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February mamas--week of Aug 15 - 21

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It's Sunday - thought I'd start a new thread! Most of us are in our second trimester now, yahoo! Here's to a great week - out with the nausea, in with the ease into pregnancy!!


Kater07 February
Chiku due Feb 1 birthing center
Parker'smommy (Heather) due Feb 1
Lisashepp (Lisa) due Feb 1
Sadkitty. Due Feb 1st
Dandylion (Stephanie) due Feb 2
Truvie due Feb 2
PeacefulVegan (who also answers to Tracie) due Feb 3
Lou due Feb 3
Orange due Feb 3 Birth Center with OB
Twin Mom (Deb) Due Feb 4, VBA2C homebirth
Free Thinker (Mandy) due Feb 5
HelloKitty (Kitty) due Feb 6
Letabug (Arleta) due Feb 6
LianneM due Feb 7 homebirth
TexasSuz (Susan) due Feb 7
Happymamajenni (Jenni) due Feb 7 hospital/OBGYN
LesleyLuu (Lesley) due Feb 7 (or 9th?) hospital/OBGYN
DeirdreAlison (Deirdre) due 1st week Feb homebirth, maybe waterbirth
New Life Due Feb 8
Shannon 0218- due Feb 11 hospital birth with great OB
ella-makes-3 (Jasmine) - due ~ Feb. 11 midwife/natural birth at birth center
Tug due Feb 12
Firefly due Feb 13
Christi due Feb 14 hospital birth with fab OB
Periwinkle (Karen) due Feb 14
Fairymomma (Pamela) due Feb 14
Jorie (Margorie) due Feb 14
AmBam (Amber) due Feb 14 homebirth
Wtchyhlr (Joy) due Feb 14
rose angel (Karen) due Feb 16
mama2m&m (Denise) due Feb 16
HydeParkB due Feb 17
Karennnnn (Karen) due Feb 17
Coopsmama (Kristen) Due Feb 17
Shyly (Monica) Due Feb 17
Gretchen Due Feb 18
weesej (Jen) Due Feb 19 homebirth
mehndimama (Stell) due Feb 22 unassisted homebirth
heveasoul due Feb 21, h/b with m/w
woolfairy (Elle) due Feb 27, baby #2 homebirth
Ekblad7+ (Amy) due Feb 20 Homebirth
KateSt. Late Feb. Homebirth
Chloe'sMummy #2
 
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#29 ·
Good morning everyone!

We got back from 1.5 wks vacation in the Adirondacks. It is soooo peaceful and relaxing up there. We're all trying hard to get back in the swing of things.

I had a blood screening (can't remember the name). All good news. Risk of down's 1:5185 (1:500 normal for my age) and risk of Trisomy 18 is 1:1309 (1:1100 normal for my age). So baby looks great from that angle.

But some currently scary news -- my OB now does a genetic questionnaire for all moms to identify risk for various genetic disorders. I hit as high risk for Cystic Fibrosis carrier as I am of exclusively northern european decent on both sides of my family for as far back as I know about. So... he recommended I get a blood test to see if I am a carrier of Cystic Fibrosis. Guess what... I am.
The odds for just being caucasian are 1:20 but apparently it can be as high as 1:5 if of *primarily* northern european decent, not just caucasian. So this morning my dh (who's English-Irish for generations :0) is going in to see if HE is a carrier too. If so, each of our children has a 25% chance of not being a carrier, a 50% chance of being a carrier, and a 25% chance of having full blown CF disease.
Oh please oh please no no no. We should no in a few days. I'm actually more freaking out for my current kids than I am for baby #3. Anyway, right now I'm just trying not to get worked up but it's hard.
 
