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#1 of 3 Old 08-03-2011, 02:35 PM - Thread Starter
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So I don't post a lot here except when I have a question, though I read quietly and learn a lot. It has come time for my family to change Synagogues, the one we are members of at the moment has not been a good fit for a while (read: they spend more time asking for money and fundraising than praying). We have found a unique program in our area that fits with our beliefs and needs and I feel ready to move on. But I am not sure how to do this without causing bad feelings, over the past seven years I have become friends with the Rabbi, individually and spiritually he has been amazing. We haven't actually gone since the high holidays last year whn DS had such a bad experience with the loudness of the children's service and the way the other kids treated him in the child care during the regular service (even while I was the one running the childcare). Has anyone had experience with this?


Sigh, that just felt great to say it all "out loud" thank you for listening.

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#2 of 3 Old 08-03-2011, 04:02 PM
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If I might ask....Can you speak to the Rabbi and explain your feelings? He may want to know how you feel. He may want things to change.


I had to leave a church recently and I regret not speaking with the pastor. BUT the thing is that I was not seeing "eye to eye" with what was happening with the church. For me leaving a house of worship is something that you sometimes must do. For your growth as well as your children's.



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can you blend the two for a while,  or is that discouraged.   I left a church and nobody noticed til the end of the year when they missed my donation and called for the money.

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