think we were crazy, and I don't think I have the energy to defend myself and "educate" other people. And I want Logan to be able to nurse occasionally if he still needs it. Okay I went off on a tangent. I worry too much.
Nancy - I'm so glad you like the new midwife! I hope the firing goes well, just get it over w/ quick so you don't have to think about it. Oh and I keep forgetting to say that I share your love of flip-flops, that's literally all I wear. And I agree about with all your points on being pregnant during the summer. I think the summers here are a lot more forgiving then elsewhere though.
Oh - Mirthfulmum- you guys are adorable! I was thinking you guys would have dark hair too, but I don't know why.
Gotta go find something for us to do today, but I don't want to move.
Mom to two boys, 7 and 10. Expecting 3rd boy any day now with DH (his first).
Originally Posted by Lucysmama
Speaking of exercise... I just can't do it. When I even walk a lot, I get a lot of very uncomfortable BHs contractions. When I do ANYTHING strenuous, I get them. I have to take breaks from packing boxes because even that is making me contract...all the squatting, bending over, etc.
I'm only to week 2 of my Hypnobabies course, and although I'm loving it, I'm worried that I'm running out of time. It's supposed to be like a 12 wk course, and I (we) don't have 12 weeks left. Yikes!
Letitia, don't go spending money on that super cute little strawberry hat!! My mom is in a knitting frenzy and has been making those strawberry (and blueberry and blackberry, etc..) hats like crazy. Not out of wool, mind you, but cute and soft cotton. PM me if you are interested in one, I'll send one your way. Goes for anyone else, as well, who would like a cute baby hat. LMK.
|49 members and 15,268 guests|
|AllTomorrowsParties , BirthFree , Clem , cryswilkins , DahliaRW , Deborah , DeepLearner , emmy526 , hillymum , Janeen0225 , japonica , JElaineB , Jessica Kendrick , joandsarah77 , kathymuggle , lalalovely , Lavender93 , lilmissgiggles , LionessMom , Liss86 , Lucee , mama24-7 , manyhatsmom , MeanVeggie , Michele123 , minkleaf , Mirzam , moominmamma , NaturallyKait , newmamalizzy , perspective , plantbasedemma , RollerCoasterMama , rubelin , SandiMae , shantimama , Socks , Springshowers , sren , stephalittle , stephaniepifer , StillMe , VsAngela , Xerxella , zebra15|
|Most users ever online was 449,755, 06-25-2014 at 01:21 PM.|