Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: little house in the suburbs
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Well, I did it. He changed his mind about it. He said if it was going to bother me so much, he would not do it.
Because dh and I discussed this before marrying (we were both in our thirties when we met). I was a vegan and he was a meat eater. I agreed to fix it but not eat it. I look at it like this: dh's job is to work and bring home money for the family, but this does not give him the right to decide what I am allowed to buy or not with this money. Likewise, my job is to keep house and cook, but I can't dictate what I fix him for dinner. Believe me, this was probably the biggest hangup I had before marrying him, but I concluded that fixing 2 dinners is a small sacrifice for what I get in return. I don't mind fixing meat. I just mind that he was willing to eat such an unhealthy diet to lose weight when there are healthy alternatives. Not to mention that I am attracted to him just the way he is.
I know that the way dh and I have worked this out probably isn't how others would do it, but it works for us.