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Old 11-10-2004, 02:16 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Birthmom called last night. She's decided to keep the babies.

Thanks for letting me hang with you while it lasted.
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Old 11-10-2004, 03:15 PM
 
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Oh...I'm stunned. Really stunned. I'm so sorry for your loss...It's a spontaneous termination, although thank god the babies themselves are fine. I do hope you have some good support at home. Thinking of you... andy

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Nemmer- I'm so sorry for your loss.... s
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So sorry Nemmer. I know there are other babies out there coming your way. you are such a dedicated mama and there are children out there who deserve such a family!

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I am not in your due date club here, but your post caught my eye..I just wanted to say I'm so sorry how awful for you to have to go through this!

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Old 11-10-2004, 04:38 PM
 
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Nemmer.... : I am very sorry.
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I'm so sorry - that just stinks!
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: I'm so sorry... :

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Old 11-10-2004, 04:47 PM
 
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I'm so sorry

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I'm really sorry.((hug))
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Old 11-10-2004, 06:02 PM
 
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Neemer, I'm so sorry.
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Old 11-10-2004, 06:03 PM
 
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Nemmer- that must be quite a blow. I am so sorry that happened to you, but you never know if this is the birthmother's final decision. As the babies are getting bigger, the mother is probably becoming more bonded to them and hesitant to let them go, but she may also come to her senses and realize why she wanted to put them up for adoption initially. I will keep my fingers crossed... There are lots of babies in need of good mommies in this world, if these twins aren't meant for you, you will find another baby who is.
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Old 11-10-2004, 06:06 PM
 
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Praying for you and your family....

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I'm so very sorry. You must be in shock. Is there still a possibility she will change her mind?
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I'm really sorry.
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((((((Nemmer)))))))

I'm hoping this is a temporary change of heart, and that as the PP said, she will realize once again the original reason she considered adoption. I'm sorry for the immense pain you must be feeling.



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Old 11-10-2004, 07:55 PM
 
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oh mama!! I'm so very, very sorry!! Please know you are in my thoughts.

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Old 11-10-2004, 08:01 PM
 
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So, so sorry. and more

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Old 11-10-2004, 08:38 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Thanks mamas. Your love and thoughts do bring a small bit of comfort.

She may change her mind again, it is true. I certainly hope she does. But I can't afford, emotionally, to cling to that hope, so for now I'm just mourning the loss. I've never felt pain quite this deep before.
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Hugs from all of us, and peace as you and your family mourn this loss.

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I'm so sorry Nemmer!! You are in my thoughts and prayers. s
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Oh, Nemmer, I'm so sorry
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I am so very sorry. Sending good vibes and prayerful thoughts your way.
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I'm so sorry, I can't even imagine the pain you must be feeling mama
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I am so sorry.

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