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Old 09-14-2009, 07:19 PM
 
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JayGee - Thanks, that does help. Of course my [barbie] brain was thinking (hard) "Now is a length 50? Or is it the whole lap?" but I haven't had to think about it since 2005 so I'm not too [barbie] am I?
Not [barbie] at all ! It actually depends on your pool. The YMCA indoor pool here is 25 meters and the Indiana Univ. outdoor pool is 50m. The pool at my Y in Illinois was only 25 yards! So your pool could be any of the above. Best if you ask the lifeguard on duty how long a length is .

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I have been MIA although I have still been running--school has started for me and teaching is taking up lots of time, plus my dissertation...which MUST BE FINISHED this year or I will implode!

Belated welcome to Heather--I am also a Heather and also slow! I am hoping to do a 5k in October, which would be my first race. I have a dumb 5k question: I'm really taking the couch-to-5k program slowly. I've been having a lot of shin and knee pain, which mostly is gone if I move up slowly (like doing every week for two weeks).

If I go to this 5k, what happens if I can't run the whole way? I mean, am I expected not to walk at all? I think I could do it but I feel like the possibility is there that I'm going to run out of steam. I'm really proud of myself for getting this far but realistically I am still quite out of shape. ha.
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Who is this dingo that lives nearby and runs a similar pace??? I will try to search her out tonight when I get home.


she's right, i AM slow!

so slow, in fact, that i haven't run at all since the SF Half (June 26)....due to injury. i'm afraid when i get back to it, i'll be back to square one, C25K style.

maybe we can meetup once I am back on my feet

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Grandma's marathon in Duluth is next june.
Or the Birkie ski marathon in Feb....
Honestly, I'd be all over this. Any other dingos interested? My MIL is in the Twin Cities, and I have a friend I could stay with in Duluth...

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Mamas can I ask your help about a dinglet issue?

Dd1 who is 8, almost 9 (in October) is officially in 4th grade because in NY, the deadline is Dec. 31st. In most other states, including the one we just moved to, the deadline is Sep. 1st.

She can handle the academic work in 4th grade -- her reading level is at least 6th grade or so -- but anything other than reading is hard work and a bit of a struggle. Also her fine motor skills (handwriting, etc.) are not great; although ironically she is a very talented artist. Not sure why that is, but

Anyway, she is right now in a 3rd/4th classroom (Montessori) and it is great because she can go at her own pace and do the work that is appropriate for her; also she is with her own age group and not only with kids who are significantly older than she is. Today the teacher sent a note home that she needs to be doing the 3rd grade math workbook (at whatever pace she wants, as long as it's correct work) b/c the 4th grade stuff is too advanced and fast paced for her. I said fine; the teacher and I have been discussing the possibility of 'reclassifying' her as a 3rd grader anyhow. I really, really don't want her next year in a classroom with kids more than a year older than she is, at nearly middle school age. But dh is kind of upset and thinks she could handle the work in the 4th grade book.

I am having bad flashbacks to my dad 'helping' me with math and making me cry because I just couldn't follow what he said/how he said it and his expectation that I would just 'get it'. I see the same thing happening with dh and dd when he tries to teach her. He can't relate to her difficulty because a) she is bright; and b) he is a math whiz/science genius. I tried to gently explain this but got a major 'mind your own business' for my efforts.

I have a mind to let the teacher tell him herself that dd is much better off this way, but I don't want that to backfire. Dd is much, much happier doing the 3rd grade work -- however the teacher *is* going over 4th grade material with her in class at her pace, just sending the 3rd grade workbook home for review/reinforcement.

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Nick--my sister is a December baby and my mom really pushed for her to not be "held back" by her birthday (in IL at the time, only December babies were made to wait a year). Mom lost but always felt like my sister could have been a year ahead because she was in the gifted program and all. I was wondering about this issue with DD, and my sister's opinion was that she loved being one of the oldest ones in class and was very happy with the class materials. I'm sure she could have handled the material in the next grade just fine, but that was her December baby perspective. Not sure if it helps your October baby, but I thought I'd share.

