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#1 of 30 Old 09-28-2004, 03:39 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I had an ultrasound done today with the midwife I train under. It was not so good. Baby didn't move, couldn't even see a heartbeat until they zoomed way in. They were telling me the baby was gone or on his way out when they did the Doppler and got a strong HB at 160. Put the US back on and baby did move a little bit. He also measured at 16 1/2 to 18 1/2 weeks depending on the measure and I am at least 20 by dates. So I am feeling very sad and not at all reassured by baby moving at the end. The movement I have been feeling have been very light and infrequent even though I began to feel him at 13 weeks, I still only feel Him even 2-3 days--very unusual for me-part of why I wanted the US. At this point I am strongly feeling something is not well with this babe, yet have no choice but to wait and see what will happen. Just needing some hugs
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I'm so sorry.

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To be honest I would make an appt with an OB. Midwives are wonderful for normal healthy pregnancies, but IMO reasons like this are why OB's should be available. It could be something simple, it might not be. There may be something fixable going on that some prenatal testing would identify and be able to treat. I would not be able to just do nothing. I would get a second and third opinion if need be.
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I'm sorry you're going through worry. I don't feel my baby move either. My mw said my placenta is in the front and I'm, umm, a lot more heavy than I was in previous pregnancies. My u/s was also very stressful. I'm sorry yours was as well. I've since gone from worry to nonworry back to worry. Will they do an u/s again? And my third baby measured really small for how many weeks I was. He was born and was 8 1/2 lbs. I hope the same for you. Keep us posted.

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Please get another U/S done to ease your mind. I'm keeping you in my prayers and I will be waiting to hear your update.
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I agree with those that suggested a second u/s. please keep us posted. hugs to you
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Jen, Sending big hugs to you and your family. Let us know how everything pans out. I would get another opinion too. Thinking of you xxxx Jasmine

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Jen,
Sending well wishes and prayers your way. I hope you find some peace! susan
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Ah Jen, I know how stressful this waiting game is. Are there any plans in place as far as when you will be checking him again (oh and do you know it's a him??)
Keep us posted and we'll do all we can to help you through.
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Talked with DH and we are going to get another ultrasound. I am torn with the decision. Yesterdays US was so bizarre. We were certain the baby was gone and then saw the movement, but yet so slow. We weren't able to visualize any organs but the heart and that not well, no real limbs etc. I've never seen an US like it and I've seen quite a few. I hesitate because I wirry about getting a label for a problem and then being unable to think about this baby, and only learning about the problem. It is entirely possible we will learn this baby will not live outside my womb, also possible that we will learn that he needs medical attention at birth to live, and most hopefully could learn that I am really having a baby mid-March (though I doubt it based on LMP and when I had a BFP) I am just trying to keep focused on sending love to the baby and keeping in mind that my body knows how to do this, if there is something different about this baby--it is so and nothing can be done. Sorry to sound so grim ladies--just knowing in my heart that that US was not what a 20 week US should look like.

No I don't know this baby is a boy.
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For what it's worth, I feel that you are making good decisions w more prenatal testing. I hope that everything works out.
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Good Luck in whatever you decide. But, I think it's a smart move to get a second opinion. A gal I used to work with had a prenatal diagnosis of her baby being ancephalic (without an brain) and wouldn't survive outside the womb. They are deeply religious and chose to carry the baby to term. They were able to go to a higher level facility to deliver the baby and be able to donate the baby's organs, since everything else was totally healthy. Knowing ahead of time, gave them the chance to make this plan and save or improve the lives of 9 other babies/children! It's hardly consolation for their loss, but at least gave them a little solace in their grief.

Knowing might also allow you to do research ahead of time and be able to make any decisions that need to be made.

for all the waiting and stressful times ahead.

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Oh Weesj...I'm so sorry that you and your family have to go through this trying time. Sending peaceful thoughts your way -- my heart just goes out to you....

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I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I've been there and I am here if you need to talk. It's hard for most people to know how this feels. Listen to your gut. It will tell you is this baby is ok. I'd go for more testing. It may not always lead to what you want to hear and yes sometimes is useless hindsight but knowing can be healing.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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My thoughts and prayers are out to you while you go through this. I hope you find the support that you need. Get another look with the u/s.

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I'm so sorry,i know those fears so well.Having a special child is an amazing journey.I thank the goddess everyday for my special lil girl and all she has taught me.Whether it is for a day or many years that we know these lil angels it is so good to know they chose us to be with them on their journey through life.
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You and your little one are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Oh mama. I'm so sorry you are playing the waiting game with this little one. As a mama with lots of complications(for me, baby is okay so far) and who was just put on bedrest I sympathize with you. Scary pregnancies consume your life. I definitely think more prenatal testing is the key even though getting a true diagnosis of a problem is likely to cause more worry. I am sorry I can only offer words of comfort when you probably need so much more. I will keep you and your little one in my thoughts for a healthy and safe pregnancy. Please keep us updated on your situation. I'll be worrying about you.
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I am sending you thoughts and prayers. May you have the strength and support you need and the wisdom, too. Sending a hug, susan
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I am so sorry you have to go through this..........you and your babe will be in my thoughts!

I also hope you have the strenght to walk through these next weeks.

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WE went had had another Ultrasound done. The tech wouldn't allow me to look at the screen except at the very end GRRRR! Baby measured 18.5 weeks- could well just be on a 42 weeker insted of 40. He was moving his arms and legs but made no large body movements. Tech commented that he looked squished and didn't have much room. Everything they saw looked normal, however they we not able to visualize all 4 chambers of the heart or either kidney. We are taking it as they just couldn't see them. Report wanted me to come in for a repeat ultrasound in 2-3 weeks, don't think we will---no insurance and usually struggle to buy groceries so this was a big strain already. Will probaly wait until the 3rd trimester and do another in office ultrasound to find the heart and kidneys then go form there.

Thank you for all the well wishes. No we still don't KNOW its a boy, but the tech could easily see the sex and baby never opened its legs, so now we have a good guess that it is a boy.
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Jen, I'm sorry you're still left with questions. The outlook does look better now than it did originally though.
Is there anything we can do individually or as a group to help you out at all??? Other than just the usual sending out of good thoughts of happy boy??
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Jen, thank you for giving an update...I've been thinking of you. It's definitely good news that the baby was moving. I will keep you in my thoughts.
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Sending prayers and happy thoughts your way! :

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Sending you thoughts of strength, peace, and a healthy baby.
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Sorry to be so late in letting you know that I've been thinking of you! I am glad you were able to have a more positive follow up u/s, but sorry that you're still left with unanswered questions. Best wishes to you, regardless. Keep us posted and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. susan
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I had lots of problems with the pg early on, I am happy to report everything is sunny skies now. I hope the same for you. My OB told me this pg, not to even count kicks, because my placenta is really big/thick and I just wouldn't be able to feel them regularly. Now, though, things have moved around a bit, and I can feel kicks if I lay down for a few minutes.
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jen - i just wanted to send you some encouragement. my baby is also measuring small but the last doc to do an ultrasound said to stop worrying. small is okay. and like you said, yours could be a 42 weeker (so could mine, come to think of it). my ds did not move that much it seemed like when i was pregnant the first time and he is fine. in fact, he is a very calm, sweet child.

wishing you lots of luck. i agree with meg that it is hard to have a "not perfect" pregnancy (i'm having one too), but many of them turn out fine. take care of yourself and your sweet baby.
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