thanks crunchy- we did all of the food intolerances, I went to a fully holistic nutritionist and lactation consultant and looking back, I think she was overtired and because I was having some trouble BFing, never really 100% full with hind milk. I could be wrong. I was off dairy and it did not last long (the colic) but by definition colic is spending 3 or more hours a day with a crying (or preventing them from crying) baby, and for a while that's all we did (she wasn't crying, but we were working VERY hard to prevent it). This was the red faced sobbing. For hours and hours. But I am so happy to hear that your subseqent baby time is better for you- I don't know what I will do different but I am sure I will look back at my first time mom self and laugh the next time around!
Like I said, it was short- a few weeks or a month at most- and I am very slow to use any term of labeling but seeing lots of babies before and since, I know that what she went through was not abnormal, but not typical either. it kills me to think I could have missed something, and could have helped her not go through that.
Thank you for the reminder that I can start earlier...I just didn't have it in me that first time. But each one is so different, and you are right about keeping in shape during. I didn't gain a lot during the pregnancy- maybe 25lbs, but I didn't stay in cardio shape or go to the gym either.
thanks so much!