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I have not run all week. Yikes!

Big festival this weekend, then I've got a market running every weekend until October.
So, needed for tomorrow and Sunday. It's rainy and cold, and that isn't the most awesome setting to display soap.

I will make time to run! Tonight, tomorrow or sunday at least once.
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I think I have been spending too much time with the chickens. This month's ovulation is killing me. It's a perfect day for a run if you don't mind rain. I'll probably TM run if I get to run at all. Might see about hitting the Y after dinner. Will be weird, but maybe it will work.

I still have not figured out how to build my days. I am going to spend some time looking back this weekend and see what makes sense. Look at my email history, see when I get info from the office, that kind of thing. They have been generous with deadlines, so I can do most of my work at night and just take calls throughout the day most days. Mostly, I need to chill and not claim full responsibility for everything. I will get there, hopefully by end of next week. Kids and I are working on strategies to get through our chores without constant conflict. They're thinking job list.

I am done spinning honey (est. 35 lbs) and I think the finger infection has cleared. It's still tender, but it had been really swollen, then lanced, and then the layers of skin peeled off...so I think it's OK. I want to cancel my follow-up.

DD(6yo) made the omelet this AM. I folded it out of the pan for her.
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Hi everyone!

Penelope, All I can say is, I hope and pray for you that everything works out as you want it. Having been through the wringer lately in my own marriage, I can empathize with the roller coaster emotions.

Jo, forgive me, but how exactly does spending time with your chickens affect your own ovulation? I get the egg thing but maybe I'm just missing something. Or maybe I'm taking literally what you meant sarcastically, which would not be the first time I'm oblivious.

So here we are in NJ and i had a GREAT run yesterday. It is super hilly near my folks and I thought I"d just bonk, but I ran the 3.6 miles around the lake in just 35 minutes and really could have gone around again. It felt fantastic to get my mojo back, and I'm attributing it to the lack of intense heat and humidity combined. IT is humid/muggy here but the temp is not high (in the low 70's) and I guess it makes a tremendous difference for me.

And that was after I did a mile with my oldest dd, who ran it without stopping to walk! Of course we were sort of shuffling, but she 'ran' the whole time! I'm very proud of her. We did it in 13:36 and now I owe her a manicure . Next stop, increasing distance incrementally and decreasing time incrementally. I think the motivation/bribes will have to be significantly less expensive, like songs for her (as yet unbought) iPod which she wants for her birthday. Hey, it works. And she likes how it feels after she runs!

(Alas, like me, she is not poetry in motion to watch, form-wise. We come from hearty peasant stock I suppose -- not elegant or efficient. But we still get it done)

Off to see my SIL and nieces today!

Still dealing with house BS. Ugh.

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Nic, yeah. Sarcasm. Feel like I'm making a jumbo egg this month is all.

Just re-read my post and see how rambly and unclear it is. Sorry.

My back just went out on me. I think I caught it OK and can get it back fast. Just took a couple muscle relaxants to help me out.
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Thanks for the hugs, mamas. I really, really appreciate it. Dh *is* being P/A, 'cause that's his most comfortable mode of (not) communicating. It's so hard for me to unravel what's his depression, and what's his choices - I'm trying hard to be supportive, but I'm frustrated. And my patience is really wearing thin. His doctor did start him on lithium, which is kind of old skool as a drug for mental health problems, but at least it's cheap. Hopefully it will have some effect.

Today I'm wrangling both kids through four registration appointments. What a day for my babysitter to be on vacation! And my hip is feeling much better - I'm going to do some yoga and be good with the ibuprofen and hope for the best.

MIL is coming for the weekend, did I mention?

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Penelope--so sorry about all of it. We have some of the same issues here. 3

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Hey, real...what kind of shirt did you get for the Slacker half last year? I'm starting to contemplate registering a little more seriously, but I want to get the right size shirt. Was it a tech shirt, or just a t-shirt? I'm assuming unisex...
It was a long-sleeve unisex tech shirt and I think I got a medium? It's big on me--but comfortably big. I don't like my stuff to fit too tight. Unfortunately, I also left it up in the mountains, thinking I might want to use it for the race next weekend (the whole "record temperature" thing didn't really register) so I can't check until then.

