Originally Posted by MeepyCat
It's been more than three years since I had a baby, but I do have some major thoughts on this. At present, I am down below my pre-baby weight, but I'm down here because I had surgery with some awful complications. I am pretty sure that I'll gain the 15 missing pounds back when I feel better, and I'm looking forward to it.
The best shape of my life (which I achieved post-baby, in a highly unusual time when I had both children and the time to train for half marathons) and my pre-child shape were still pretty different. Having a baby changes your body. Your new body may have features you like better than the old version and features you like worse, but it absolutely will not be the same, even if you get to the same weight you started at.
"Losing the baby weight" is a commonly stated goal, but it's not a goal that has a lot of meaning for health. Healthy bodies come in a variety of shapes and weights. How does your sister feel? Does she like her energy level? Is she able to do the things she enjoys? Does she really need a booklet of stories about how other women lost weight, or would she prefer a standing coffee date with a friend, or a couple of flattering new outfits?
Thanks for your reply MeepyCat. Thanks for sharing your story. I appreciate your comments and thoughts.
Having talked to my sister, I think the main concerns she has is with her general health and the example that she sets for her son.
She never had a problem with her health, but since gaining the baby weight she has constantly struggled with back problems. She is also worried that being overweight will cause complications with her pregnancy if she wants to get pregnant again (having read some articles about being overweight during pregnancy causing miscarriages and increased risk for health problems for the baby).
She also told me that she wants to set a healthy example for her son. She wants him to grow up looking at her as an example of someone who is fit and healthy, not unfit, overweight and unhealthy.
The problem is that she believes that there is nothing she can do about it. Some of her friends have told her that her being overweight is just a normal consequence of being a mom, and that her metabolism has slowed down permanently and there is nothing she can do about it.
I don't believe this. I know that a women's body changes when she gives birth, but I don't believe that this means she just has to give up. I've heard of too many moms who have decided to challenge themselves and became even more healthy than before their children. That's basically what I want to accomplish - I want to give her inspirational stories to show her that it is possible, as well as tips and strategies that these moms have used. Everyone is different, and uses different strategies to lose their weight. I'm hoping that something someone did might resonate with her, and help her achieve her goals.
Originally Posted by katelove
My first child is 4yo and my second is 20mo. I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight and was at about 18-19months with my first as well. However, I do not have the same body as I had before. And, no I probably never will.
Things such as breastfeeding and sleep deprivation can impact on weight loss or gain . Some women lose weight rapidly or steadily while breastfeeding but others hold some weight until they wean.
Unless your sister has specifically asked for this booklet I would reconsider. Respond to specific requests for help but otherwise drop the subject and just talk about other things :-)
Thanks for your reply katelove. I understand what you are saying about your body shape having changed. It is difficult to just drop the subject, as I can see that it is really bothering her. I am also worried about her, and would like to help her. Why do you think I should reconsider the booklet? Do you think it is a bad idea, or would have negative consequences?
Originally Posted by sierramtngirl
I'd say my body was nearly the same as before with first baby (now 27 months old). Second baby is now 2 months and I've only got 10 more pounds to lose, but I can already tell that my body is not the same as before and will likely never be.
Thanks for taking the time to reply sierramtngirl. Did you focus on losing weight before your second pregnancy? My sister has told me that she is worried about complications with her pregnancy if she is still overweight before getting pregnant.