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I am so frustrated with (and ashamed of) what my 3yo son has been eating the past few weeks. We've been on vacation. We've eaten out a ton and eaten at the homes of various family members. I don't mind a little Mac and Cheese here and there, especially if there's nothing else on offer that he'll eat but it's getting ridiculous. We're currently at my mom and dad's place (2 more days) and every time I turn around, DS is being offered cake, cookies, boxes Mac and cheese, candy, ice cream, low fat conventional dairy, etc. And then when I say "no", I'm the meanie. They're offering my precious child foods that will do damage to his body and *I'm* the mean one?! Can vacation be over now, please?

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I know how tough that is.  Honestly.... you are always going to be the mean one, sorry.  Personally, I do not mind.  I get teased all the time.  We actually take a basket of our own grub while visiting, etc. 

 

If you stand your ground, express your concern, my hope is your family and friends will respect your wishes.  If not, for me, it would be hard to stay with them.  I cannot respect folks that do not respect me, KWIM?  They should really respect your choices for your child.  Who cares if you are the mean one! 

 

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I feel the same way about my family we are about to visit. My grandma adds sweet-n-low to everything (vegetables included) and eats lots of conventional meat, boxed foods etc. I do my best to explain and avoid. What bothers me more is when people say "once he gets the good stuff he won't eat this junk anymore!" UGH

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I am SO with you! When we are gets I don't mind DD eating not-so healthy but when it's just junk food for no reason UGH

 

We went to MILs the other day and she made steaks on the grill with way over cooked mush cauliflower and MSG laden yellow rice...as if that wasn't all bad enough(all conventional of course)...then she's trying to give her a pop (frozen corn syrup in a tube) I told her no and she flipped out saying "kids are SUPPOSE to eat pops, ice cream, and junk food you know" Really they are suppose to eat that? My DD will eat a bowl of kale before she will eat ice cream...


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I feel the same way about my family we are about to visit. My grandma adds sweet-n-low to everything (vegetables included) and eats lots of conventional meat, boxed foods etc. I do my best to explain and avoid. What bothers me more is when people say "once he gets the good stuff he won't eat this junk anymore!" UGH



I don't understand..... why would you add sweet n low to anything... let alone veggies???

 

 

 

I get this though. Now, we aren't super, super strict but there are certain things I don't budge on.. I'm always the mean one ;)

 


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I don't understand..... why would you add sweet n low to anything... let alone veggies???

 

 

 

I get this though. Now, we aren't super, super strict but there are certain things I don't budge on.. I'm always the mean one ;)

 



I've heard of people adding sugar to corn to "bring out the sweetness." Guess Sweet & Low would be used for the same reason? 

 

I tried it once, putting sugar in the corn. It just...didn't make sense to me. Tasted like corn with sugar added. shrug.gif

 

I'm not even sure why I tried it. Curious I guess. 


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On topic, we had trouble with both the grandmas and ds#1. They were constantly trying to give him food way too early, then it was all about how he NEEDED to have candy, jelly, cake, cookies,etc. and I was depriving him...and we weren't even THAT strict/healthy, just we weren't giving him junk food or sweets. 

 

One time we left ds#1 with grandma p and told her to please not give him any chocolate ( it made him HYPER.) When we got back from our date, she told us she had given him FIVE chocolate chip cookies and she would NEVER do that again. That she had thought the whole thing about him getting hyper from chocolate was all in my head...until she saw it for herself and had to deal with it. She was much better after that about being careful what she offered him. wink1.gif


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I am SO with you! When we are gets I don't mind DD eating not-so healthy but when it's just junk food for no reason UGH

 

We went to MILs the other day and she made steaks on the grill with way over cooked mush cauliflower and MSG laden yellow rice...as if that wasn't all bad enough(all conventional of course)...then she's trying to give her a pop (frozen corn syrup in a tube) I told her no and she flipped out saying "kids are SUPPOSE to eat pops, ice cream, and junk food you know" Really they are suppose to eat that? My DD will eat a bowl of kale before she will eat ice cream...



Off topic... you went back to our Dad's house? 