#30 ·
Tug, that's so scary, the bleed I had was a sub-chorionic bleed and it resolved after a couple weeks, but I didn't have anything wrong with the placenta. Do you have a laptop?? That makes bedrest much easier.
Lesley, I'm thinking about you, be sure to let us know what's going on when you get home.
Periwinkle, remember, everything is still the same as it was before you knew you were a carrier. Also remember, for your current children, obviously both of YOUR parents were at the 1:5 risk level, so the risk of you yourself having CF was higher than the risk of your children having CF. Your husbands Celtic blood should water those risks down as the chance of him being a carrier is pretty slim (I assume by what you've written)
Super tired today, but not feeling pukey, so I'll take the tired. I do however think I'd like to get a porta potty for beside my bed!!! What I wouldn't do to have an on-suite bathroom back!!! Inevitably there are canines stratigically placed in the hallway between the bed and the bathroom, and they only get up when you've decided they won't get up and go to step over them--add to that Bedlam's mandatory escort to the bathroom where she growls and any dog's blocking the way and these every other hour trips are getting really bothersome!!
 
#31 ·
Thanks for the good wishes everyone. DH is home, which is wonderful. We had a nice evening together last night. Todays the day...we leave in about 30 min to drop off dd, eat some breakfast, and then to the doc.

Periwinkle, I know how scary it is when you think that something could be wrong. I'm right there with you. We can just hope and think together that good test results will be coming your way and mine before too long. When do you find out about dh? Try to remember that it is unlikely that he is also a carrier (just like I'll try to remember that 1/72 means 1.5%...)

Update when I return.

Do you all think I should take the day off work tomorrow? I'd kind of like to...
 
#33 ·
Tug--how scary for you!! I am keeping my fingers crossed that everything turns out well for you.

Lesleyluu--Good luck today! I'm sure everything will be fine and once you get the results back you can have a worry-free pregnancy!

Katest--usually the first movements of the baby feel like butterflies fluttering around the uterus. The first couple of times you might not recognize what it is, but when it happens for several moments at a time you'll know. I still haven't felt anything else since Friday, so maybe I just imagined it.


Periwinkle--when can you find out for sure what percentage the baby is in? Probably not until it's born and blood can be tested? It doesn't change how you feel about your current children, so don't let it change how you feel about this baby. I'm sure that's easier said from the outside, though.

My midwife comes today. w00t! I'm ready to finally hear this baby's heartbeat so that I know I'm really pregnant and not just suffering from some freaky version of the flu or something!
 
#34 ·
Take a day off Lesley. You really should just relax and rest just in case.

Tug - I hope you're not stuck on permanent bed rest, I'd go mad.

I've recently caught cloth diaper fever. Ebayers beware, I'm in shark mode!
Fluff had descended upon me hardcore and I've even managed to nterest DH in it by showing him an AIO that has flames on it. He's now avidly searching every diaper site for the perfect diaper with skulls on it
Sorry ladies, he's all mine. lol. So fluff fever has begun and I don't know when it will go away.

I'm feeling wonderful. My appetite is starting to make a comeback, but I want to eat the worst food in the world. I never, NEVER liked spaghetti Os or other crappy processed foods. We stocked up on some quick foods for our survival supply in the pantry (hurricane season...and I'm predicting a busy winter) and DH bought some for himself. I ate two cans of them yesterday
Hmm...I wonder what's next.

Countdown - 11 days of work to go!
 
#35 ·
Thanks everyone.
I wish dh's celtic blood would help! but unfortunately that's northern european too. So he has a pretty decent chance of being a carrier too. If it's just me, we're golden, but if it's both of us who are carriers, then we're going to get dd and ds tested for CF right away, and probably get an amnio
.... 1:4 for a fatal illness is way to scary for me not to know. The test takes about 10 days to come back -- apparently, it's pretty involved, so I'm going to try to sit tight until the end of next week.

Shannon what you said about both of MY parents having had the same risk really helps put my mind at ease. Of course... now I am a carrier as a result, so maybe I just got lucky. AAARRGGG!
 
