Ok Ladies - WRITE YOUR BIRTHPLANS! Write them with a sharpie on cardboard (with pretty paper on top, if you wish). Use color to indicate the various people involved/responsible. Show it to your partner, MW's, neighbors, friends, the cop that pulls you over for blowing through the stop sign you didn't see (hey - it might help!), the librarian who reads to the kids, EVERYONE. Do not let this get away from you. This is our body, our baby, our choice. Do get proactive if you feel control slipping. We have the right to refuse anything (just about) from a care provider. They can override in the hospital, but not usually anywhere else since the care being provided is rarely life and death. I dropped one MW like a stone because she really wasn't hearing me. The result is that I don't have a ton of time to get to know these new MW's too well, but we do gel and they do listen. They respect that I'd like to catch the baby, and we talked about taking some precautions since I tested Strep. + in a urine sample a while back. They were knowledgable and firm about what they did know and we built a plan together for how to approach the birth. I kwym about the feeling of not knowing the MW's too well, and therefore having some reservations...but if it's more than that (if they're not respecting your needs/wishes) then maybe even at this late date you should consider taking yourselves to someone else (if there is someone else) or having a serious discussion with the MW's to iron things out with them. It's going to be your call, no matter what.
Malama - the tablecloth material is wonderful. It's cheap here, too, which makes it so the right choice! I am pleased for you that you now have it, and can feel more ready. And buying a few outfits for a new baby is somehow a prereq. for mamahood (no matter how many times you've been one before). I have friends in Zimbabwe who have zippo in the bank (they've never even seen the inside of a bank), who have several kids floating around, and who work from 5am until 9pm on a rocky farm with broken tools, but they always buy the baby a layette to home home in. Course the kid is still wearing it 6 months later, and pieces of it a year after that, but - hey - this AIN'T Zimbabwe! Enjoy the new stuff and take a quiet day to make up for yesterday's stress.
Az - you are a champion. Don't forget that you are entitled to act pregnant, therefore hormonal, during the next few months. It's not going to be easy (as I also found out at T-giving), and it feels to me like things are way more personal than they are. I am dreading having to talk to my mom about manipulating things through dd, which she really tried to do. I know she did it sort of unintentionally, but she's way over the line, and I need to redraw it with her or there's going to be more problems. I am DREADING it. It's so emotional for me, I tear up at the least provocation. And she is SO not understanding. Ugh.
I've had great days. The mag. phos. is working great, or the prenatals, or the new calcium supplement (which has better Ca. in it for absorption and also has Zinc, vit. D and Mg. in it) or some combination of these things. The indigestion is really much better and the leg cramps are GONE! Whew. Dh is kind of sick with a lingering cold, but otherwise we are GREAT! Keep spirits high! For Chanukah I bought myself a reconditioned Shi-Atsu Massage Chair cover (also fits on the car seat). It was half price on The Sharper Image web site. I hope we get it before Chanukah is over - I do still love to unrap these goodies. I am happy to be getting SOMEthing that will get some of the bad posture out of my spine! I am getting pretty swayback these days - too much relaxin?! Very long and off topic
, so thanks for listening and do write the birthplans. TGIF!