 

We make our own ice cream... occasionally, I am talking maybe once every two months!  I wish my kiddo would prefer chips if both were presented! ... we do make kale chips that he loves, staple in our home... just made chard ones this evening... yummy!  ... no potato chips here! 

 

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OP, I feel your pain!!  I am SO particular about what DD eats, and I get teased CONSTANTLY about it.  My parents will even bring it up in front of other people just to embarass me.  I get called mean for not taking my 17 month old to Dairy Queen, or for not giving her suckers when we go to the bank, and not giving her candy when a friend offers her some....  It is so frustrating and it happens all the time.  I dont like going anywhere because it seems like it is always a battle.  When we go on trips I take a cooler full of our own food and I make sure that I know where the closest health foods store is, if there is one.  I also take a jar of organic peanut butter, organic whole grain crackers to dip in it, organic bananas, you name it.   Relatives and friends think I am crazy, but heck my daughter is the only one who does not have a mouth full of cavities and fillings, and who is not sick all the time.

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I've recently come to terms with the idea that there are people out there who subsist on junk food 24/7. Generations of children grew up eating breakfast cereal every.single day. and in many cases it was the healthiest meal of the day. So, we are careful at home, generally speaking, to eat as much homemade whole, organic food as we can. But when we're at Nana's or when Grandma comes to visit and brings "treats" - let the good times roll! partytime.gif Barring food allergies, exposure to junk in the short term is likely doing less damage than the stressful circumstances surrounding picky eating are...sulkoff.gif

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And see, if it were a once in a while day here and there, that's one thing. But we've been away from home since June 30. He just can't eat crap for 2 weeks straight. And we don't just see Grandma once a year or anything. We have 3 grandmothers within a 2 hour radius. We see one (or all) of them at least once a month, often for a week at a time. I am fine with occasional treats but for example, last night we were at my Grandma's house for supper. Wednesday was her birthday and there was cake leftover. DS asked for a piece and I said "no" because it was one of those colored boxed mix cakes and one thing I am pretty unbending about is food dye. So then, my Grandma offered DS a brownie. I said "yes" to the brownie. Then she offered a second brownie. I said "no". Then she offered a cookie. "No". The she brought out a different kind of cookie package and told me to read the ingredients to see if he could have those instead. Where's the headbanging smilie?? orngtongue.gif

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No no no that is DH's mom! Yes both sides of our family are horrendous...

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Off topic... you went back to our Dad's house? 

 

We make our own ice cream... occasionally, I am talking maybe once every two months!  I wish my kiddo would prefer ice cream if both were presented! ... we do make kale chips that he loves, staple in our home... just made chard ones this evening... yummy!  ... no potato chips here! 



 


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I totally feel you we stayed at a friends for a week as a favor to her (her and DH broke up she wanted support) and we ate crap absolute crap all week. I felt gross, DD felt gross, and we both ended up getting a bad virus after. My body could not handle all the sugar and processed stuff, neither could DD's she had the runs all week...and even that wasn't like candy but more like goldfish crackers, rits bits, and conventional stuff.

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And see, if it were a once in a while day here and there, that's one thing. But we've been away from home since June 30. He just can't eat crap for 2 weeks straight. And we don't just see Grandma once a year or anything. We have 3 grandmothers within a 2 hour radius. We see one (or all) of them at least once a month, often for a week at a time. I am fine with occasional treats but for example, last night we were at my Grandma's house for supper. Wednesday was her birthday and there was cake leftover. DS asked for a piece and I said "no" because it was one of those colored boxed mix cakes and one thing I am pretty unbending about is food dye. So then, my Grandma offered DS a brownie. I said "yes" to the brownie. Then she offered a second brownie. I said "no". Then she offered a cookie. "No". The she brought out a different kind of cookie package and told me to read the ingredients to see if he could have those instead. Where's the headbanging smilie?? orngtongue.gif


 


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on the topic of why she adds sweet-n-low... she is saving calories. Personally I would rather have the extra calories from the sugar than the fake chemically junk of sweet-n-low

