With Ian--I was age 18--1999:
Have always hated drs and didn't trust 'em so I went to a birthplace. Wsa however obsessed w/myself--my weight, my skin, my education, so I quit bf'ing after 10 days, took weight loss pills, spent hundreds of dollars on stretchmark creams, and was happy to go to college full-time when Ian turned one. I worshipped the what to expect books and esp. judging by the other teen moms around me, I thought I ws doing a GREAT job!
With Lili--I was 21 and in college--2001:
Others around me were pg again and the unthinkable happened--we actually wanted another baby! ??!! Got pg ont he 1st try and mid-pg my dh bought me "the womanly art of bf'ing" knowing I wanted a bf book to "remedy" my failure to bf Ian. WHOA! Changed my whole perspective, found Mothering, turned crunchy. We all of a sudden were sling-using, cloth diapering, natural parents! A BAD two-week long reaction to Lili's 2m shots caused me to finally stop sticking my head inthe sand about vaccines and research--I was horrified and we didn't do any more.
NOW: I have since discovered the natural hygiene diet (a form of veganism), unschooling as a lifestyle philosophy, and overall have learned to trust my instincts so well, esp considering I didn't know I had any when I had Ian!
SO this time: we're buying kissaluvs size 0's and hopefully doing ec so we won't need them long
Definitely homebirth, probably unattended.
Tandem nursing if Lili doesn't decide to wean!
More freedom of choice in food (from unschooling) but at the same time me going vegan to set IMO a "good example" (which is emotionally more healthy than nagging my son about his cheese pizza--yk?)
I had read a lot of Glenn Doman's work (Teach you baby to Read), but I have also learned a LOT thanks to unschooling, so instead of being anal about flashcards and feeling like I wasn't "dong enough", I am going to make books w/very large print like he advocates it, but just completely go w/my instincts and the baby's interest level. If the babe is bored, so what, he's got PLENTY of time to learn to read lol!
I hope to take this baby (and the other ones too!) to a nice indoor pool more often so we have the benefit of swimming year-round--I can't swim myself and I would be just delighted to see my kids learn how to swim on their own!
Oh yeah, and for me! I will celebrate my round body more instead of freaking out about it
I will buy some cool bravado bras (can we say leopard print??
)instead of suffering thru 2+ years of wearing tattered wal-mart specials
I will invest in those Lilypadz or some other reusable high-quality nursing pads. I will eat healthfully w/o being anal about it...and I will RELAX!!