Hoping to get a run in this morning, ideally to the chiropractor and back. However, J needs to finish nursing so I can get a shower first. Ideally, I'd like to hang the laundry too. So much to do, so little time.

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Thanks for the hugs, mamas. I really, really appreciate it. Dh *is* being P/A, 'cause that's his most comfortable mode of (not) communicating. It's so hard for me to unravel what's his depression, and what's his choices - I'm trying hard to be supportive, but I'm frustrated. And my patience is really wearing thin. His doctor did start him on lithium, which is kind of old skool as a drug for mental health problems, but at least it's cheap. Hopefully it will have some effect.
I don't know. It seems that his depression and his choices are so intermixed as to be virtually indistinguishable. And depression is not a good or valid excuse for making hurtful choices, imo. It seems that you spend a lot of time accepting the responsibility of the consequences of his depression, and that isn't fair to you. And, I say this very gently, when does it start to become enabling behavior? I think there can be a fine line between supporting and enabling. Just something to think about. I hope school registration goes well!

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Bec, thanks.

(Warning, lots of non-running-related marriage musing to follow): I appreciate the insight. It's a struggle for me to figure out how to juggle the goals of stability for my kids (which requires/entails a lot of support for dh) vs. working toward a more healthy relationship (which would take a lot of really painful work, and IMO might not be achievable.) I do think some of the choices I make enable him to treat me badly. And enable him to kind of drift along, without much accountability for his actions.

I also can't support the kids on my own, and racked up a lot of cc debt while dh was voluntarily unemployed for 6mos last year. So it seems vital that he stay in his current job, which seems at this point to require things like me getting him up in the morning and encouraging him to see his therapist, etc. It felt pretty clear to me that one motivation he had for quitting his previous (two) jobs (in rapid sucession) was to simultaniously punish me and ensure that I didn't end the marriage.

Sigh. It feels pretty messed up. I am taking the following constructive steps: controlling our spending (easy enough - no money. ) and taking charge of our bill-paying, which gives me more insight into how the finances are working. I'm also being as honest as I can with my mom, who is a pretty big support person for me. I *feel* better than I did six months ago when he was still unemployed.

My hip is feeling better, so I'm resisting the urge to run and plan to get some yoga in if I can today. Maybe I'll run tomorrow.

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Penelope. You sound like you could really use the support of your Dingo sisterhood right now. You said before that he mentioned something about separating. Do you think he'd actually do that or is he just blowing smoke? At any rate, I'd start stashing some cash in a savings account each paycheck (even $50 or so) just in case. I'm so sorry you're going through this .

My big race plan for this summer just went up in smoke. DS's was supposed to be attending a one day mountain bike/outdoor adventure camp tomorrow, but they postponed it until July 10 due to huge storms rolling through Indy. Of course, July 10 is the day of my planned aquabike race. Jacob's camp is in Indy (not Bloomington) and there is no way it can work out with me out of town. So no race. Glad I haven't plunked down my entry fee yet, at least .

Now, to stop drowning my disappointment in sugar....

Off to the closing night of VBS and the carnival (if it's not rained out).

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Penelope, maybe you and I should open savings accounts together so we can hold each other accountable for building a 'rainy day' fund.

I'm exhausted. We spent a great day at my brother and SIL's but sometimes managing my mom is like having another kid. Sigh.

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Penelope. You sound like you could really use the support of your Dingo sisterhood right now. You said before that he mentioned something about separating. Do you think he'd actually do that or is he just blowing smoke? At any rate, I'd start stashing some cash in a savings account each paycheck (even $50 or so) just in case. I'm so sorry you're going through this .
I think this is a great idea. Of course, everything seems so simple on the other side of the internet, but it is so messy in person. I think the steps you are taking are reasonable and healthy choices.

JayGee - I'm sorry about your race. That looked like a really fun one. Maybe plan on it for next year. I surely understand about disappointment with races!

