Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Urban Midwestern USA
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I've just shared some things I've been learning on the other thread, and thought I'd copy and paste that post here:
I've gone a little further reading the articles, and I see now that I really was wrong to seek help from the police when the boy wouldn't stop throwing acorns at me. Since it wasn't phyisically hurting me, I could have ignored it or moved or something.
I also see that I've been entrenching myself and my girls in unlife by actually hating these bullies. They can sense my hate and they feel powerless to do anything but hate us back.
I need to recognize that they are composed of the same matter that forms the flowers, trees, and earth, as well as my girls and me. I don't have to "make nice" and give them our food, and I don't have to say anything to them or anything, but I just need to release myself from the hate that I hadn't even realized that I'd lately been allowing to strangle me.
Now I'm feeling much more connected to life again, and much more freed from the spirit of unlife that they've been exhaling all over that playground.
I honestly don't feel attached to outcomes any more in this situation. Others can choose hate and unlife if they want to. We're going to live, and I won't give up trying to make our neighborhood a safe place for life and love to flourish. I'll probably take occasional breaks, but I won't ever give up completely.
Thanks to anyone who is still listening, and I still welcome everyone's input.
Susan -- married WAHMomma to two lovely girls (born 2000 and 2005), who started out unschooling and have now embarked on the public school adventure.