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Nic, I would make as few decisions as possible right now. There is so much going on and she might be just fine where she is in a couple of months. I don't know about Montessori but 4th grade can be a big change with fewer manipulatives and more mental math or in-your-head figure-it-out kind of work in general.

If she needs extra help in math help her but her grade placement for next year doesn't need to be decided right now does it?

I hope I haven't gone out on a limb and missed something here but this is my first reaction to your post.

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Nic... that is tough. I would be more inclined to go with what you feel is best. Are you the parent most involved in the day to day of her education and school? If so, you probably have the better idea. The mixed grade class is a real plus for this situation.

I skipped my workout today. I totally should have worked out because I have the major blues. Tomorrow I'm heading to spin class and yoga! Hopefully that will cure me!

I have just been going like the energizer bunny and trying to be positive for so long and I've kind of hit brick wall emotionally. Dang! It sucks big time!!
Whew..our family has just been through the wringer financially.
Plus dh's family has drama frequently, it's far away, but still hearing about it is draining.
I know something positive and good is around the corner, but I just feel drained.
I know some of you are right there too! Big HUGS!!!
Thanks for listening to my whining!
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Today the teacher sent a note home that she needs to be doing the 3rd grade math workbook (at whatever pace she wants, as long as it's correct work) b/c the 4th grade stuff is too advanced and fast paced for her. I said fine; the teacher and I have been discussing the possibility of 'reclassifying' her as a 3rd grader anyhow. I really, really don't want her next year in a classroom with kids more than a year older than she is, at nearly middle school age. But dh is kind of upset and thinks she could handle the work in the 4th grade book.
As an elementary school teacher, I only give my students homework they can do easily on their own at home. Parents should not have to "teach" the homework, just support the process.

If your dh is adamant about doing the 4th grade workbook, perhaps see if it could be something "special" they could do together, without any pressure and/or stress. It sounds as though he would just like to share his passion for math with this daughter, but might need to be reminded to keep into mind who SHE is... not who he want her to be. Does that make sense?

As for reclassify, I would just continue to keep in communication with her teacher and monitor her progress throughout the year. No need to make those decisions right now. See how she does. You might also want to ask what her thoughts/opinions are on the matter.
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I had such a great day in the classroom today and was really geared up for a great run this afternoon, then...

ds had a MAJOR (crying, screaming, etc) meltdown when I picked him up from the afterschool program. : I seriously believed that once he hit 6 years the tantrums and meltdowns would be non-existent. Talk about living in lalaland!

Now, it was his first full day of school (they had minimum days for the 1st 2 weeks) AND the afterschool program, so it was a long day for him.

BUT, I really, really was looking forward to my run. There was just no way I could take him to the gym in such a crappy state, plus he was hungry and really needed some down time.

Oh well, tomorrow is another day... right?
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Nic - my gut would be to let her be where she can shine, not struggle. She'd be 3rd grade age in most places, so it's not like she's behind by any stretch. It sounds, too, like she's in a great situation where she can progress at her own pace. I lean toward thinking it's better to shine and build confidence than to be struggling at the edge of your ability all the time; although of course it's not good to be bored, either. Don't know what to say about the dh part of it - that's really tricky, but maybe you can play up the part where it will really help her confidence and desire to learn?

Mommabelle - many hugs for multiple life stressors. Let's hope sunshine is coming your way soon!

tjsmama - Way to go supermama! I can't believe you survived a half ironwoman! I don't have one bit of boy advice though - I haven't dated in forever and just watching my kids deal with it is stressing me out!

bec - you are so ready for that marathon! I can't believe you had the strength to do that 7 and then take on a half and still run so well!

Holland73 - Welcome! I think you'll get faster just with time and growing base fitness up to a point. Then, when you are comfortably running all your runs, you can add some speed work to help you get even faster.


