Join Date: May 2007
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This is not my first trip to the rodeo. I have 3 other kids whom I bfed for around 2 years each. I have ample supple, some might say too much. I am used to demand feeding and being up all night night after night. I've certainly had bfing challenges, but none of them I felt I couldn't overcome. I have lots of support.
My dd is different. She is my last of 4 and I guess I kind of had this amazing thought of a great nursing relationship that last until--she wanted to stop, unlike my other kids whom I weaned when I was late in the next pregnancy.
First, she has no patience for the let down, which, frankly, usually takes about 30 seconds. So she yanks/pulls off my breast over and over again until the letdown. It hurts and she takes in alot of air. So, I started to hold her head gently against my breast. She struggles/struggles until the letdown and then finally starts eating. I've tried pumping a bit until the letdown--this takes alot longer, several minutes, while she cries and cries while doing so. W/4 other kids, it is not practical either to pump everytime until I let down.
Next she does this rythmic thing were she sucks-pulls-swallows over and over again throughout nursing. This also hurts me. She also pulls over almost every other suck, so if I nurse her on one side, she pulls off 30-50 times. My nipples feel terrible. So, I started gently holding her head there too.
Now she is 8 months old and she pushes herself away from me during this rhythem and she's strong. So, I now have one hand tucked under my arm, the other I'm holding back by my arm and the other holding her head. She doesn't like this. Neither do I.
I decided to stop this wrestling match and let her just pull/tug/hurt me for a few days to see if she'd "get it." That there was going to be no milk if she didn't stay ON and CLOSE to my breast. But that didn't happen. She just sucked in alot of air and my breast hurts so much that I cannot wear my bra.
I really cannot nurse her anywhere else but at home, since this battle ground is even worse in public. I've never had any issues nursing anywhere or anytime, so I am at a loss.
This is not enjoyable. This is not a loving experience, I think, for either of us. I am 100% doing this at my own discomfort and expense thinking that she'll get the nutrition out of it. But at the same time, I am so stressed out when it comes to nursing, that I wonder how much stress she is taking on.
Oh, have I mentioned that she doesn't sleep? No naps during the day and up almost all night, every night?
I've introduced solids, but no bottles...of anything.
Please let me know what I should do.
Married to love of my life! Children 6, 4 1/2, 2 1/2 and 4 months