Hello - about the 2 yo thing, my friend Mary has 3 now, 4yo ,2yo and 5mos. She calls it UNCIVILIZED. She's in our babysitting coop, although noone will babysit for all three of hers at once except their own family. Mostly it's keeping the 2yo away from the baby that's hard. There are a couple of ways of doing this. One, wear the baby at home. Front or back, depending on your comfort zone. In Africa they wear the baby on the back exclusively, using a cloth (or large thin towel) that they tie above their breasts and then around the sternum. It snuggles under the baby's bum and can go above or below their neck. The baby is snug against their back, away from the front where cooking etc. may be taking place, and away from sticky little loving fingers wanting to see if those eyes are REAL. In the front, the sling is great for the first 6-8 mos. Then they're big enough for a backpack or front carrier on the back.
Second idea is to wear the baby when you can, and keep them up high or 'isolated' when you can't. Those little chairs that you can put on the kitchen table are cool for that. Also the pack-n-play thing is good for protecting them, too. Not perfect, as some 2's are exceptional climbers... I think, actually, that there is no perfect, and subsequent babies are generally tortured to some extent by elder sibs. We do our best, but we can't control their world, even as infants.
As far as love goes, don't stress. There IS enough time for both your babies. It will be easy for the first 6-8 months, as the little one just wants to be nursed and held which you can do while reading with or playing with your older one. By the time it does get more challenging and they both actually want your attention in different directions, you will be the reigning expert in your family. People for EONS have figured this out by trial and error, and so will we.
I've been having major BH contractions lately. If I relax and get my feet up that helps, but sometimes it happens when I'm in bed, too. Somewhat shocking to DH, and I don't remember feeling them so much with #1. mmmmm... Well, my nervous mama pals, don't worry so much. Life with baby will work out just fine. Mostly little ones are curious. Get them a doll that can be their own baby and they can participate in a safe way. soft dolls are the best, but any 'lifesize' will do that they can dress, put a bottle to it's lips, change a diaper etc. It's helped some, anyway. keep taking care! Andy
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