RR - I've been running! I ran 4 on Sat morning before rounding on my patients and then rushing off to a marching band competition. Last night, I dropped little dd off at a church activity and took off from the church for 8. I only had an hour and a half, and I wasn't exactly sure of the route, so I tried to push the pace a bit. I ended up running 8.31 miles in 1:24:14 (10:08 pace, which included walking for a minute or two to answer a page!) I made it just in time to pick up dd after a few minute cool down walk! Today is an off day. I really need to pick something to train for, although I am sort of enjoying just running for fun and fitness.

NRR - My kids are really busy lately and I can hardly keep up mentally with them! Oldest ds started his senior year of college today. I still don't know what is exactly up with his love life, and apparently he is not going to tell me, so I'm just going to have to wonder. I did talk to his ex today. She's been texting and IM'ing some with me, and I know she's very down and miserable and I feel bad for her - but also don't really know how to be friendly and still supportive of my own kid, and stay out of the relationship issues?

Older dd has decided to go to the homecoming dance. She wanted to go, then decided she didn't feel like putting forth any effort to find a date, and then last year's date asked her yesterday if she'd like to go. She wasn't sure still that she wanted to go, but decided today she would. So now, the decision is whether we'll buy a dress or make one. Dd would prefer to make one, but isn't sure about the time (it's 2 weeks from Sat.) So, off to shop dresses and or fabrics this week. Meanwhile, her marching band won their class at the competition on Sat! It was very exciting, as they beat several bands that are normally powerhouses. Their buses came back into town with a police and firetruck escort with lights on and made a victory lap of the town! It was great fun for the band kids who rarely get the kind of recognition the sports teams usually get.

Little ds brought home his midterm today. It said he is failing science (same problem teacher many of you have heard me gripe about in the past.) So, dh and I check the online gradebook, which claims to be up to date as of Fri 9/11. According to the gradebook, he doesn't have a single missing assignment, hasn't gotten a single failing grade on an assignment, and his class average is actually a B+. Sigh. He's going to ask the teacher what was up with that tomorrow. I'm really not looking forward to dealing with this woman for a whole 'nother year. But supposedly she is retiring after this year. His baseball season ended on Friday, with a pretty good game for him. His second to last game was a disaster - he missed the team bus, arrived stressed out to the game, got brought in to pitch in relief in only the 2nd inning, and then got pulled as pitcher and put in right field because the previous right fielder had so many errors, and then the poor kid made an error himself in right field and got yanked entirely out of the game. He only batted once, and hit into a double play. It was not a good experience and fortunately the last game went better! He's ready to be done with baseball for a bit, though - he's been playing on one team or another since April!

Little dd has her school open house tomorrow and is just thrilled to death about 1st grade. She has the same teacher Justin had and she is really skilled at helping kids go at their own paces and encouraging them in their strengths. Dd is reading better every day - although it still fascinates me that she learns so much like my older ds and so little like her middle siblings. They were natural readers and went from barely sounding things out to reading well in a very short time. She is reading just above grade level and having a ball and progressing nicely, but so much slower than they did! I think she and her oldest brother both had to wait for their eyes to catch up with their brains. She sees each letter separately - and she's bright, so she can sound things out and memorize patterns, but until her little eyes and brain can see whole words at a time she won't read as fluently as she'll be able to later. I'm so glad her teacher is skilled at keeping her excited. Then I was wondering, after reading Balancin1's facebook if I should have her eyes checked again? She had them checked a year ago and was fine then.
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Morning mamas!

Nic - I agree that it may be too early to make a decision but I'd lean toward keeping her in 3rd grade too. We had exactly the same issue when we moved here. C is an October baby and in Mexico she started 1st grade before turning 6 but when we moved here and all the other kids her age were still in kindy we had her repeat 1st last year. She'd given 1st a try for the first couple weeks toward the end of the year when we arrived but it was clear that the math would be a constant struggle. Now she's one of the oldest kids and she's also one of the most confident. And, in case this is a concern, she didn't seem to even notice that she was repeating. I mean, she didn't notice any stigma or anything. I hope your dh can change his perspective.