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nic and penelope~Speaking from experience, you both need a rainy day fund. It doesn't even need to be a bank account, and in fact, perhaps shouldn't be...in CO, at least, you have to disclose any accounts during divorce proceedings, so should you get to that point, you'd have to disclose it and probably end up splitting it. I started a "sock drawer fund" when I knew things were going downhill. Periodic ATM withdrawals that got stashed in my sock drawer. It has since been moved to a safer position in my firesafe box, but I should probably start an actual account with it, now that I can do so without XH finding out. Admittedly, our financial circumstances were better, but I managed to get enough money to live for a month or two squirrelled away in a relatively short period of time. And I'm not saying this because I think that either of you necessarily WILL end up in a divorce situation, but because I care and want you both to be prepared for the worst. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst, right? :


I had my rescheduled bike fit this afternoon, and it was great! Of course, I ended up having to spend some $$ beyond the bike fit itself, but I got such a steal on THAT ($61 for a $180 session) that I really can't complain, and it makes such a big difference that I think it's totally going to be worth it. And waiting a week for the tri specialist was also totally worth it. Not to mention, he was cute. So, I now have aerobars on my bike, hooray! I'm soooo glad I didn't just slap them on myself, there were some significant adjustments that needed to be made, not the least of which was putting a new, shorter stem on (the part that connects the handlebars to the bike frame). He said a new seat post would be ideal, but the new stem should get me close enough, for now anyway. So now, I just need to wait for the monsoon to let up so I can go test it out. It's supposed to rain All. Weekend. Long. Sigh. I have a group ride planned for Sunday morning, but it's looking doubtful...

rr~A nice 4 through the neighborhood with dog and stroller. Followed up by push-ups/sit-ups. Why is it that I feel like my belly pooch is actually getting bigger? At least my biceps are looking pretty buff!

Hoping to try for 12 in the morning. We'll see how the weather cooperates, though. I don't think I can handle even TRYING 12 on the dreadmill at this point in time. This is my deciding run to see if I can go for the half in two weeks or not...

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What do men worry about when life seems to be unraveling? Why for women does it always seem to come back to money. I heard the same thing from my great-grandmothers' and grandmothers' generation. My mom made sure that it wasn't her issue. It would be an issue in the short term for me but it can't just be that I SAHM because it seems to be an issue for some WOHM also. Is it motherhood and not womanhood? Is it that money is an issue already? Is it that money is actually easier to think and talk about than the emotional issues? Sorry to derail... I hate money. I'll just go run or something. I hope I am not outing myself as stupid or or anything even more horrid.

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bec - I'm late with this, but I'm so happy to hear the good news about your leg!

jaygee - that's a bummer about the race. Any way you can involve your "best babysitter in the world" and make it work?

penelope -

Gaye - I'm pretty sure I've read somewhere that if you don't do situps properly that you actually do make your belly look poochier. Unfortunately, I don't remember any details, I guess I'm not much help. Maybe someone else knows more?

I guess I didn't give myself enough of a break after my marathon because my foot randomly started bothering me last week. What is it with me and foot issues after marathons? Anyway, I haven't run for a week and I don't even care all that much. I'm rather enjoying the break.

I really wish my &%$@ dogs would stop eating all of the nectarines off the tree before they even ripen. It's a dwarf tree and it's on a slope so the big dingo has access to almost the whole tree. He pulled off an entire branch today!
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Money definitely is an issue that keeps people together. Sometimes, that turns out to be a good thing. I am an advocate of the sock drawer fund...but had I had a substantial one, I might not be where I am now. I think for me, it wasn't a fear of being without money, but the idea that, if I didn't have enough to keep my kids "as well" as we could together, would I be making a selfish choice, rather than one in everyone's best interest? And all the judgments that go along with such a situation. I am about 4 years past caring about other people's judgments.

I am zonked on the muscle relaxants. This thing isn't as mild as I thought it was. I just made a pile of chocolate cupcakes, frosted with chocolate, dipped in green coconut and decorated with candy soccer balls. Ds had a birthday 3 weeks ago and we're celebrating with my parents tomorrow. Chili dog extravaganza. I'm putting out the works. This is going to be the best lunch ever. If I can stand up.
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It's nearly two in the morning and I'm going to be totally wrecked when I have to wake up at 7:40 to get everyone to soccer, but I wanted to pop in and let you know, Penelope, that I'm here, too.