#36 ·
Shannon - you're only peeing every other hour. I'm jealous. I'm peeing like every 30 minutes....


Lesley - thinking of you...

Periwinkle - wow, it hadn't even occured to me to think about things like cystic fibrosis during pregnancy. One thing about the Midwife i'm seeing is she doesn't talk about genetic counseling. Course DH and I are different races all together, but still.
 
#37 ·
Wow a pregnancy journal - what an awesome idea! I feel kind of dumb because this never really occured to me to do. I'm thinking maybe I will just get one of those cloth covered blank journals and write in that. What a wonderful gift to have when the baby grows up! Hopefully my other boys wont' be jealous that I didn't make one for them....

My belly got noticed for the first time last week! I wasn't real happy with the way it happened but I'm over it now. I ran into this "friend" that always finds a way to insult me and she asked how far along I was now, I told her 16 weeks and she looks at me up and down and goes "Wow, you're really showing a lot for that early." Ouch!
:

The baby is moving all over the place now though and I've been feeling really good (knock on wood) except when my 20 month old knees me or kick me in the belly or jumps on it (which is quite often now for some reason!). Can't wait until our first ultrasound next week though!!!! Yippeee!!!!
 
#38 ·
Joy, that's through the night, (although by Bedlams tired expression today maybe it was more often) during the day its every 1/2 hour or so. As a matter of fact I just had to pull my truck over and go pee behind a tree cause there was no way I'd make it home or back to anywhere with a public washroom!! I will now have to start carrying a roll of toilet paper with me in the truck!!
Lesley, are you back yet??? I'm thinking about you.
Periwinkle, when will you know about your dh??
 
#40 ·
I'm back now!

The amnio wasn't bad at all. It really hurt less than having my blood drawn, and so far, I feel fine, no cramping or anything. It was a strange experience, but more from the tension aspect than anything else.

The ultrasound looked good. The baby was too small to see the heart as clearly as they would have liked, but they said there were no visible abnormalities and no soft markers for Down syndrome. The u/s tech thought it looked like a girl.

The genetic counselor was very nice, reasurred us that usually the amnio comes back okay, and told us that since we're paying out of pocket for the test anyway, she would send the FISH test to the fastest lab. Results should be in by Thursday or Friday for the FISH test, full results in 2 weeks. I'll keep you up to date.
 
#41 ·
That's good to hear Lesley, are you going to take the day off tomorrow?? I'm sure everything will be just fine, with you and with Periwinkle!
Had my doctor's appt, heart rate is 165, all of them have been 155 and up, so if you go by that heartrate thing, I'm guessing boy--is that right--fast heartrate is a boy?? This week she's started doing the urine and weight thing, I'm still 2lbs down from pre-pregnancy weight but certainly going in the right direction. Urine was fine. She says as long as I'm fine with it, for everyone's sanity, she'd still like to see my every week, at least until I can feel the baby moving, and that definitely makes me feel better. It's just so hard to shake the feeling that something will go wrong, I'm definitely calmer and now when I lay down and get ready for her to listen to the heartbeat, I do expect to hear it rather than expect to get bad news, so who knows, maybe someday I'll be all settled down and self confident and ready to trust that my body knows what to do, but until then.......
So Ekblad, you're back, but how are you doing??
 
#44 ·
Lesley - glad to hear it went so well. Good thoughts going your way!

I am counting down the days till I go on vacation...! So much yet to accomplish before we head out, but oh well...going out for a walk this evening came as a higher priority. And work? Well, hoping to get things done and in good shape before Friday...


Hmmm...suppose I could get a load of laundry in before bed...
<---no bow, so that could be dh, right?
 
#45 ·
Lesley, glad the test wasn't painful.....