DrJen - Good to see you! I was wondering where you were, selfishly wanting you to spend more of your precious time here!

So today I'm planning to do a short warm-up run and then the upper body day of Body-for-Life. I'm a little scared that I'll be embarrassingly weak but I guess I have to start somewhere. I found my old exercise binder from Mexico and I'm loading up on podcasts and music so : it's the first day of a whole new me!

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Poppy - You've only been out since July mama, I know it must feel like longer though. :

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RR: did a good 3m, including a mile of speedwork, this morning - it was so great to run outdoors (albeit mostly in the dark) with no water bottle, no stuff to carry, no big run... my mile pace was 7:39, which felt shockingly fast, although I've never timed myself before so who knows.

Digging myself out of a work hole, sigh.

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plady- you're right! july. my summer felt like this :

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poppy ~ I'll be joining you in C25K-Land in about 2 weeks. I'm on track for starting back the first week of October.

Penelope ~ FAST! Great run there .

Nic ~ I'm going to echo what most here have said. Let her move at her own pace and make the decision to repeat further down the road. How fortunate that she is in the multiage class, so if she is retained, it will barely be a blip on anyone's radar screen. Cutoff here in Indiana is August 1. DS has an October birthday and likes being one of the older kids in his class. Oh and I can totally relate to your story about your dad trying to "teach" you math. My own father is an electrical engineer with advanced degrees from MIT and CalTech. He tried to teach me calculus my senior year, using the "well, just skip these steps because they are totally obvious and here's the answer" method. No wonder I failed . Same thing happened when he tried to teach me to drive stickshift .

I just picked up DD2 from preschool and the teacher told me she was punching a little boy :. I asked her why and she said, with great distain, "Because I don't LIKE boys." So I've got a kisser and a puncher. Ack.....

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Thanks mamas. I think I will do exactly what you said...wait and see how she does and go from there. It is indeed wonderful that she's in the multiage classroom. We are very lucky to have this option here, and it's free!

I just went and spent : amt of money on food for Rosh Hashanah. I am making a turkey, and chicken soup, and a variety of other foods (there are four meals -- two dinners and two big lunches -- to cook for) including a lasagna, etc. But the most money was of course on the poultry (kosher is more expensive everywhere but especially here) and on things like two pomegranates (a traditional food eaten at RH). $2.99 each! Holy moly. I also bought some wine, which we don't usually have but it makes for a very nice meal to have something other than grape juice for the grownups .

I am making chocolate chip challahs for us and for both dds' classes (I'm going to the school to talk about our traditions). It's a tradition to have sweet foods on RH (for a sweet new year) and my family doesn't love raisins in challah, so I do it with chocolate chips. Yummy. I am also making honey cookies and cakes. Has anyone else noticed how expensive honey is? Whoa.

But it's all good. The turkey will last us at least two meals and then leftovers, and the chicken I use in the soup will then make wonderful chicken salad. (the best chicken salad ever is from soup chicken, it cooks with the veggies etc.). so it stretches. But it's a big outlay...

Anyway, no FM for me today yet. And kind of a bad eating day. Huh.

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Plady, I right there with you on upper body strength. Tomorrow I start a new phase in my weight-lifting program that is all about upper body strength. I fear what I will learn but my goal is unassisted chin-ups. I start with negative chin-ups and know I can do those but it makes keeping any extra weight off that much more important as I don't need any extra to lift.

Nic, we are not celebrating a new year but you have inspired me. I'm going to make cinnamon raisin bread today for french toast tomorrow.

