Could those who got envelopes and no beads from me PM, I thought I'd just pick it up from comments, but I'd have to come through the last few weeks of posts...Lisa is the only one I remember saying her bead was lost, cause I actually put that one in an envelope right away. I think Andy's didn't make it to her either..
I got proud mom's too, thanks so much!
Love the belly henna pics. I love seeing photos of you all and yer families. I hope you are feeling more free and clear. I know what you mean about birth fears just at the end. Now my baby is so much more visible, and I get tons of comment sabout how small I am, I came up with some weird fears too. We were watching discovery health channel and there was a show with the little kids that age too fast-I forget what it's called, but it actually briefly freaked me out -I was like, "listen, I have a preference for a normal baby. Everyone thinks I have so much patience God would just give me a SN kid, cause I could handle it..." I looked up whatever that disease was on the internet and there are like 8 living kids in the US with it. SO I let it go. It was funny casue I have had few worries about health or birth. I had that irrational fear, and when everyone kept saying I was small I briefly feared spina bifida cause I was a slacker on vitamins, and thought it would be shameful and ironic if a midwife had a kid with a problem so easily prevented by something like vitamins.
I appreciate you have not been reading about birth. I've got a great lending library, and kept all the ones with pictures of growing babies to myself early pregnancy. Then I pulled out the bond with your bay ones in utero ones, but was very bad at that kid of discipline...lately I have "Mother Nature" which is poetic and dreamy thoughts on motherhood and birth, inspirational stuff, or Sacred birthing, which is also more inspirational than technical. I have been trying to do the self healing things in Sacred Birthing- basically laying down and asking to receive what you need for the birth to be clear- more a prayerful mediatation kind of thing she calls a map session.
And what a talented mom you have Jess, hope it was fun hanging out wiht mom. The mural is great, I see many fun action set happening in front of that wall in the future...
And Az, Well done on expressing your needs about the after birth time. In ayurveda, Indian medicine, they say postpartum is a time you can age very quickly because you are so open. It is important to take time to heal and reenter gently. In ayurveda women get massaged daily to get the organs back in place and fed special foods. A grandma also massages baby daily, too. Is a nice ideal to go for, imagining being cared for and nurtured while so open. We have a paper we give away for folks to put on their door that is written from the baby that says somethin about how everyone is tired, please limit visits, mom is a glow in love that is meant for the baby and other kids so please respect that. If I had it on disk I'd offer to e-mail, but i only have a hard copy. Since it is written in the new babe's voice it is getnle and not offensive I think.
Another BC thought for condom users, someone said they get irritated by them/. Try the brand Avanti by Durex. They are non-latex, thinner, conduct heat better and generally better. I hate using latex after using those. Sinc ethey are non latex you can us eoil with them as a lube. They are not approved by FDA to prevent STDs, so they arenot marketed much, but if your primary goal is no preg they are great.
I used all your bead to contribute to my blessingway necklace. We had a great circle here at my home yesterday- totally awesome. First off ,the house was clean finally after al lthese months of strife- that alone got me high! I felt so good to be able to negotiate my space and see it all tidiedup. We had our birth team meeting with my mom in the morning., my sisite rwhos been difficult was sick with a sore throat and couldn't make it. I always thin Louise Hay style on illness- what does it mean, so it was appropriate her throat was sore- Throat Chakra means what did she need to say she can't/ or said she shouldn't have. I meanwhile have had a stomach ache from not "being able to stomach it". But anyway she wasn't at the birth team meeting, which was sad casue it was great- my two good friend sare my midwves and are so inclusive of my husband. He got really into his thoughts and fears about parenthood, it was great to have him do that. I learned alot. It was extra great that it was done in front of my mom cause she will be at the birth and is not really part of the intimate dynamics between us. I feel like she'll be much more in tune with our process in birth now she's heard more from him.
Then afterwards people came over for the blessing way. There were about 20 or so people from all eras and time sin my life, it was so amazing. I sat between my mom and my grandma, they were both crying at various times. There were lots of tears and it was all so sweet. We did a special blessing for dh at the end cause I felt almost guilty I was getting all this great juice for the birth and he was out, so he came back and sat in the circle at the end too. Everyone strang a bead on the necklace, and when it was done I put all of your on it too and sent you all blessings for your births and gratitude for being support for me. You are all so smart and on the same page as me, I appreciate it so much!
Lisa, if you are still overdue, again, as Karen says just trust. Baby does know what it is doing! If you do end up doing any induction-y things, castor oil works great if your cervix is ready. It does make you commit to some toilet time, which is so unpleasant, but I think it is safer and more effective than the herbs. Just my two cents.
On mother milk tea- I like it personally, and have client sthat warn seriously about taking it unless needed, it is effective enough to caus epainful engorgement according to several friends. Also, barley and oats are good for making milk. And any green supplement like barley green, wheat grass, or spirulina or such helps too.
SO, I figure it usually takes a few days of doing noting for me to come down off adrenal overload. Hopefully I can get that now, and the phones and all won't get going to much for work, etc. my hous eis clean, a sanctuary again. Today we just rested, I am actually fighting some cold or such, so we rested, made soup, took astragalus, zinc, vit c and echinachea, and I took an essential oil bath. Hope it doesn't get serious...
All the best, Heidi who will now destress....