I'm so sorry about what you're going through, and I'm glad that you are being clear-sighted about your situation and you are making plans to do what needs to be done for you. I hope the new meds help the situation out some; it sounds like you are so overburdened right now. I'm thinking of you and hoping for better things to come.
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Penelope, maybe you and I should open savings accounts together so we can hold each other accountable for building a 'rainy day' fund.
This is really a great idea, Nick.

Congrats on getting your mojo back! That humidity can just suck the life out of you, can't it?

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What do men worry about when life seems to be unraveling? Why for women does it always seem to come back to money.
Ya know, I've wondered about this, too. I think it is money = security. We are essentially worrying that we will be fed, clothed and have a bed to sleep in at night, and that goes for us and the kids, too. Part of it is probably cultural/social, but wouldn't part of it be an instinct, too?

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Gaye - I'm pretty sure I've read somewhere that if you don't do situps properly that you actually do make your belly look poochier. Unfortunately, I don't remember any details, I guess I'm not much help. Maybe someone else knows more?
Yeah, my Muscle Max teacher, who is totally built and even competes in some kind of fitness competition every year, has a kind of *outie* belly. Not belly-button, just her whole belly. It doesn't look bad, because she doesn't have an ounce of fat on her, but I was wondering if some people just have that shape or if it's a question of technique?

Our town festival started last night. My preschool coop is outside just across the street from my apartment setting up the stand to sell food and drinks in the kid's area. I'm officially starting at 11 am, which is in 10 minutes. It's going to be a crazy day! But the weather is awesome!


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Mel ~ have a great time at the festival!!!

cfg ~ mmmmm.... nectarines! Can't say I blame your pups !

I talked to DH about the race last night and he still wants me to do it ! He said, "We'll figure out a way to make it happen!" Not sure how yet, but it may just involve that babysitter .

Jo ~ I understand what you're saying too. And you too, mommajb. With Penelope's H threatening separation though, I wouldn't want her to be left in the lurch.

My rhetorical question of the day ~ WHY (oh why) is it that I've had to wake my children up at 7:30am all week long to get them ready for Vacation Bible School, but today, when we have NOTHING planned and it's pouring rain, do both DDs wake up at 6:15????? Maddening, I tell you.

I am scheduled to ride 40 miles today, but since it's torrential out there, I'm postponing until tomorrow. Hopefully it will be drier by then.

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Quick post here - I can't seem to keep up lately. I read, but never get here to post!
I'm missing someone's race for the race list - bec, I got yours, but I know I'm missing someone else and now I can't figure out who!

Penelope - needed to throw another hug in here. It's rough being faced with those kinds of decisions, and there is probably no one good answer.

RM - how's your dad doing? What a scary accident, and terrile that he was sent home to cope so quickly.

bec - I'm so glad you're healed up and get to race again!

RR - I've been a FM nut lately, between running and taking classes at my Y. I took yesterday completely off, for the first day is quite a while. The extra exercise has been helping with my stress management, and I think I FINALLY managed to take off a few pounds!

NRR - I'm a nervous wreck today. My oldest ds graduates college today. (That is not so nerve wracking) My mom is in town, so we're meeting her and my aunt and uncle at graduation (any thing involving my mom can be nerve wracking) Meanwhile, ds has been looking at engagement rings, and making plans to likely move to Iowa with his girlfriend, who got a nice job there. He has a 3rd interview at a place in Iowa on Friday. (Having your precious baby move to another state is pretty darn nervewracking) Today, after graduation, her family and our family are all going out to celebrate their graduations. We've never met her family - and meeting people you may be sort of related too soon is extremely nervewracking! Wish me luck!
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Dingos, thank you for the good advice. I'm going to take it seriously. I really, really appreciate it.

Jen, congrats and hi-fives and . Hope the day goes perfectly. Your dh's gf got a job at Waldorf College, right? (iirc?) Very cool! Hope their plans come together.

I spent the evening at a work function for dh, with a polo player who's also a Ralph Lauren model. (The women from marketing made me get a picture with him - like a rose and a cabbage, I'm sure.) It's a funny world. Dh is spending today at a polo match. MIL is here, so I may be able to sneak a short run in, hopefully before it gets blisteringly hot. I maybe should have had less bourbon.

