I'll go first (of course!):
Baby # 1 : I first left him @ 3 months and first introduced solids @ 5 months
Baby #2: I first left her @ 8 months & introduced solids @ almost a year
Baby #3: Still haven't left him (he's 6 1/2 months old) and don't plan on doing it for quite a while & I plan on waiting til closer to a year for solids.
#2 left him around 24 months and solids at 8 months(he showed way more interest in food then #1)
#3 started around 20 months so i could go to the gym for an hour a day and introduced solids around 9 months.
I have always been super attached to my kids and i am stay at home with a very busy dad who isn't around much.With solids i let the kids tell me when they are ready.
We started solids a few days before she turned 6 months.
When he was 6 months old, I left him with my mom while dh and I went out for a quick 1 hour dinner. I was 5 minutes from our house. Previous to that I had left him with dh for 20 minutes or so while I ran to the store or something like that.
I let him try rice cereal mixed with breastmilk when he was about 6 months old. At first he liked it, and then refused all solids. He didn't want any again until 8.5 months (also when his first tooth appeared), and they weren't a real part of his diet until 1yo.
First time we left her was at 11 months for half hour then at 18 months for the length of a theatre movie. We are just now starting to take longer breaks away such as 4 or 5 hours. She is now 28 months.
First time I fed her solids was at 10 months, just a sample of yam, she didn't really start eating aggressively until she was about 18 months....Booby milk til then and still.
DD#2 I left for the first time at 5 months, solids at 6 months.
DS#1(or 3?) I left for the first time at 6 months, solids at 6 months.
DS#2 I still haven't left. He's about to turn 9 months old. I am going back to school at the end of this month and I am able to take all but my biology class online so 2 days a week I have to be away from home. I'm nervous. I've just started giving him bits of solids to get him used to something other than mommy milk so maybe he'll be ok while I'm gone.
He's 22 months now and only been left a handful of times with either my Mom or dh.
Solids at 6 months because of dh's insistence, but ds wasn't ready and it was more like 8 months before he really wanted food, that was also when he got his first tooth.
Interesting to read this thread.
Thanks so much for posting ladies. I hope more will continue to do the same. I find it interesting to read too. I'd say our average of the "when"s is at least triple that of the average American mother.
Do you all find a certain pressure from friends, family and so called "experts" to leave the baby at a really young age? I know that even with baby #2 who I first left at eight months, I was just down the street for a couple of hours but it still didn't feel "right" to me and I didn't leave her again for a long time. It was my birthday and everyone was telling me that me and my husband "needed" to go out and have fun. You can't really have fun when you're worried about the baby anyway though!:
With my current baby (who is 6 1/2 months) I don't feel ready to leave him at all yet and I'm not going to let anyone pressure me this time. I'll leave him when we're both good and ready!
I first left ds alone w/ dh when he was 10 days old, for 3 hrs while I had a root canal . Then not again until he was 3 mos old and I went back to work very part time. He would stay w/ dh for 2-4 hours once a week.
I started leaving him w/ my mom for 3-6 hours once a week when he was about 15 mos. Oh, I left him w/ my dad for 1 1/2 hours once when he was about 10 mos.... I still hate leaving him w/ anyone other than dh.
We did solids at around 6 or 7 mos
My mom said to me once when he was about 6 months, 'You need to get out once in a while.' At that point I still had no desire to leave him for any length of time at all. It's only in the last month that I can finally say I do feel that I need to get away now and then without him. He's 15 months old.
I still wouldn't leave him overnight, he nurses too much at night to go for that!
I offered him a taste of solids at 5 months and he wasn't impressed, after a few weeks he'd had enough and didn't gain real interest in solids again til he was able to pick up food on his own at around 10 months.
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My first had her first taste of solids at 4 months but didn't "really" eat them until closer to 8 or 9 months.
My second grabbed a banana out of my hand at 5 1/2 months and occasionally nibbled on solids until 9 or 10 months when it became a regular thing.
VelcroMama, I'm glad this thread is making you feel better. I feel the same as you with my baby - If I don't have to leave him and I don't want to leave him, why should I? So, (with him being my third and last) I'm not going to until I'm good and ready. Besides, having a five year old and a three year old I know a time comes when you actually REALLY WANT to get away from them! So, I figure let's just let a good thing last while it can.
