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#1 of 90 Old 07-01-2010, 06:53 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I live in England and am visiting my family in America. I'm surprised to see everyone covering up while nursing. They even sell special cover up cloths! Is it the done thing here? Or maybe these people have distractable babies?

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i cover up when I nurse, but I'm new to NIP and am trying to get comfortable with it. I also live in Texas, where people tend to be more conservative. I think in other parts of the country it would be no big deal at all, but here nursing is not that prolific.

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I never covered up while nursing and also never noticed anyone staring or anything. I guess I just never wanted to bother lugging around a cover with the other million baby things that were in my bag! It just always seemed unnecessary

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Nope. Never.
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at first yeah. Then I realized using those monster covers just attract more attention to what your doing. no one can even tell unless their really looking, but I also am an under the shirt lift rather than an over the shirt, so that I think makes a difference. Unless in a carrier...

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No, never have. I try to have my shirt cover the post-partum belly & rolls on my side, but I've never tried to cover my breast & nurslings.

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I've never used a cover, but I do have nursing shirts. Other than my sister, I've only ever seen mamas NIP with a cover around here, but that could just be because they are more noticeable.

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Not so much to cover up because I think I need to cover what I'm doing but more 'cause I'm self-conscious about my weight so I try to keep my skin covered.

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I'm not longer breastfeeding (my youngest weaned last year), but I never covered up. My two sons would not have had any part of it (and I tried a few times with DS1, because he was a very distractable nurser and preferred to nurse with no one around - but he would just scream and rip it off). DD probably wouldn't have cared, but I never bothered to. I've actually seen very few people nursing covered up.
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I covered with my newborns because I was still getting the hang of things. then I just cover it would make me feel more comfortable (if I'm wearing a not-very-bfing-friendly shirt for example). That's about 10% of the time I suppose.

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no, never. no one even knows im nursing most the time and ill walk around and nurse while shopping
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when ds1 was a newborn (i was just 17yo myself) i covered up some, but after the first month or so i stopped covering. never covered with ds2.

i did make sure to keep my flabby gut covered, though, but the boob could hang out all it wanted for all i cared.

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I tried once when DD was very young, but it was such a PITA that I never did again. I needed extra hands to manage baby, boob, clothing and cover. Since the cover was the only optional part of that equation, it got ditched. I've only had one negative comment and I nursed everywhere all over the Southeast. (generally considered a pretty conservative area)

My personal theory is that the moms who NIP w/o covers are so matter of fact about it combines with the fact that almost no one expects to see a woman nursing (gasp) with out a cover (shock and horror) that the average person never sees the uncovered NIP-ing that's taking place right under their noses. Therefore people think covers are necessary, because surly NIP w/o one would cause a stir. They only see covered mamas nursing since a cover is a big sign shouting "NURSING HAPPENING HERE"

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yes, I live in a small city that is conservatie and most ppl have covers, ev en at the mom and baby groups. I am one of the few who do not and I feel like the oddball, I do get stares. In my pervioous town on the opposite coast it was much mroe accepted.

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I do not cover up....well I have with like the tail of my ring sling when I was nursing dd to sleep, but that was so she wasn't distracted and would go to sleep when she was much younger. Honestly most people here do, but I want to show moms that hey you can nurse discreetly without a giant cover thingy, and nursing is not something to be ashamed of!

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It depends.

I do have a cover. I use it if we're somewhere potentially distracting (a mall, a lively party, an outdoors event) because it's otherwise impossible to get DS to stay on task! But I don't normally wear it. Especially if it's hot outside!
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Nope. No way.
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I'm pretty conservative/modest and don't want anyone seeing my breast except my husband (or a lactation consultant lol)

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No, never. And I've never even gotten a look as far as I know.
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I'm pretty conservative/modest and don't want anyone seeing my breast except my husband (or a lactation consultant lol)
I agree - and I DON'T cover. Ever.
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i've covered a few times to get a latch going in extremely crowded places, but after they latched, i just uncovered and pulled my shirt to cover skin. i say, if it makes YOU comfortable, cover or not. i usually don't cover to latch after they are a few weeks old because by then latching isn't an issue and they hate the cover. it's more distraction than just popping them on. oh, and if someone sees my boob, they are too damn close

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never have, never will. i live in the states, fwiw, in new mexico.
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I wear a shirt that covers my belly. I can't stand having my flabby belly exposed.

I don't use a nursing cover. In the early days I needed to see. Now there is no chance DD would cooperate. I tried a couple of times with a blanket when DD hit the distraction phase and she absolutely refused to use it.

DD mostly covers my breast even though it is large. If people catch a glimpse here and there it just isn't the end of the world.

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yes, I live in a small city that is conservatie and most ppl have covers, ev en at the mom and baby groups.
Even people at the LLL cover here. You ladies inspire me though!

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No never, personally I think to cover up - unless the baby actually needs it to concentrate on the job in hand - still gives the impression that breastfeeding isn't normal and breasts are sexual objects, but then we're in europe and breasts aren't 'seen' in the same way as they are in the USA.

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Nope. Even if I wanted to, my breasts are large and require lots of support, especially in the early stages of breastfeeding. I couldn't manipulate the baby, the breast, and a cover.

But, I still wouldn't want to. I want to help normalize breastfeeding.

I have seen 2 women at LLL meetings (separate meetings) cover-up.

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Never.

But - I think covering is often a regional thing, a new-nursing thing and or a religious/conservative thing. Combine that with a consumer-driven culture that's sexualized breasts and you see a lot of covering.

I do have nursing clothing for when I feel the need to be really discreet. I just took my baby to a work outing and while I'm comfortable nursing in front of strangers and my friends, my male co-workers were another matter - that and it was questionable if the baby should have been there. But it was the baby or the breastpump and I thought the baby would be more fun.

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Depends.

I mostly wear nursing tanks. I have a few where covering would be redundant. They literally show NO skin (these, if anyone is interested).

Otherwise it sort of depends on where I am, who I'm with, who is around, and how I feel that day.

But I never completely cover. I usually sort of pull whatever carrier I'm using up over her body, up to maybe her chin. I'm not actually covering her head, or really hiding anything, but I imagine that it makes the people around me feel a bit better.

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I don't have a cover, but depending on what I'm wearing I try to cover up a little with a burp cloth or a blanket, but I only cover up my breast not my baby. He tends to get distracted while NIP, and puts my boob on display constantly. I try to be a little discreet. It's way too hot in Puerto Rico to cover babies, though I have seen moms do so. Nursing is natural. I don't know why people don't make a big deal how so many babies are being feed formula junk and celebrate/promote breastfeeding more(even extended breasfeeding- which makes some people uncomfortable or critical). Babies need to breastfeed often, no matter where they are! It's our right to feed our children the best!


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