Hi Jessica, nice to see a St. Louisan here. I used to go to meetings regularly, but haven't attended for over a year. Dh started an intensive Master's program, he finished the reno house we were living in & we bought another one all at the same time. All of that while teaching & coaching. I was basically a single parent for a year. The Master's program is finished, but the house has a long way to go, so I haven't started attending again. I think I'm still in recovery from that year. I've been pretty introverted this whole pregnancy. Not wanting to take on new experiences or relationships at this time. That is unusual for me b/c I'm usually pretty social. I figure it'll pass eventually. A season or phase of life, kwim?
I have heard a few different stories of midwives hiding in closets, so I know they do "disappear" in some instances. I hate that birth is that way here, but it is. I keep up with FoMM through the e-group and its nice to read about what is going on.
I may have chosen a lay midwife & homebirth even here, but we also have issues with extended family here.
In many ways, though I hate to admit it, my water birth at BJC was better than my homebirth. Mostly I attribute that to the water which we could have had at home. But all in all going to the hospital wasn't as dreadful as I had imagined. I had my doula, my husband, my son & his support person. This time around we'll do much the same thing.
BJC will allow water birth & I believe St. Luke's as well. The Mom's line at BJC actually stores a birth tub (aqua doula) that used to be available to all for rent, but now is owned by an OB who reserves it for her patients.
As far as contactions go things have eased off. I'm nursing her to bed
at night, but not during the night and far less in the mornings. That seems to be helping. After reading & talking with experienced friends I think it may have been the cervix starting to thin. I haven't had another similar experience. I think she'll wait.