Sadly my first spent her second week of life with her paternal grandmother because I was too sick to care for her. I don't remember how old my second child was when I first left her. My two sons were almost never left with anyone for very long when they were infants because the first time I tried with my older son he screamed the whole time I was gone because he was hungry and wouldn't take a bottle of BM, and with my younger son he never had a bottle.
I first introduced solid foods with DD #1 at 6 months, she hated it, and started up again at 9 months when she showed interest. With my second DD I started at about 7 months and she was much mroe enthusiastic about it so I just let it go with the flow...
He first had solid food at 5.5 months, and that was with me doing everything I could to hold him off. Finally I gave him a turkey bone which I dipped in my chicken soup so it would have a flavor. He loved it .
DD was over 12 months before she was separated from me. DH took her out to the grocery store for an hour. Since then, she has stayed w/ DH for a couple of hours on occasion and w/ my mom for a couple of hours. She's never freaked out w/ those separations. I strongly feel that was b/c we waited to leave her and only left her w/ ppl she saw all the time and was completely comfortable w/. She does still rush right into my arms when I return, though.
We introduced solids at 6 months. DH was just too excited to try it. She got a taste of banana and seemed interested. After that thouhgh, until about 11 months, she refused more than a tiny taste of solid foods. After 11 months, she rapidly went from eating some "baby food" to finger foods and self feeding. Now she'll eating anything that isn't nailed down and can't run away. :LOL
#1 & #2 started back at the health club at 6 weeks, brought them with and checked them in the nursery. Went back to work at 3 1/2 months
b) first introduced solid foods.
4 months gave a taste and then waited until closer to 5 1/2 months with #1
#2 waited 6 months and she really didn't eat anything until 10 1/2 months
I started solids with all them at 5 months. With my first it was just pressure and with the other two they both went on medication at that time and a little aple sauce just seemed like the easiest mode of transprtaion. Lily was very ready for solids (she would help herself to whatever she could get her hands on ) and Ava seemed pretty ready too. They were all showing signs of readiness.
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I first left DS when he was 6 weeks old, but not by choice. I had to have emergency surgery and really wanted DH to be there with me so DS stayed with my parents for the night.
DS started solids at 4 mos. I let him decided when he wanted to start solids and at 4 mos he was around 18 lbs and breastmilk didn't seem to be filling him up anymore. He was really showing an interest in food so I let him try it out and voila! He's been a little piggy ever since!
As for solids, we tried at 6 months, but not much. We really started at a year.
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I left DS when he was about 5-6 days old to go to the movies with my DH - I HATED it the entire time, but DS actually slept the whole time we were gone... He was introduced to solids at around 3.5 months - but not again until about 5 months when her really liked it and ate it ever since then.
DD was a little bit of a different story - I left her at around 3-4 months old with DH to go out with friends...He is a very hands on and loving father and did great with her - although she REALLY wanted to nurse and was upset I wasn't there. She was introduced to solids at around 6-7 months but didn't really eat solid food until she was about 11-12 months old....
I feel I am VERY attached to my children - but at the same time I have not issues *at all* with leaving them with their father (my DH) so I can take some time alone. IMO he is just as good as being with me (except for the lack of breasts) so I have never felt uneasy about leaving them with him. I also have no problems leaving them with my IL's who are VERY involved with our family and very much on target with how we parent - aside from my DH and I no ones loves our children more then them.
As much as I love taking my kids places and doing things as a family - I also LOVE and CHERISH my time alone with Dh or my montly Mom's Night Outs.....I see nothing wrong with taking a few hours here and there to focus on just yourself!
|As much as I love taking my kids places and doing things as a family - I also LOVE and CHERISH my time alone with Dh or my montly Mom's Night Outs.....I see nothing wrong with taking a few hours here and there to focus on just yourself|
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|I'm just curious to see how much of a difference there is between mainstream mamas and more natural mamas. I wanted to find out at which age you a)first left your baby (i.e. for a date, dinner, running errands, etc.) and b) first introduced solid foods. This is of course only for my own personal curiosity but I'd really love if you'd all participate.|
b) 4 months. he cut his tooth right at 4 months also, but we mainly introduced them because he was always *so* voracious he was eating constantly.
were those the only questions you could think of?
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