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Penelope You're incredible for being the support you are in spite of the @!$# treatment you're receiving. We can't know where the MI ends and the bad behavior choices begin, but know that every Dingo holds you up in our hearts. You deserve love, kindness and happiness.

I hope I didn't come off as saying it's bad to make contingency plans. It's GOOD. I recommend it. At the very least, it can mean getting a deposit for an apt., a much-needed car in certain circumstances, or whatever. And YES! On $$ = security.

Running will not happen until I can move more reliably and my back can take the impact. Beginning tomorrow, I will go to the Y daily and leave kids with dh. Also after he gets off work during the week. I need some peace and quiet alone. I've got all kinds of nerves going off in my back.

Dh's second summer business trip has been reassigned to someone else. It's a yay-boo, since there are things I like about the periods of independence, BUT with summer vacation, it is far better to have the respite at day's end than to have to cook fewer meat-based meals. Also, I might force the issue and get him to take a couple days off work so that I can take a couple days out of town in July. We're going to start putting up hay next week already, so I hope to have the mow filled before Ramadan.
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lost because of some miscommunication- I depend on my Garmin for everything, my Garmin didn't love your island, and I have no sense of direction so the fact that the teacher had told me that we were heading west didn't do anything for me. I spent 40 minutes driving from the machine's definition of the county park to the state park to the real county park. If I had a brain in my head I would have just called you, instead I just drove around. The good news...........you guys have a drive through coffee stand in Friday Harbor.
No, Garmins don't do well here. I used the GPS tracker on my the iphone once and it logged 3x the miles I was really doing. And at the 40 minute drive, you must have crcumnavigated the island to be in the car that long!

Mel - about crunches making the belly bigger, here's a link about it.

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Now that is nerve-wracking! Good luck today! And congrats to your ds!

Penelope - More s to you and to the sock fund. Realism is crucial at moments like these especially.

I may be totally unfair to even have this thought but it seems to me that when/if men consider the outcome of a divorce, they A)likely already have a job and B) probably don't imagine themselves to be the one to get the kids. Moms, I think, are much more likely to think about the impact on their kids first and how much security the kids will need more than separating dads do.

DH and I are taking the kayak out together in a little while. Wish us luck, it's been a long time since we've paddled together and there may be a turf war over the back seat!

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It is freaking JUNE TWELFTH and it's raining and 46 degrees. I'm downloading a movie to my iphone to go run on the dreadmill at the Y. 12 miles. Not cool.

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DONE!

It was miserable, but I ran 12 miles on the hamster wheel. I was totally second guessing the decision when it was barely drizzling on the drive to the Y and it didn't look to be raining at all when I looked out the windows. But, about 6 miles in, it started lightning and downpouring, so I guess it was a good choice after all! I got slightly at the mom who had her two <10 year old boys in there, letting them play on the treadmills when the childcare was open, and at the fact that it took me three tries to get a treadmill that the audio worked on. Surprisingly, my last couple of miles were by far my best. I guess that answers the question of whether I can handle a half-marathon in two weeks!

Home, ice bathed, thinking it may be time for a nap so I can manage to stay awake to get some reading done later...

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It is freaking JUNE TWELFTH and it's raining and 46 degrees.

We had a garage sale at my sister's today. I think it would have sold a lot more if the weather had cooperated. Ah well, that's what Craigslist is for, right?

Still hoping to work up the energy to do a core routine tonight. And push-ups.

ETA: tjsmama rocks! I'm not sure I could handle 12 on a tm. I think I would have picked the rain (but it only thundered once during our garage sale or I might have just given up).

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doctorjen--How exciting, your ds's journey into his future! I hope if there is a proposal that it goes well, and I hope everything goes smoothly with the possible new in-law meeting. I can't even imagine my kids making their own way into the world; it seems so far away but I know it will come so soon. Congratulations on raising an independent and self-sufficient man who is educated, ready to get a job and contribute to society, and capable of loving and being loved in return. Nice work, Mama!

Gaye--Wow, that's a long time on the treadmill! I'm glad you made the right call and didn't end up regretting not being outside.

