Well, I posted without a source. The reason being that after some research Tim Kimmel's book just has a blurb about spanking, and that it's a good "bridge" book so to speak. And while I think Crystal Lutton is great, her Biblical Parenting book is apparently out of print because it's just expensive used copies on amazon, and she's really just too radical for someone who hasn't already started the shift.
As it is the comment to mine says something like, yeah, our study supports what you said (umm, we're doing Boundaries for Kids, and I don't see that at all), and it says there are exceptions for natural consequences like we don't want our kids to get hit by a car, don't you agree? I don't expect our study to support my personal philosophy, I just saw a place to comment on something I know and care about, so I did.
And one of those MOPS videos of them all holding up the signs saying "I chose formula" and "I breastfed" was put up.
So hopefully I didn't open up a can of worms. I thought about it and tried hard to sum up the philosophy, answer the questions that were asked, and be diplomatic.
If anyone has had success in this kind of area, I'd love to hear about it.