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I can see once in a great while.  I mean, I make my own homemade treats like pies, cookies, cake... But all organic, and I use some whole wheat flour instead of all white, and dont use the full amount of added sugar.. And DD gets some of that, but only after she has eaten a healthy meal, and she does not get it all day long, or not even every day.  If she has already had some and someone offers her more, I say no, and of course I'm the meanest parent in the world...  Anyway, just frustrating.  And yes, whenever any of us eat out or eat conventional food we all get the runs, DD gets a diaper rash instantly, and we often get sick afterwards.  Not just coincedence!!   I do not want that for my family, so I have another reason to say no

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I don't mind DS getting stuff like that at my in-laws because at my parents house he doesn't get any junk except for holidays and even then it's natural versions of "junk" food. So, it's about every 2-4 weeks he gets chocolate milk and candy and the inlaws. That's it. So it's not a big deal to me. My biggest problem is that DH is the junk food junkie, but he sees how DS reacts to it and does his best to do his junk-food eating away from the house(I don't like that he eats crappy either, but he's a big boy, and can make his own decisions, lol).


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MIL did something similar around Easter. We left DS with her overnight and came back and he had eaten a ton of Hershies Kisses and she was wondering why he was so hyper. DUH! If your kids don't live on sugar every day, of course they are going to be sensitive to it when they get it! She also left it on the counter where he could reach it. I would have put it in a cabinet high up if I knew he could reach it. Oy....


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I did a thread on this same thing awhile back:  http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1308013/update-wwyd-mil-wants-1-y-o-to-eat-sweets-and-chocolate

 

It is frustrating.  I know I am a control freak over what goes into my precious LO's mouth...but that's my right.  DH is fortunately on board, but I get all kinds of looks and comments from EVERYONE, including my good friends.  I was recently asked "what's so bad about red #40?" by a good friend who honestly didn't know.  I explained that, to my knowledge, it was a carcinogen.  She was raised with only processed food for the most part and eats them exclusively now.  She has awesome intentions and is just not educated about food.

 

One of my big hesitations and reasons I won't leave DS with MIL is I know she will give him bad stuff behind our backs and not be honest about it.  I watched her do it with our nephew who had food allergies (but she gave him cow milk "because he needed it" even though he's allergic to milk protein).

 

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You are right PP, that is your right!  I think that our friends and relatives ought to respect that, it is not like we are doing something bad, in fact it is the complete opposite!!  They are our precious little ones, and of course we want what is absolutely best for them!

 I have a friend, she is my next door neighbor, and her son is the same age as DD.  He has been sick and on different medications almost constantly since he was weaned from the breast at 6 months.  This is also when she started giving him candy, ice cream, any kind of junk food including hot dogs and processed foods and freezer meals that she could.  What partially saved him is that he was still on baby food fruits and veggies, although he got the Gerber mac and cheese almost daily as well!!  But since he has been off of baby food I dont think he has eaten a single vegetable, and only a few peices of fruit here and there.  He was on store bought cows milk before 1yr old, and has been constipated and sick with the flu and colds and bronchitis ever since.  Watching how this friend feeds her poor child (he has a sucker in his hand almost every time I see them) it just makes my heart ache, and I have tried to talk to her, but she says "my doctor did not tell me to feed him vegetables so I dont have to, it must not be necessary."  AHHH, and this brings me to the state of our messed up medical system....  That is another subjuct I will not even get in to right now. 

This poor little guy has actually made my husband a believer.  DH used to think I was ridiculous for not allowing DD to have junk food, and feeding her all organic, and now he is so on board after seeing how that little boy is always sick like that.

An example of my friends complete ignorance when it comes to food is- as soon as her son could chew little pieces of bread (about 8 months old) she stopped feeding him baby cereal and instead fed him Eggo toaster waffles drenched in Mrs Butterworths(almost pure high fructose corn syrup) "maple syrup" and then rolled her eyes at me because I was still feeding DD "that baby food".  She said "waffles are a grain just like that baby cereal is, he is getting everything he needs from these".  I tried to explain to her that they were made out of bleached white flour(NOT whole grain) and had preservatives and were processed, and how bad the syrup was (in a very nice way of course) but she acted as if she did not even hear me and just said "Uh huh" and that was it. 

