Originally Posted by mommyofmany
Thank you! I have joined sparkpeople.com, and have set up some small goals for myself. I think once I meet them, it will give me confidence to keep going.
I don't know what to do about the negative thinking though
. I've always thought bad about myself, even when I was a kid. I've never felt I was important.
This is incredibly important. I lost about 90 pounds over the course of about 2.5 years. I gain a little back each winter, and lose it again each spring. I have emotional eating problems, and I also suffer with SAD (and live in WI). I managed to lose the weight in spite of many things, including:
- Starting from a position of not liking/valuing myself
- Starting with no $$ for gyms, gear, or even childcare
- WI weather
- A lifelong history of overweight/obesity
What I can tell you about my experience is first not to overthink exercise. Just get active, doing what you can do, as often as you can do it. Exercise alone helps to manage the factors that contribute to stress eating (this links directly with my own winter weight gain...I exercise less and [perhaps therefore] eat more).
Second, in order to have ongoing, long-term success, you must learn to occasionally place yourself at the top of the priority list. This means eating well, sleeping enough, and finding the support if you need it to get your activity in. I occasionally have to rely on family and friends to watch my kids so I can run outdoors. Dh has had to become a part of my support system--and since he also reaps the benefits of results, it only makes sense.
Third, on "ugly." In our family, we have a saying the no thing God made is to be called ugly by us. You aren't seeing your strength or beauty. Find them. Make a list if you have to. Consider minimizing your interactions with mirrors for a while. Because I will tell you what--after the first 30 pounds, your conversations with the mirror will begin to change.
There's a lot of good advice here. Pick some and follow it for a couple weeks. Then come back and find some more, and add that on. Make small changes, stick with them for 3 weeks, and add more changes.
(pssst...I'd also recommend totally banishing whatever foods you might typically binge on. just get rid of them. don't invite them back.)