The pain is unimagineable..undescribable..and I don't know what to do..I know he's not ready to wean and neither am I..but this pain is unbearable..
I thought for a a day or two it may be thrush..but when I went to my Ob/Gyn she said no thrush..it was just tenderness from the pregnancy..and there would be nothing I could do but wean..
I want to at least night wean him but have no idea how to start..he cries for hours and hours at a time if I don';t nurse..at night he wants to nurse every 2 hours and I just can't take it anymore..
this pain has gone on for 4 months now..and theres no signs of the tenderness going away..and have a feeling will last through out the whole pregnancy..I don't think I can go 4-5 more months like this..
I refuse to wean but if theres no other option what do I do? all I can do for now is breathe! and cry through each nursing session..
Is it still worth nursing my 20 month old through all this pain..or is it time to wean like the rest of the world is telling me to? will I be pushing my baby aside for the new family member? I just want what's best for my son! Please HELP!!
Mama I am so sorry you are in such pain. I am just 6.5 weeks and feeling the pain from nursing but do not want to wean. I don't have a whole lot of advice to offer, but I did just start a nursing and pregnant support thread on the pregnancy board. Perhaps you could post these concerns on that thread too, and see if some of the other mamas who are going through it too have some advice. Here is the link to the thread There has been talk about night weaning and pain. Please join us, and I hope it gets better soon. You may be having more pain now because your milk may be drying up a bit. I have heard that it can happen around the fourth and fifth month. Your ds might be latching on differently or trying to get more out of you.
Brandi
Mrstattedup
I just wanted to send you a hug.((((((()))))))) I went through the same thing with my ds when I was pg with dd. All I can say is do what you can. Don't beat yourself up for what you're feeling. Someone told me once at a LLL meeting that some people have theorized that the pain is nature's way of trying to discourage tandem nursing. I guess, historically, nursing two at once wasn't a good idea. Today though, with good maternal nutrition there isn't the same risk as there might have been then. Maybe asking him to make sure he "opens really wide " before latching on (similar to learning to latch a newborn!) would help a little. I know the pain is awful, it seems to affect each woman differently; I never met anyone who described their pain like mine. My ds did self-wean when he was 22 months and I was about 6 months pg.(my kids are 1 year and 6 weeks apart) and at the end he was only asking to nurse every couple of days. I feel like he was probably ready but I still regret that it was earlier than I had planned. Incidently, he never asked to nurse again, even after his sister was born. He loved (and still does sometimes) to nurse his baby dolls and teddy bears though and never appears to resent dd for nursing. Good luck, I hope the pain gets easier.
Thnx for the replies..I greatly appreciate it!
Every time I'm about to latch ds...I make sure I tell him to "open his mouth wide"..you're right just like when a newborn is learning to latch-on..and he does..and it does seem like he's trying harder to get more out of me..he tends to push with his hands and pull his head away with my breast in his mouth...the pain is to intense..that I just cry..not knowing what to do..I get frustrated and angry not only at myself but sometimes at him too..and I hate myself for that sometimes..it's not at all his fault! am I actually hurting him more than I am doing extended nursing? I always tell myself that its not his fault..and its not..I am the grown up here..and it does calm me down..and I breathe..
but I am at a point in my life where I really don't know what to do..I do look forward to tandem nursing even though some people seem to think its something out of this world and I'm crazy for wanting to nurse a toddler and a baby. All I can do is "Breathe"..because I Love My Son!..but what else can I do?..more than anything I get no sleep..due to pregnancy and ds nursing every 2 hours at night!..should I consider nightweaning or weaning period?..I know he's not ready and neither am I!!
Your ds sounds just like my dd, with using the hands and pulling out on the nipple. It sounds to me like he is trying to get more. Follow your heart, no one can tell you what is best for you and your child. You definately sound like you want to continue to nurse. Try not to focus on the feeling guilty and don't be so hard on yourself! You sound like a wonderful mama who cares dearly for her child and wants what is best for him. Maybe you could try nightweaning for a while and see how it goes. Please join us on our support thread, there are many mamas feeling just like you. Also, if you have not heard of it before, this is supposed to be a great book, I just ordered it myself: Adventures in Tandem Nursing: Breastfeeding through pregnancy and beyond. I can't remember the author, but you could type in the title at Powells.com or Amazon.com.
Brandi
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