RR: I did not feel up to anything this morning and got a slow start. As usual I felt much better after the first 3 miles. Too bad I only had time for 4 before the morning began in earnest.

really not rr: I went to my first PTO meeting last night. It was much of what I expected so not great. I am sure the executive committee is very hard working and gets an admirable amount of work done that benefits the school but the meeting was painful. There was one very vocal woman who was my opposite in about every way possible. She kept complaining about how the teachers were taking all the fun out school these days and was quite upset that there would be a harvest festival but not a Halloween party and that if a child came in costume no weapons, including swords, would be allowed. I am not sure where I was headed with all this but I'm done now.

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hmmm, my earlier post was sucked into the vortex of our crappy internet service here at work. it's my last day before vacation, headed into the last hours before I get out of here. My boss sent out an email to the ENTIRE company, including the execs at our parent company, about my upcoming race. I find this pretty embarrassing as i like to keep my work and my personal life fairly separate, but I certainly have appreciated all the supportive emails from my co-workers around the world.

the funny thing was how he pointed out that is was a 22 mile course, and everyone has been suitably impressed. But i just did 50 miles on the singlespeed a few weeks ago, so really 22 miles sounds easy to me. Though the terrain and elevation should make it plenty difficult.

I'm 90% packed, just have to throw in a few last minute things. my in-laws are in the neighborhood ready to take over for us and we leave around 4 am tomorrow.

Mbelle - sorry you've been put through the wringer lately, hope it turns around soon.

DrJen - congrats on DD's band achievement, that sounds like fun. Good luck dress shopping.

Nick - sounds like some great cooking is about to happen at your house.
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Hi Ladies,

Long time no "see".

Life seems to have gotten in the way of my ability to get on MDC, but seems to be lightening up now so hope to see more of you.

RR: Been running on and off, but nothing really serious. Now that life seems to be slowing down I hope to get back at it more seriously.
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Mamas can I ask your help about a dinglet issue?

Dd1 who is 8, almost 9 (in October) is officially in 4th grade because in NY, the deadline is Dec. 31st. In most other states, including the one we just moved to, the deadline is Sep. 1st.

She can handle the academic work in 4th grade -- her reading level is at least 6th grade or so -- but anything other than reading is hard work and a bit of a struggle. Also her fine motor skills (handwriting, etc.) are not great; although ironically she is a very talented artist. Not sure why that is, but

Anyway, she is right now in a 3rd/4th classroom (Montessori) and it is great because she can go at her own pace and do the work that is appropriate for her; also she is with her own age group and not only with kids who are significantly older than she is. Today the teacher sent a note home that she needs to be doing the 3rd grade math workbook (at whatever pace she wants, as long as it's correct work) b/c the 4th grade stuff is too advanced and fast paced for her. I said fine; the teacher and I have been discussing the possibility of 'reclassifying' her as a 3rd grader anyhow. I really, really don't want her next year in a classroom with kids more than a year older than she is, at nearly middle school age. But dh is kind of upset and thinks she could handle the work in the 4th grade book.

I am having bad flashbacks to my dad 'helping' me with math and making me cry because I just couldn't follow what he said/how he said it and his expectation that I would just 'get it'. I see the same thing happening with dh and dd when he tries to teach her. He can't relate to her difficulty because a) she is bright; and b) he is a math whiz/science genius. I tried to gently explain this but got a major 'mind your own business' for my efforts.

I have a mind to let the teacher tell him herself that dd is much better off this way, but I don't want that to backfire. Dd is much, much happier doing the 3rd grade work -- however the teacher *is* going over 4th grade material with her in class at her pace, just sending the 3rd grade workbook home for review/reinforcement.

