More advice for first timers (since a lot of the big stuff's been mentioned already): Don't be afraid to let the not-so-important stuff go. I freaked out over having everything "organized" and clothes folded and dishes done that I really got overwhelmed. If you don't have a lot of help, then just let some of it go and heal and get to know your new baby. Then there's the old "sleep when baby sleeps", which I knew with ds, but really didn't take seriously because he slept at the weirdest times and for the shortest times. But it really is true. And I can't stress enough the meals in the freezer advice that's already been given. Or have a hefty take out budget set aside for the first few weeks if you don't cook. And menus for places with healthy food on hand.
Most of all, this time truely is SHORT. When you're feeling overwhelmed, it's hard to remember that baby will grow up and you will be pining to have this sweet time together back again. For all the work and time away from dp and craziness, it does have an end, and you will miss it, so enjoy it and cherish it. I look at ds now, and see him talking and walking and learning every day, and
him more and more with awe at how much his little brain absorbs. But I still see the baby in him and am sad that that time with HIM is gone. I'm proud of who he's becoming, but am realizing how short their baby and toddlerhood really is. He was a high needs baby and I was going crazy some days to keep up, but wish I'd have just slowed down and enjoyed him.
Yes, I'm huge. Not just feeling huge, I really am huge. We went visiting this weekend and I saw a great aunt that I haven't seen in 4months, and the first thing she said to me was "Oh my, Annette, I didn't think you were that far along". I was like "I'm not really, I'm just really big again". She thought I was due in a week or something. Mind you she's not known for her tact, but that's another story.
No doula here. I'll just have dp and my midwife and a student midwife at my labour, and then another mw will join for the actual birth to help with the baby. I thought originally the student would be a "bonus" as usually it's just one midwife, but it turns out we aren't agreeing on a lot of stuff, so I'm going to have to have a talk with her or with one of the midwives about it if she continues to be so pushy.
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