After months of doing this, and her son being so extremely constipated, and going to the Dr numerous times, at about 1 year old she asked me what to do (she was giving him prunes every day and it was not even helping and he would only poop once a week or less), I said try switching back to baby cereal, mix it with yogurt, and she did!  And it did help a lot....  UGH

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I literally know someone who's DD is 5 y/o and eats junk and is constantly constipated like PP mentioned and they literally give her a supository every 3 days! They are considering a colostomy bag, yet when I suggested probiotics they flipped out and said "she drinks cows milk and eats yogurt that's all she needs for probitoics it's IN her food!" Like I was an idiot....poor kid. Her I am spending $30 a month on probiotics we can't afford for DD to help heal her from a vax reaction and someone is considering a colostomy bag and won't even TRY it! They said the Dr said it was pointless...and they were too expensive to "just try" with no medical advice on it or a prescription....


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Just sharing my sympathies for OP's venting and others' annoying relatives too.

 

Our annoying vacation-food experience 2 yrs ago included a big lecture on how my dd was being calcium deprived because I don't force a glass of milk on her with meals (dh has lactose issues and I don't drink milk regularly either), and her diet was so poor from what was observed while eating on vacation with strange and new foods that we don't normally eat (for an already very picky eater - what the heck -- the flipping yogurt we end up having on vacation isn't even vegetarian since it has gelatin and it has aspartame in it too!! yeah, super great!!!).  

 

Oh yeah, and kids portions are TOTALLY DIFFERENT than adult portions.  We are constantly dealing with talk about how much dd eats or doesn't.  Including one relative who's constantly praising her for eating lots of food (like bread and popsicles or ice cream or whatever shake.gif, you know, total health foods there kids don't normally eat tons of and deserve lots of praise for eating).  

 

 

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My goodness sosurreal09, that is terrible, I can not believe some people!!  Having a colostomy bag would be a terrible thing for such a young girl if it is unnecessary.  I can not imagine going through puberty with such a device, and I feel so sorry for those who must:(  but my goodness, I would try ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING else before such a thing would even Enter my mind. 

Can I ask you what type of probiotics you are giving your child?  I have been looking for some good ones, and these http://www.vitacost.com/Garden-of-Life-RAW-Probiotics-Kids-3-4-oz   are the best I have found so far(I have not purchased them because I am still looking), but I would love to know what you have found.  How have they been helping your child?  How so?  If you want to PM me with a response instead that would be fine too:)

That also reminds me of what a friend was telling me a few weeks ago about her friend.  Her friend has a 9 month old son with severe allergies, and he is on steroids and all sorts of terrible drugs to relieve his allergy symptoms and they are not even completely effective, and he is experiencing significant side effects.  My friend told her friend about some natural remedys that her naturopath had recommended to her that had really helped her daughter(I think one of them was a sort of medication that the naturopath had to order in but it was not a controlled drug, just something that the company only sells to the doctors and will not sell to patients..), and her friend would not even listen at all and said she would continue to give her son all of these drugs that were not even working that well, and giving him all of those side effects rather than trying natural remedies that were harmless!!  My friend is so sad when she sees that little boy, because of all he has to go through and be on all of those drugs at such a young age.  What are the long term effects I wonder!!  AGH!

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WOW that is scary about that baby!

 

I give DD adult probiotics b/c we are rebuilding her system b/c she needs 15 Billion. We will do that for a couple more months and then probably stop taking them as long as she is OK. We are still BFing and she gets coconut yogurt daily as well.