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We are having a somewhat similar issue here and I am still on the fence as to the decision we made. dd1 was in a Waldorf school last year (Kindergarten). Their cut off is the end of May. We have since had to send her to public school where the cutoff is December. As a result she is in grade 2, having never done grade 1. When I spoke to the vice principal last year she insisted that dd should be in an "age appropriate" grade. My response of course was her birthday is the end of November and I don't think being 6 weeks or so older than the oldest in the class would be a big deal. I was really wanting her to be in grade 1. Having said that dh really wanted her in grade 2 and I have been reassured over and over that "she is a girl so she will be fine" : Our problem is the opposite of yours. dd is fine as far as math goes (since they don't do too much of that in grade 1), but she is definitely behind in reading. It has only been a week so not to sure how this is going to work out. Oh and she is also in a 1/2 split which I think is definitely a plus. I am really just waiting to see what happens, but I am concerned about her self esteem as she is hard on herself at the best of times. So, no brilliant insight, but I feel your pain.
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: should I openly admit I don't even pay the PTA/PTO/PTSA/whatever dues?



Hi Hollysmom. Good to see you. Erin's in first this year.

must run. first day of preschool was a hit, but the little dictators are now being demanding.

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kerc. I mostly ignore the PTA, which since their meetings are on a weekday morning, seems to be their attitude to me, as well. I get that the school needs money to do everything, but I can't possibly find money in the budget for all of the PTA fundraising extras. I do enough of that to make the kids feel like we're participating, but that's it.

I'm so tired and have a week of tired ahead of me. We did the minor prophets in class today and it feels like a "How long, O Lord?" kind of week already.

My craziest colleague is on an especially crazy bent today, which makes me a little bit anxious - I really like him, but he's increasingly hostile and feeling persecuted and I'm a little uneasy about how much anger he's venting. (I'm totally safe! Just anger makes me anxious.)

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Cutoff dates are weird. IMNSVHO they should be the same everywhere.

I think I may have burned out my kitchenaid motor. It smells kinda weird, I just made a batch of challah dough that seems like it was too much for the machine to handle. Uh oh.

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I might be crazy, but Duluth sounds like a blast in June! I might be persuaded to do another marathon!

Dinglets and school - I have the exact opposite problem. Emily is the oldest in her class, missing the cutoff by a few months. I think 1st grade would be a WAY better fit for her than kindergarten. The big event of her day yesterday was tracing her name. This makes me want to cry. She came home asking for homework, so I gave her a multiplication workbook to start on. She is reading at a near 3rd (maybe higher?) level, and definitely doing 3rd grade level math. We just had a conference with her teacher last week about challenging her (they refused to hear about acceleration, assuring us that they would be perfectly capable of differentiating in grade). As soon as the newness of school wears off, she's going to be bored out of her mind. I'm working VERY hard right now to keep her happy and not let my bad attitude ruin her school experience. But, it's hard.

Jen - Congrats on DD's band win!!!

Mmmmm, chocolate chip challah!:

RR: 5 miles with Abby in the jog stroller. My legs are still tired from Sunday! But, I still managed around a 12:00 pace!

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I'm 90% packed, just have to throw in a few last minute things. my in-laws are in the neighborhood ready to take over for us and we leave around 4 am tomorrow.
What's your costume?

Nic - Healing fairy dust for your mixer. Maybe it just needs a moment to collect itself.

So I did about 3 miles then my upper body routine, and a wee swim. I was really happy to see that the gym has dumbbells for 8, 12, 17.5 lbs. and that I wasn't nearly as feeble as I had expected to be. It felt really good to be back into that mode.
And then I conked out completely while I was nipping Alison down for her nap. : I'll build stamina too right? Or maybe I need to start working on getting children to sleep through the night in their own beds - again. I don't know when it happened but Alison has been getting in bed with me earlier and earlier and trying to nurse more and more often so that I keep thinking (bitterly) about how my Mom Day starts at about 1:35 am and goes through bedtime. Oy.

Hi Hollysmom! Good to see you back!

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Bec - I hear you, I had the same concerns last year at this time when Chiara was repeating 1st to get in with the right age group and they were going over the alphabet. But after the first couple weeks it did seem like things sorted out to be more appropriate for each kid's level. Of course, Chiara is not a genius at math and basically at grade level so she wasn't bored, but still, try not to get freaked out too soon.

