bloobug, good to see you.
Actually you don't *have* to go through your local bishop. They would love for you to do it that way, with an exit interview and everything, but they really can't make you do that. This
site has instructions for resigning and she seems to really know what she's talking about.
I plan on following those directions when I do put the paper in.
|have you read Women and Authority: Re-emerging Mormon Feminism ?
I haven't, but its on my list after hearing about it on this thread.
When it comes to the race issue, and really all issues in the church, the thing members will tell you is that they were only human and humans aren't perfect. ITA with that, but if something claims to be the true church of God, the only true church on earth then I think they should be leaders
in the world and not followers. For example when I bring up the fact that Joseph Smith married a 14 year old I always get the standard answer that "that is something that was done back then...different time, different culture" but, I'd like to know, is it something that should
have been done, or should the leader and prophet of the "one true church" have known better and done better? I ask that about all the terrible terrible
things that have been done all along by the church as a whole and by leaders of the church.
It all seems a bit "freaky" to me too now. But no more then any other large church. I think men(and women) in power do (and say) strange and terrible things sometimes. I don't think its a "cult" any more then any other religious group and I don't believe alot of the sensationalized stories about the current day church. I just think its a church, like any other church. I do
believe it started out as a cult-ish type of thing but has developed into a more wholesome thing by necessity. I guess it is actually a good thing. I wish all cult leaders would fall to social pressures and lead their followers into more normal behaviors.
My dh is actually handling things really well. He is not emotional (at all) and generally not too affected by things anyway. He is (like me) grateful for all he gained from the church but sees that it is time to move on. He (and I both) love his mom to death because she is such a sweet lady and we feel a little sad at the hurt we are causing her, but its just one of those things we can't pretend about. We actually discussed it after he came out to her (I don't remember if I already shared this or not) and decided we have
to do this thing now or the burden will just get passed onto our children. Another generation growing up in something we think is wrong, and up to them to break away from it. So even though it will have difficult moments I'm sure we are ready to do it.
I think a book reading is a wonderful idea. There are so many topics that we could discuss that I just don't know where to start. It would be good, I think, to have a guide. I won't be able to order that book until January because Christmas has us strapped for money, but maybe in early-mid January we can start reading and discussing. Is "Under the Banner of Heaven" good for anyone who wants to join in? If you have another suggestion you think would work better bring it up.