Originally Posted by sleepingbeauty
I've told him that I am concerned. That I want us both to get healthier.
He and my DH would get along GREAT!
Focus on yourself and get healthy yourself. My DH didn't start caring about his weight or fitness level until after I made lifetime at WW. Start eating right, start moving, get your extra weight off.
Learn to cook. I really like the Weight Watchers Complete Cookbook. They sell it everywhere -- I've even seen it in Target. It has very clear directions and helpful hints. Learning to cook from scratch is cheaper that buying processed foods or eating out.
Shop the sells, and stock up a bit when meat is on sale. Whole chicken go on sale $.59 a pound ($2.50 for a nice big one!) and I can make several healthy meals out of one chicken.
He may come along for the ride, or he may not. You only have control over yourself. But make nice healthy meals and get out and go for a walk. Check out exercise DVDs from the library. There really are things you can do that are cheap or free.
My DH has now lost from 330 to 290 and walks. He eats reasonable portions. He's trying. He messes up a lot (because food is his drug of choice) but he is at least trying.
He didn't start trying until I got to a healthy weight.
BTW, the amount of food that a large man can eat and lose weight is staggering. We do weight watchers, and people get anywhere from 18-44 points per day. I get 22 points a day. When my DH started, he got 44 points a day and lost weight on that!!! Twice as much food as me!
He's now down to 39 points a day (part of how many points one gets is based on current weight) but the amount of food that he *needs* is so much greater than the amount of food that I can eat lose or maintain that without figuring out the points, I would really underfeed him if I were trying to get him to lose.