I kept my first child away from just about everything until I think it must have been her 2nd Christmas. I had already battled, battled, battled over the no-sugar issue w/ my MIL already. It was getting that I was dreading going to her house. I truly could not understand why she was not thrilled that I was treating her grandbaby so well. DD loved (still does) fruit of all kinds and never even wanted anything other than what I was already giving her anyway. I knew the sugar would be inevitable at some point in her life - I figured, why rush it?
In fact, she didn't even LIKE the ice cream they so longed to give her, nor the gross store-bought birthday cake everyone wanted her to tear into (mostly for photo-ops I'm sure). I made her an applesauce cake without frosting and served lightly, honey sweetened homemade vanilla whipped cream on the side. And THAT's the cake she ate - without the whipped cream! :-)
But the second X-mas just broke me. Despite the large bowl of fruit salad on the counter, my MIL and SIL gave DD a chocolate/caramel brownie and had her come over to me with it in her hands to ask me if she could eat it!!! I knew she didn't even know what it was, but I looked up and they're both standing there smiling at me!
I took the brownie away from her - which she didn't even care about anyway - and got her a nice big plate of fruit. Right after that her cousin went to the big candy drawer and got out a sucker. She asks if DD can have one too. Of course I say no, but I just felt so run over at that point. Why wouldn't they let up and why did they even need to make it an issue??? Then my MIL comes over and begs on DD's behalf. I still said no. Then she says, "Well can I share it with her, let her have a taste?" And I said, "Fine." So Grandma takes one lick and then gives the thing to her. It was Christmas, for crying out loud!! I really didn't want to make a scene... I don't think they knew that or used that against me. I really just think they really, really didn't understand how much it meant to me. I mean, I could have yelled or cried or pouted or left, but I didn't . So that was the beginning of the end for me. I really don't know where my husband was at the time, because he was usually very supportive with me. I guess I just decided that at Grandma's house it just wasn't worth it and thank goodness we were not there every day.
Well, guess what! How times change! #1) I am very good friends with my MIL now and she is respectful of me saying "no" which I do not always do, but because she sees that I do let both dd's have some fun (what she deems as fun), it isn't such an issue for her anymore #2)We live closer now and she actually does see them a couple of times a week, but #3)She is on a tighter budget and also is trying to eat better since she's stopped smoking and doesn't want to gain a bunch of weight AND I think she is seeing what she created, which is girls who come in and ask for a treat from Grandma right away. That's a way she chose to express her love and so that's what they're expecting now and it's not nearly as charming as I think she thought it once was.
Also I think MIL has become more educated because another of my SILs is veg. too and has a toddler who eats purely organic (which is what we strive for, but simply cannot afford all the time) most of the time and so I don't seem so weird to her anymore.
I guess I say all this to say that although your dd will likely end up getting sweets offered to her more and more as she grows, you also will have an opportunity to educate those around you. I have found that this evolves and is better accepted when a militant stance is not taken. Although I still harbor some bitter feelings about the "Christmas Showdown," I am much more grateful to have the relationship I have with my MIL now. We talk easier with one another and she can actually see the fruits of my dh's and my labor: ie few doctor visits, healthy, happy, smart girls. So in that sense it was worth the exchange.
Still, I feel like the grocery store and general public arena is a battleground for our childrens' - well, ALL of our health. I just HATE that because we cannot always afford it, we can't always have the organic food I so desire. We are on a TIGHT budget - nearly everything I make is from scratch, but I still hate that I have to make those choices: GMO or no GMO, organic or on sale? Those things alone bother me and the sweets bombardment on top of it all is just one more sore spot.