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#1 of 8 Old 01-18-2005, 10:04 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Ok - it seems like we all have some fears that we are dealing with these days not the least of which may be that this baby in us may never get OUT. I thought it might be nice to store them in one place so that we could look through and see how many other women have the same type of fears. Hopefully getting it out will help us to move along our path...

My worst fears are 1) baby isn't ok and 2) my body won't work right and we'll end up in hospital with induction.

Good vibrations to the mamas in labor now - and may I be among you soon...

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well my fear, like I wrote in the other thread is that my baby is not ok. After a long and good cry I feel a lot better about it since I know that I have absolutely NO control over this stuff.

labor is all abotu surrender, and I'm there
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Hmmmm...probably that ds would need attention. I have a list of friends to take him, but I worry that they all will be busy and dh will have to take care of him instead of me.

Maybe also that I can't do it, since we are having a homebirth. this one not so much now that I write it. I know that I CAN do it

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My biggest fear is that my midwife will get in trouble for helping us. It's illegal in this state and that SUCKS.
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I'd have to say tearing again. I thought I was ok with that, but the other night when I could feel pressure "downstairs" the fear really came back. I didn't have a horrific tear with ds but it took close to 3 mths to heal and I sometimes still have pain after gio, 6 1/2 years later.

That I think is my only birth fear, that reast are all pp fears

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My fear in the past two days is that the baby isn't positioned well and I will experience a protracted or complicated labor instead of the "butter birth" I am anticipating. I'm not 100% sure of baby's position. I know the head is down, but what if an arm is caught wrong or whatever. Sigh. I am thinking this because i am having sooo many contractions but never really start active labor...is this because baby can't engage properly? Or just that I am too damn impatient (probably).
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My fear in the past two days is that the baby isn't positioned well and I will experience a protracted or complicated labor instead of the "butter birth" I am anticipating. I'm not 100% sure of baby's position. I know the head is down, but what if an arm is caught wrong or whatever. Sigh. I am thinking this because i am having sooo many contractions but never really start active labor...is this because baby can't engage properly? Or just that I am too damn impatient (probably).
You know I keep thinking the same thing. I'm convinced the little one has her hand right up with her head. I do know that she is head down, has been for months.

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My fear is that I will develop post-partum depression and isolate myself again. I am already feeling reclusive and like I want to just stay inside with my family. I hardly answer the phone and put off making plans with friends. It feels 'right' right now, but I know it could lead to depression and isolation later. It has just been so hard to get myself out the door lately. Do any other mamas kwim?
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