Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: city girl reading on a farm in PA
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i am reminded right away of spiritually-grounded activists whom i know, and the work they have done (and continue to do) to combat the ugliness of racism—which, when acted upon, becomes a kind of bullying.
i'm far from expert at handling this right, but my first thought is of the need to separate the behavior from the person doing the behavior. no matter how ugly a person may be acting, they also have the potential for love and goodness, they also are a part of God's creation. and i think love has an amazing power to transform hearts.
if you are backing up your children, supporting them with knowledge that bullying is wrong, and you remind yourself that those children have the potential to act in another way, i think you'll be ok. maybe you've already done some reading on what makes people act as bullies....maybe help your children know that people often act that way because it's all they know--perhaps those children get bullied at home.
if you are aware that these children, behaving as bullies now, have the potential to be good loving children, it is not your job to "fix" them or transform them, but just to react without fear. to find, maybe, some compassion for the lack of love they might see in the world.
forgive me if this comment is rambly. this issue has been much on my own mind, and i may be thinking aloud here.
peace be upon you.
mama to one amazing daughter born 1/2004