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emamum's Avatar emamum 11:23 AM 05-03-2010
if it was donted by a man?

a mans posted on a breastfeeding forum that he has a condition that causes him to lactate and he can pump 1300ml per day which he is now donating to a milk bank (obviously this on the internet so amy or may not be true...

made me wonder if you would be happy having your dc take milk from a man??

KatWrangler's Avatar KatWrangler 12:09 PM 05-03-2010
No.
EricaE's Avatar EricaE 12:21 PM 05-03-2010
No
Pinoikoi's Avatar Pinoikoi 12:33 PM 05-03-2010
If he is donating to a milk bank, then it is going through their sterilization process.. so yeah, if I was using a milk bank product, I would accept it...

If I were doing a private milk share deal, then no. It kind of feels phony/scamish to me and there are people out there that would intend harm to a baby, and even if his heart is in the right place to help feed an infant, I would always feel a bit nervous that maybe there was more to the story than I was getting, kwim?
~Charlie's~Angel~'s Avatar ~Charlie's~Angel~ 12:45 PM 05-03-2010
Did you do research to confirm that such a condition exists? Cuz thats what im about to do.

OK, its possible.
Kristine233's Avatar Kristine233 01:11 PM 05-03-2010
From a milk bank? I don't care who the milk is from.
Privately arranged, no.
Sharlla's Avatar Sharlla 01:21 PM 05-03-2010
I personally would only feel comfortable taking donated BM from someone that I know personally and knowing that they had a clean bill of health.
Marsupialmom's Avatar Marsupialmom 01:29 PM 05-03-2010
Yes men can produce milk. Would I from a milk bank, yes. From private no, but then again I would not get any breastmilk from craigslist.

I would take private notions from people I knew but not a stranger on craigslist. Women can be just as harmful, deceptive, et for a buck.
CorasMama's Avatar CorasMama 01:41 PM 05-03-2010
I don't necessarily buy that a milk bank is taking it.
Drummer's Wife's Avatar Drummer's Wife 02:06 PM 05-03-2010
I'm gonna go with no.
MeepyCat's Avatar MeepyCat 02:21 PM 05-03-2010
I think the guy is lying. This stuff just doesn't add up.

The milk bank here won't take your milk if your more than a year post-partum. I can't imagine them taking it from someone who was never pregnant at all.

A quick look at the wikipedia page on male lactation indicates that it's often related to xenoestrogens. Or anti-psychotic medication. No milk bank is going to touch that stuff.

I feel quite confidant that he's lying, and that's before we get to the detail about his killer supply.

I think he's a fetishist getting a thrill, and I don't think anything he's said is true.

I would take privately donated milk from an FTM transsexual, or from another woman, but not from this guy.
lillian's Avatar lillian 06:59 PM 05-03-2010
no and no.

i am not even sure if there was a second question but the answer would be no anyway.
MittensKittens's Avatar MittensKittens 07:08 PM 05-03-2010

Vermillion's Avatar Vermillion 07:41 PM 05-03-2010
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Originally Posted by MeepyCat View Post

A quick look at the wikipedia page on male lactation indicates that it's often related to xenoestrogens. Or anti-psychotic medication. No milk bank is going to touch that stuff.
Another reason a man might have milk is from high prolactin levels caused by a pituitary tumor. Men are more likely than women to have large tumors that cause some pretty icky side effects (headaches and possibly going blind!) and pumping could raise levels/increase tumor size. That would be, uh, not too bright!

This condition is fresh on my mind 'cause I'm dealing with it right now!

If it's a medical condition I can't imagine a guy wanting to make it worse for any reason, and if not medical, he's on steroids or something!

So... no. I wouldn't touch it!
mama2toomany's Avatar mama2toomany 07:48 PM 05-03-2010
Nope.

But you made me remember that I need to find someone to donate to after the twins are born.
annettemarie's Avatar annettemarie 07:51 PM 05-03-2010
Moving to Breastfeeding.
annettemarie's Avatar annettemarie 07:52 PM 05-03-2010
Also, no, I wouldn't.
UberMama's Avatar UberMama 07:54 PM 05-03-2010
As big of a supporter as I am of donating milk (to banks or privately and if privately, only when proof is available that the one donating is clean), I'd have to say no. I wish I could pinpoint why but even with this being possible, something in me is screaming NO.
fruitfulmomma's Avatar fruitfulmomma 07:58 PM 05-03-2010
No, for all the reasons stated above. And I would be absolutely furious if I found out that a milk bank was giving it to me without my knowledge.
beckyand3littlemonsters's Avatar beckyand3littlemonsters 07:59 PM 05-03-2010
no
earthmama369's Avatar earthmama369 08:05 PM 05-03-2010
The most common cause of a man lactating is the use of very strong antipsychotic medications, which definitely show up in the milk, so no, I wouldn't use that milk. To be honest though, seeing that on the internet really sounds more like a troll than anything else.
anj_rn's Avatar anj_rn 11:54 PM 05-03-2010
No.

Why would a man who was lactating want to pump, that is kinda creepy. Also, according to the milk bank rule in texas, you must have given birth w/in the last year to donate. I had to stop donating w/ DS once we were past the 1 yr mark.
boobs4milk's Avatar boobs4milk 11:44 AM 05-04-2010
i *think* the underlying no's are from the ewww factor. honestly, i wish my dh could lactate so that i could catch a break i'd have no issue taking the milk from a PERSON i knew or from a reputable milk bank.
CorasMama's Avatar CorasMama 02:08 PM 05-04-2010
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i *think* the underlying no's are from the ewww factor. honestly, i wish my dh could lactate so that i could catch a break i'd have no issue taking the milk from a PERSON i knew or from a reputable milk bank.
No, they're because of the reasons a man would lactate. And the fact that this guy is lying, no milk bank is taking his donations.
KatWrangler's Avatar KatWrangler 02:16 PM 05-04-2010
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No, they're because of the reasons a man would lactate. And the fact that this guy is lying, no milk bank is taking his donations.
Agreed.
*bejeweled*'s Avatar *bejeweled* 02:39 PM 05-04-2010
H___ no. That is disgusting.
Lucy Alden's Avatar Lucy Alden 02:41 PM 05-04-2010
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No, they're because of the reasons a man would lactate. And the fact that this guy is lying, no milk bank is taking his donations.
Yup.

Every part of this story seems wrong. Its like a bad episode of Law and Order.
boobs4milk's Avatar boobs4milk 02:13 AM 05-05-2010
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No, they're because of the reasons a man would lactate. And the fact that this guy is lying, no milk bank is taking his donations.
so, let's forget for a moment that the other parts of the story were told. let's pretend the op said:

"would you feed your baby breastmilk donated by a man?"

it's okay to have the eww factor. i know i did when i first found out that men CAN lactate. hell, when i first saw my mom bf my little sister ( i was 9 at the time) i thought ewww. but, i realize now that we get our milk in the fridge from cow boobs. we just don't nurse on them so, i'm sorta over the eww thing lol!
CorasMama's Avatar CorasMama 09:36 AM 05-05-2010
As I said, the main reason (the first of my two that you quoted) is the health-related reasons that a man would lactate.
GoBecGo's Avatar GoBecGo 09:44 AM 05-05-2010
No. If i was using a milk bank and he'd passed their screenings (and therefore might be a FTM who happened to have had a baby in the last year but would still have a right to call themselves male - either i trust the bank or i don't) i would accept it. But i'd never take it from an individual. Not no how, not no way.

I'm positive this guy is a troll anyway - over a litre a day? Come on now!
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