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My neighbors are huge junk food fans, and as soon as I realized this I let them know (gently, of course, mostly in a making fun of ourselves way) that we don't do junk food, and i am very picky about what ds eats. Their daughter makes me want to cry- she never eats anything remotely healthy, and she walks around with a sippy full of kool-aid ("I had to add extra sugar so she would drink even THAT!"). She has that calcium deficiency that makes her legs bow and her feet pigeon-toe in. In a day and age when healthy food is so available and knowledge about this kind of stuff is everywhere, how can you feel alright with yourself, giving your child a health deficiency that will affect her the rest of her life? I know that they can afford the food because we are all military and know each others' ranks. It is just lack of caring or knowledge I suppose.  Doesn't help that the mom is the pickiest adult eater I have ever seen! lol

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The other day DD had some blueberries.  The neighbor boy(17months old, the same one I was talking about earlier) pointed to them and said "jellybean".  His mom said Oh he thinks they are jellybeans, I doubt he'll eat a blueberry!  I offered him one anyway, and he spit it out.  He will not eat ANYTHING that is not Super sweet because he is SO used to candy.  It made me sad.  DD eats them as if  they WERE candy, in fact that IS her candy lol, she has never had actual candy.  I am waiting for her to tell me he has a cavity, I know it is coming very soon, he eats so much junk.

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Slightly OT but I'm working part time doing a summer pre school day camp class and this little girl (maybe 3 years old) came with a marshmallow fluff sandwich. Whatever yanno? To each their own but her mom shows up a bit later and freaked on the child that some fluff was on her face. "Whats all over your face?!?!"

 

I'm like, "its fluff from the sandwich you sent her in with." irked.gif

 

Aside from that though junk really seems to be all I see being served around here. I'm not super strict about it for my own reasons but I'm floored sometimes by what I see. Do kids who just played soccer in the the hottest part of the summer heat really want a bunch of melted donuts after the game? Or even cold donuts? headscratch.gif

 

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My nephew is 4 y/o and goes to daycare and his mom was telling me about the lunch she packed him the other day.

 

1.kool aid

2. PBJ "uncrustables"

3. doritos

4. a twix

 

Is there anything healthy in that? I guess maybe the PB but IDK what the ingredient are in those "uncrustable" things.


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Ugh, I hear all of your pain. My mom loves to dole out nasty, processed "treats" to our kids whenever we are there. SHe just doesn't get it. She thinks that I'm opposed to yummy food or something. I've even said to her "Mom, treats are fine every now and then, but those aren't even real food, they're chemicals and coloring!" How about a homemade chocolate chip cookie or something, at least it's better than Little Debbie snack cakes and twizzlers!

 

The other hard part is how my 6yo compares his food choices to his friends. He complains that I don't send Lunchables or Doritos or soda in his lunch. I try to make them kid-appealing, but there is a limit to what I'll do. Homemade cookies, pb w/fruit, toast with honey, is about as junky as I'll go. I tell him "because I LOVE you and I want you to be strong and healthy and grow big and tall." That partially satisfies him, but in our culture, there is definitely a feeling that cool parents, who embrace childhood, let their kids eat crap. At least in some of the areas where I live. And the kids pick up on it and somehow my son ends up thinking I don't care enough to let him eat that stuff.


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http://www.thereluctanteater.com/2009/01/ridiculous-food-product-smuckers-uncrustables/   Here is what I found on uncrustables.  OMG!  I can not believe that this stuff is out there for kids to eat and that parents dont even bother to look at the ingredient list and see what everything is.  I research everything before I give it to my kid!!

As PP said, my family and friends also just think that I am opposed to yummy food, and that I just dont want my baby girl to have good tasting food for some insane reason that they just can not understand.  I am just so strange and ridiculous that they could not possibly wrap their minds around my outrageous thinking.  I guess I just must not love my baby enough to give her treats.  I am so mean....  Thats what I think that goes through their minds anyway:)

I am afraid of what PP says is happening with her DS- comparing his food to others.  I am just waiting for the day when DD figures out that there is junk out there and wants it all the time.  i am like you, I will not do junk, period.  If it is a treat that I have made MY SELF, then I will let DD have some, but otherwise no way, not going into my precious little babys mouth.  I will not allow that junk to enter her body and interfere with her growth and cause her problems!  Many of the chemical additives that are in food are thought to just remain in the body because the body does not know how to rid itself of them.  Stored mainly in fat cells I have read.  So this junk becomes a part of their permanent makeup?  I dont think so.  It is soooooo sad:(

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Yep. We want our kids to eat healthy food because we hate them.

 

 

 


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