Today was the blissful end of soccer for the spring. We have a couple of months off before fall soccer starts. I love the idea of soccer, and I love what my kids are getting out of it, but I do not so much love waking up on Saturday mornings and having to harass everyone out of bed, into specialized clothes, and out the door. It will be nice to have a break for awhile. And I really wish I could get the league to stop giving out trophies or medals every season. Two awards a year for seven years for two kids is a whole lot of (made in China crap) super-important treasured trophies or medals to store. Today it was medals, so at least I can toss those into the costume box and they don't take up much space. Is my minimalism in danger of ruining my kids' lives? At least I haven't gone so far as to throw away any trophies or medals.

This afternoon we bought Father's Day gifts for my dad (books and grilling planks) and DH's dad (Best Buy gift card) and teacher gifts (gift cards to the local bookstore, so even though I don't get credit for creativity, at least I'm supporting the locals). It hurts my heart to spend the money, but I'm trying to let go of my stinginess and know we're okay. My mom's birthday is this week, too, so there's another gift, plus Father's Day for DH, and next month is DD's birthday and DH's birthday. Eek. Maybe I should work more. Or just worry less.

I did manage to get out for a run this afternoon. It was in the rain, but still okay. I tried a new route, which I figured was about four miles, but was only 3.3. Bummer.

This week is the open house at the preschool I'm still assuming DS is going to next year, provided we figure out the toilet-training thing. Tonight I put nail polish on myself, DD, and DS. Pink for me, and a different color for each of the kids' nails--pinks, purples, red, yellow, blue. So here's my first raising-a-boy dilemma. Should I remove DS's nail polish before he goes to the open house and meets all of his future classmates and teachers? I'm leaning toward no. What would you do?

Tomorrow is our walk to benefit Children's Hospital Boston, where DD's plastic surgeon is located. Cross your fingers for nice weather and no rain. The kids are a bit whiny walking two miles even under ideal conditions. I think they set up a bouncy house and give out free ice cream afterward, though, so at least we have a likely bribe.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend!
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My mom threw out my soccer trophies after a few years and I didn't care a bit. I wasn't traumitized at all. I say toss 'em.

Two of my neighbors are having dueling backyard parties. They've been fighting all afternoon to see who can play their music loudest. Lady Gaga interspersed with mariachi music is pretty funny, but gosh darnit people, it's 9 pm and my children are trying to sleep.

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DrJen ~ what a wonderful, exciting time for your DS! You have much to be proud of .

tjsmama ~ 12 miles on the TM?! I in amazement. You are way ready for your half.

Plady ~ how was kayaking with DH? Sounds like a fun thing to do together. My DH and I used to canoe together frequently before we had kids .

Lalala ~ I'd probably take the nail polish off, but that's just me and my OWN insecurities !

cfg ~ hope those parties quieted down. Yikes!

DD2 woke again before 6:00 today, but I managed to get her back to sleep. Myself, not so much . I'm meeting a friend after church to ride 40 miles, if the rain stops. This will be my longest ride to date. I'm a little scared!

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RR: 6 pretty decent miles. I need to stretch more over the next few weeks before my half in July, but I'm feeling generally good.

Dd's dance recital was last night, and went really well - she's such a big girl, and I am awaiting her adolescence with fear and trembling. She mentioned not being sure she wants to do dance next year, which surprised me, as she's really enjoyed it and has done it for five years now... but she might just have been musing.

My MIL goes home today, which is just the right length of visit.

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I'd leave the polish, but my dh would say it has to go.

drjen, wow, engagement ring, huh? Wow.

Lala, save the ribbons/medals and chuck the trophies. I still have my valedictorian trophy but that's the only one I ever got. I wish they'd just give medals. And I wish all medals were like San Fran marathon's (coasters for the 26; keychains for the 13).

Yeah Gaye, if you can stand 12 on the TM, you'll rock 13.1 out in the gorgeous outdoors.

I am working on getting enough coffee and ibuprofen into me to function, and the plan is to work out at the Y. I hope to hit the whirlpool, too. I think that would help me. I need a massage, and I think I am going to find and schedule one this week. I am not sure what I can do for FM today, but anything is better than staying here and eating leftovers from chili dogs and cupcakes.
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