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Mandy - whoa! That would make me really uncomfortable too.

nic - that sounds like an awesome feast! I'd gladly trade you some pomegranates from my tree for a taste.

mommajb - I know exactly what you mean about being bothered by the woman who is your exact opposite. There is a mom that is my opposite at DD's ballet class, and I can assure you I'm not a violent person at all, but I always just want to punch her. She just does not shut up. Ever. And she talks really, really loud so as to always be the center of attention. Total drama queen. :

penelope - that's a super fast mile! You're going to be great at your marathon!

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Thank you for the good wishes!!!!

Today was nice. I went to yoga and that was perfect.
I just sat out on the screen porch listening to the rain. More nice!

Plady..peaceful zzz's tongiht! I don't lose much sleep these days but DS crawls in bed with dd and she doesn't like it anymore. This past week took some work and an agreement. He can sleep in her room in the trundle but not her bed. I know we have to work out of that but for now it's working.

Holland 73 did you get your run today?

Jaygee..woohoo for soon to be running! I need to get some sort of rehab. Just doing yoga today gave a slight ache to my hips.

Nic..enjoy your holiday! Especially the choc chip challah. I went to montessori school and I remember this Mom coming celebrate Jewish holidays. Potato latkes were my favorite.

mommajb..chin ups? that's tough!
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gmm~I get the weirdness and discomfort, but that's still pretty cool to get that kind of recognition at work! And I also hear you on the distance thing. Weird, huh? Have a great trip, and let me know if you end up having a few free minutes to grab a coffee or something on your way through!

, Hollysmom!

bec~I do kind of like the idea of a June marathon, but the problem for me is that if I get into nursing school, I will hopefully be starting either right at the end of May or the beginning of June. And not knowing anything about what kind of schedule I might have that first session makes me nervous to plan something like that. I was kind of looking at the San Diego RnR marathon, too, but same situation. Hmm. I'm going to an informational session for applicants next month, maybe I'll have some more insight after that...


It's been a weird day. We had a really nice morning at the zoo with our friends (the non-date ), and then I dropped DS off at school. Where I got a little teary having to actually leave him. He asked me if I was coming with him, and when I said no, he was like...ok! And headed right in without looking back. At least he was excited to see me when I picked him up.

I used the 2 1/2 hours to run some errands, where I ended up going to three different places to find some stuff to repair a nick in my wetsuit because the first two were out. And had no luck finding a 70.3 sticker to put on my car, either. :

I just feel, I don't know, twitchy today. Like I really need to be doing something. I posted on FB, but I was seriously contemplating signing up for a half-marathon this weekend. I think the voices of reason (gmm, kate~mom) have talked me down, but I was pretty close. I probably would have just done it, but I really can't afford the last minute registration fee ($95, ouch!). I'm still kind of thinking about signing up for a half next month ("only" $90 ), but we'll see. I just feel like I need to DO SOMETHING. Argh.

No word from the boy today. It's such a weird situation. He's said some things that definitely make me thing he has interest (such as "blowing the opportunity" to get my info), but then again, he kind of disappears. I know I'm email addicted, and respond way more quickly to emails than a lot of people, because I'm online allthetime, but I would think if he was interested, he would reply in less than 24 hours, ya know? Or use the phone number that I gave him in one of those emails. Or something. Oh well. If that was it, it was a fun little flirtation while it lasted...

Ok, time for a little homework. I'm hoping to bust out my A&P homework quickly, which will just leave me my lab to do by Sunday, and then watch the Biggest Loser while getting blog posts up about DS's first day of preschool and the HIM.

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I was going to suggest SD RnR, Gaye! Or there's always Huntington Beach in Feb. or L.A. in March or...lots of possibilities here if you want to get away from the snow for a bit next winter. Just sayin'.
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