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if it was donted by a man?

a mans posted on a breastfeeding forum that he has a condition that causes him to lactate and he can pump 1300ml per day which he is now donating to a milk bank (obviously this on the internet so amy or may not be true...

made me wonder if you would be happy having your dc take milk from a man??

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If he is donating to a milk bank, then it is going through their sterilization process.. so yeah, if I was using a milk bank product, I would accept it...

If I were doing a private milk share deal, then no. It kind of feels phony/scamish to me and there are people out there that would intend harm to a baby, and even if his heart is in the right place to help feed an infant, I would always feel a bit nervous that maybe there was more to the story than I was getting, kwim?
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Did you do research to confirm that such a condition exists? Cuz thats what im about to do.

OK, its possible.
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From a milk bank? I don't care who the milk is from.
Privately arranged, no.

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I personally would only feel comfortable taking donated BM from someone that I know personally and knowing that they had a clean bill of health.

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Yes men can produce milk. Would I from a milk bank, yes. From private no, but then again I would not get any breastmilk from craigslist.

I would take private notions from people I knew but not a stranger on craigslist. Women can be just as harmful, deceptive, et for a buck.
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I don't necessarily buy that a milk bank is taking it.

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I'm gonna go with no.

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I think the guy is lying. This stuff just doesn't add up.

The milk bank here won't take your milk if your more than a year post-partum. I can't imagine them taking it from someone who was never pregnant at all.

A quick look at the wikipedia page on male lactation indicates that it's often related to xenoestrogens. Or anti-psychotic medication. No milk bank is going to touch that stuff.

I feel quite confidant that he's lying, and that's before we get to the detail about his killer supply.

I think he's a fetishist getting a thrill, and I don't think anything he's said is true.

I would take privately donated milk from an FTM transsexual, or from another woman, but not from this guy.
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no and no.

i am not even sure if there was a second question but the answer would be no anyway.
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A quick look at the wikipedia page on male lactation indicates that it's often related to xenoestrogens. Or anti-psychotic medication. No milk bank is going to touch that stuff.
Another reason a man might have milk is from high prolactin levels caused by a pituitary tumor. Men are more likely than women to have large tumors that cause some pretty icky side effects (headaches and possibly going blind!) and pumping could raise levels/increase tumor size. That would be, uh, not too bright!

This condition is fresh on my mind 'cause I'm dealing with it right now!

If it's a medical condition I can't imagine a guy wanting to make it worse for any reason, and if not medical, he's on steroids or something!

So... no. I wouldn't touch it!

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Nope.

But you made me remember that I need to find someone to donate to after the twins are born.

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Also, no, I wouldn't.

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As big of a supporter as I am of donating milk (to banks or privately and if privately, only when proof is available that the one donating is clean), I'd have to say no. I wish I could pinpoint why but even with this being possible, something in me is screaming NO.
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No, for all the reasons stated above. And I would be absolutely furious if I found out that a milk bank was giving it to me without my knowledge.
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The most common cause of a man lactating is the use of very strong antipsychotic medications, which definitely show up in the milk, so no, I wouldn't use that milk. To be honest though, seeing that on the internet really sounds more like a troll than anything else.
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No.

Why would a man who was lactating want to pump, that is kinda creepy. Also, according to the milk bank rule in texas, you must have given birth w/in the last year to donate. I had to stop donating w/ DS once we were past the 1 yr mark.

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i *think* the underlying no's are from the ewww factor. honestly, i wish my dh could lactate so that i could catch a break i'd have no issue taking the milk from a PERSON i knew or from a reputable milk bank.

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i *think* the underlying no's are from the ewww factor. honestly, i wish my dh could lactate so that i could catch a break i'd have no issue taking the milk from a PERSON i knew or from a reputable milk bank.
No, they're because of the reasons a man would lactate. And the fact that this guy is lying, no milk bank is taking his donations.

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No, they're because of the reasons a man would lactate. And the fact that this guy is lying, no milk bank is taking his donations.
Agreed.

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H___ no. That is disgusting.

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No, they're because of the reasons a man would lactate. And the fact that this guy is lying, no milk bank is taking his donations.
Yup.

Every part of this story seems wrong. Its like a bad episode of Law and Order.

lather, rinse, repeat
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No, they're because of the reasons a man would lactate. And the fact that this guy is lying, no milk bank is taking his donations.
so, let's forget for a moment that the other parts of the story were told. let's pretend the op said:

"would you feed your baby breastmilk donated by a man?"

it's okay to have the eww factor. i know i did when i first found out that men CAN lactate. hell, when i first saw my mom bf my little sister ( i was 9 at the time) i thought ewww. but, i realize now that we get our milk in the fridge from cow boobs. we just don't nurse on them so, i'm sorta over the eww thing lol!

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As I said, the main reason (the first of my two that you quoted) is the health-related reasons that a man would lactate.

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No. If i was using a milk bank and he'd passed their screenings (and therefore might be a FTM who happened to have had a baby in the last year but would still have a right to call themselves male - either i trust the bank or i don't) i would accept it. But i'd never take it from an individual. Not no how, not no way.

I'm positive this guy is a troll anyway - over a litre a day? Come on now!
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