Shannon, I'm glad you're feeling so much better


Heve, Vacation, Hooray. Yes make your DH do the laundry. Go to bed.

so did i tell ya'll the midwife thinks my due date is Feb 4? That means i'm full term, for a homebirthy, 37wks, at *gasp* Jan 8. It also means that Friday I'm *4* months pregnant. can we say HOLEY COW???? This whole pregnant thing is still so surreal. I mean I am not really showing, yeah i'm a bit pudgy, but no cute belly, and wearing the same jeans i was in May.... I'm not having any real symptoms, just weird spinal alignment issues and ligament stretchy stuff... Just really surreal to me.

Also, had the "i don't know yet if i'm coming back to work" conversation with my boss. I honestly thought he was going to cry.
 
#46 ·
Lesley- glad the test went well. try not to worry about the results. remember, usually these things are fine.

i'm on the every 1/2 hour schedule with you, Joy and Shannon, and i totally get the dog thing, Shannon. my stinky fourteen year old mutt lies directly in any passage and then freaks and flails if you come near her at night. still, i can't be too mean about her since she was sick last week. she's mostly fine now, but the tilting her head thing is still around and makes her look very pathetic.

periwinkle - i have a friend who tested positive as a carrier, as did her hubby. their son, like your other kids, is fine. these are the times when i worry that we all have too much information making us worry about things that may never come to pass. but i totally understand how scary it must be. i hope your hubby's test comes up negative.

after day one of bedrest, i am already going nuts. i am not a stay in bed kind of person. luckily, i do have a laptop!

hugs and healthy wishes to all of you and all of the brave little ones we are carrying.
 
#47 ·
Tug, yeah I know - I try to reassure myself. But I now have three kids, not just one. That certainly ups the odds when you're talking about a 25% chance for each child of a fatal disease. I will certainly feel better if dh's test comes back negative... just *9* more days now...
 
#48 ·
Oh Peri - hope the wait zooms past!!


Joy - I hear you on the surreal state - can't wait till I feel less chubbby, more pregnant!...hmmm...neither of us ended up doing the laundry last night...I went to bed, and dh watched tv...


Feeling not-so-hot today - threw up my breakfast (blueberry pancakes with scrambled eggs, whaaaa!) after catching a whiff of something nasty in the dishwasher...still not feeling right...having an annoying day at work...want my bed. want my vacation!...ok, whine over...
 
#49 ·
Hello everyone! Just got finished with an appointment with the midwife. Everything looks great and I heard I nice strong heartbeat again!!
It was 156. Same as last time. I still have really low blood pressure. 100/54. Explains why I am so tired. Hope all is well with everyone.
Heve~ Hope you feel better soon.

Good luck to those waiting for test results.
I've got to get busy. Have a lot to do today! Have a great day everyone!
 
#50 ·
Hey guys,

Thanks for all the info about omega 3s. I will probably go the supplement route, but am sort of kicking myself for not starting earlier. I had my monthly girls night out last night and ended the evening with a "dump on Kristin for being a totally irresponsible person for choosing a homebirth and most likely causing the death of her baby and possibly herself" session. I was really upset and am still a little emotionally fragile. These are very close friends who are, unfortunately, nothing like me. They are operating exclusively on the basis of fear and their concern for me. I just wish they could trust me to not make any hasty decisions. Anyway, thanks for letting me dump.

Leslie -- I am thinking about you.

Tug --


Periwinkle --
and good wishes, I know the wait is terrible

everyone else, happy Wednesday.
 
#51 ·
Thanks Kristin. I'm doing okay. stayed home to rest today, and so glad I did!

I'm really sorry that your friends were so unsupportive of you. I personally would not do a homebirth, but I would never take issue with someone else who wanted one! It is a personal choice, and it is a valid one. You are right when you said your friends are probably concerned about you and your baby. Is there any literature you could show them to prove that you're making an informed choice, and one that is good for you and your family? If it were me, I might also address each friend individually, and let her know how hurt I was by her behavior, and why. I don't think it is fair for people to gang up on you like that. I'm sending you a hug, and at least you know that you've got the support of women here for your choice.
 
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